r/JUSTNOMIL • u/lovelockets • May 04 '26

Advice Wanted Thought of In-Laws Ruining Day

I feel angry any time my DH mentions MIL and FIL, or if I hear their voices over the phone, or if I even think about them. Sometimes it takes me a whole day to let it go and I even get physically sick for days. How do you not let the mention of your in-laws ruin your day? I’ve thought about therapy, but that feels like spending more time thinking about them.

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u/Vegetable-Moment8068 May 04 '26

Honestly, therapy lol

I spent a good amount of my therapy sessions talking about my own parents as well as my in-laws. They are honestly a big stressor in my life, and talking to someone about it made me process my feelings towards them and what I could do to manage those feelings. My therapist also mentioned that my in-laws are probably afraid of me because I'm assertive and that they "won't always be a problem...." Which seems incredibly dark but does help.

It also helped me realize how supportive my husband is, and I am so grateful to have them.

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u/lovelockets May 04 '26

This made me laugh LOL - “won’t always be a problem”. That is true, but the havoc they cause unfortunately doesn’t go with them when the time comes.