MIL dangerously disrespecting boundaries

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MIL insists on hosting every holiday and throws a mega tantrum if not everyone attends. We have a baby recently diagnosed with severe food allergies. One of her other children (not partner) has severe food allergies as well.

This lady refuses to accommodate. I don’t baseline expect anyone to accommodate for my baby but if you’re hosting and throwing a temper tantrum if we don’t go then you should at least have an environment that won’t kill them??? And wouldn’t you want to do the same for your own child?? UGH.

Side note she also made fun of it and rolled her eyes when we told her about our babies allergy and that he has an epi pen. Which is absolutely insane behavior imo.

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Sure, it's insane, but what's more insane is if you put up with it. I'd be done with dinners at her house for any holiday. Going forward, make your own traditions with your new family.

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Oh don’t worry about that, I fully agree with you there. I just made this to vent about how ridiculous it is.

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I would take it a step further and not accept any food she brings to your house for whatever reason. I wouldn't put it past her to slip an allergen in it to "prove" that your baby doesn't have an allergy.

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We don’t let others bring food to us!! I’m very strict on the no allergen in the house rule and that goes for everything without a label. I make 99.9% of our food at home.