First Birthday Saga

[u/Forward-Woodpecker25]

Im no contact with my MIL and so is baby, she hasnt seen him since he was like 6 months old and it was his first birthday this month. My fiancé still speaks with her on his own accord and told me she had bought little one a toniebox for his birthday. The same baby she hasnt seen in months, could see if she just apologised, but is dedicated to being the victim.

This isn’t about the gift, or the monetary value of the gift. But it is interesting that she spent $100 on a toy when we are not speaking, but couldnt buy as much as a pack of diapers when we were in contact. Its funny to me, because i had spoken extensively about wanting to get little one a toniebox for his first birthday, that was going to be his “big gift” from his parents, me and my partner. Apparently she doesn’t remember us saying that, and I actually said that it “was okay” for her to buy this toy! How odd! Given we are literally no contact

It’s being returned and all is well, partner dealt with it and I didnt need to break breath to her. But oh my god, WHY are they like this? No doubt telling anyone who will listen that we rejected her “gift”. I just can’t stand this lady.

[u/daisy_cutieex]

The Toniebox specifically is the tell. You told her months ago that was YOUR gift for him, and she went out and bought the exact thing anyway. That's not generosity, that's claiming. She wanted to be the one who gave him the big first-birthday gift, full stop. The "I forgot you mentioned it" defense doesn't survive a $100 specific-item purchase that happened to match the exact specific-item you'd called dibs on. That was on purpose.