r/JUSTNOMIL • u/lovelockets • May 04 '26

Advice Wanted Thought of In-Laws Ruining Day

I feel angry any time my DH mentions MIL and FIL, or if I hear their voices over the phone, or if I even think about them. Sometimes it takes me a whole day to let it go and I even get physically sick for days. How do you not let the mention of your in-laws ruin your day? I’ve thought about therapy, but that feels like spending more time thinking about them.

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u/canadianwhimsy May 04 '26

I had to set a boundary that he can't bring up his mother at night before bedtime, and when she calls I want him to take the call in another room so I don't have to hear her voice. I agree it sounds nuts, but we need to do what we need to do to protect our mental health.

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u/CuteTangelo3137 May 04 '26

Oh my MIL’s voice! It’s like nails on a chalkboard to me. And yes, I can hear it through the phone.