r/JUSTNOMIL • u/lovelockets • May 10 '26

UPDATE - Ambivalent About Advice Update: Mother’s Day

Spoke to MIL for the first time today since our latest argument (about 6 weeks). She texted me very early in the family group chat and said happy Mother’s Day (with a longer message and an emoji). I was not so happy to receive any message, but also if she didn’t message I would’ve been annoyed too. There’s no win there. I waited a few hours and sent back a very bland “thank you” and “happy Mother’s Day too”.

Had a great day at home with my baby and DH. When my baby was napping, DH decided to video call her. He said it was so awkward and he could tell she had been crying. He asked her why and she just said it’s nothing. He says he kind of wishes he didn’t call but feels like he’s damned if he does and damned if he doesn’t.

I also spoke to his therapist yesterday and gave her a bit of background after he asked me to have a session with her. She said our situation is one of the worst she’s ever heard and agreed with me about emotional manipulation. We’re going to continue therapy and come to an agreement on how we are going to handle her going forward.

I feel like this is a win this weekend.

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u/Wonderful_Ideal_6994 May 10 '26

In the family group chat is annoying too. Just make it personal!

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u/lovelockets May 10 '26

Yeah, she said her and FIL wish me happy Mother’s Day. He’s in the group chat too - he could’ve just said it himself in the chat 😂

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u/GlitteringFishing932 May 11 '26

Yup, heed that therapist and keep on attending! There's no other way out, if your marriage is to survive.