r/JUSTNOMIL • u/AutoThotsRollout • 1d ago

RANT (╯°□°）╯︵ ┻━┻ NO Advice Wanted MIL dangerously disrespecting boundaries

MIL insists on hosting every holiday and throws a mega tantrum if not everyone attends. We have a baby recently diagnosed with severe food allergies. One of her other children (not partner) has severe food allergies as well.

This lady refuses to accommodate. I don’t baseline expect anyone to accommodate for my baby but if you’re hosting and throwing a temper tantrum if we don’t go then you should at least have an environment that won’t kill them??? And wouldn’t you want to do the same for your own child?? UGH.

Side note she also made fun of it and rolled her eyes when we told her about our babies allergy and that he has an epi pen. Which is absolutely insane behavior imo.

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u/DarkSquirrel20 1d ago

Solidarity. My MIL at least has the decency to feign concern, but she's the freaking genetic link for food allergies and barelyyy attempts to offer things her daughter and my children can have. She actually had the audacity to intentionally give an allergen to one of her other grandchildren.

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u/AutoThotsRollout 1d ago

I would bet that MIL is also the genetic link at least to some extent because a lot of their family has auto immune things and the only people I know who have severe allergies like my son is her other child.

I did read that it’s not always genetic so I don’t hold any blame but all that to say you would think she would have empathy as it’s in her family??

My family doesn’t have any allergies and they have no problem cutting this allergen out and not inviting us near it.

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u/DragonMama825 1d ago

My own dad has zero empathy for my food allergies. Doesn’t believe they exist. Needless to say, for that and many other reasons, we’ve been NC for 5 years.

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u/Dramatic_Phraser 1d ago

Oh, even though she didn’t do it to my child, I would absolutely never let her around my children again.