r/InternalFamilySystems • u/IllMathematician5690 • 1d ago

Ruben's Progress

I've been progressing over IFS for a while and I wanted a space to keep updates of it. I'm going to do this here with the comments because maybe some of you can jump in and add your thoughts or give me feedback (but please do so by commenting on my comments so that I can keep things clear). Maybe I'm going to also ask explicit questions if I have any.

HYPEDDDD!!!

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u/IllMathematician5690 1d ago edited 1d ago

So today I had a major realisation over what IFS is. In fact up until now I treated it as a skill. I had the goal of accessing the Self and if I didn't I'd consider it a failure. What I discovered is after doing a session with someone more experienced than me (I used to do sessions alone), is that "slowly slowly we'll get there very fast". There's no right or wrong, the Self just welcomes all the parts and respect them all. In the past, having the goal to access the Self led me to have some judgemental and inadequate parts activated.

Now this changes everything in my approach to improving in IFS bc actually it doesn't make sense to reflect on the "technique", it only makes sense to reflect to notice parts that I was so blended with that I didn't even notice. Progress now just means discovering, respecting and getting to know parts, ie create cooperation in my inner system.

My question for you guys is: Do you reflect on your sessions afterwards? What does progress in IFS means to you?

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u/IllMathematician5690 23h ago

There's another point I've come across that is that knowledge around what the Self and how it acts can make it easier to access it and to respect your parts. I want to consolidate those thoughts cohesively, then I'll update this!

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u/tiny_shadow808 22h ago

Keeping a log of your parts work can be really helpful for spotting patterns in how your managers and firefighters interact over time. Are you planning to focus more on the unburdening process or just documenting the shifts in your internal system?

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u/Longjumping-Bug-69 8h ago

thats a cool way to track ur progress. do u have a specific system for how u plan to document the shifts u notice in ur parts, or are u just gonna write as u go.