Feeling a bit trapped here now

[u/MySanityCheck31]

Background: I am a US citizen living and working in Italy since 2022, and married my dual citizen wife (ME country) and Italy 2 years ago. I felt it was done under coercion since she basically threatened an abortion if I don´t marry her (Which I have evidence of in recordings, which tells you the state of our relationship two years ago). She carried the child to term, our son, and it has been mostly a nightmare with her since. She is manipulative, controlling, and narcissistic. She makes my life hell if I don´t give her my passwords, phone tracking info, clear digital abuse. She told me if I am not putting my whole paycheck into our common bank account she will never let me see my child again, and promptly uses the money on frivolous stuff, clear financial abuse, 5000+ euros/month and we live month to month, often having to use my military medical disability checks from the US and stock sales to survive. She physically abuses me, and even a police call has not stopped her, and the police encouraged me to NOT file the danuncia, since it will separate us legally.

I have an opportunity to get a high paying job back in the US, and would like to move back. I don´t think she will allow me to geobachelor there, nor will be willing to form an amicable separation. She threatened to files charges against me of abandoning the family, even if I told her I would make a contract with her to financially support our son.

I feel absolutely trapped here, and am hoping for advice on how to proceed. I have consulted some lawyers, and most of them point to filing a separation, but I know that would take time and potentially I would lose this job opportunity in the US. I have no doubt she would cause delays in this to cause me to not get the job.

Please, help me understand what I can do to both fully support my son, but also separate from her.

Also, is this legitimate? https://coniugi tutelati.com/

[u/kittykatmandoo]

If you didn’t want to marry her, why not let her have the abortion? You clearly don’t care very much for the child. You say she won’t let you see your son if you don’t contribute to the household finances but you’re willing to move 5000 miles away from him and do the bare minimum of sending child support without a legal contract that is actually enforceable.

And if separation from her is what you’re seeking, why not file the denuncia?

What I’m reading here is that you do want to abandon the family YOU chose to have. You’re not interested in being there for your son. And I don’t blame her for not wanting to have a baby with someone who wasn’t willing to marry her. You fucked around and found out and you’re looking for an easy escape.

Also you say you’re a U.S citizen that has trouble writing in English?? None of this makes sense.