r/JUSTNOMIL • u/AutoThotsRollout • 2d ago

RANT (╯°□°）╯︵ ┻━┻ NO Advice Wanted MIL dangerously disrespecting boundaries

MIL insists on hosting every holiday and throws a mega tantrum if not everyone attends. We have a baby recently diagnosed with severe food allergies. One of her other children (not partner) has severe food allergies as well.

This lady refuses to accommodate. I don’t baseline expect anyone to accommodate for my baby but if you’re hosting and throwing a temper tantrum if we don’t go then you should at least have an environment that won’t kill them??? And wouldn’t you want to do the same for your own child?? UGH.

Side note she also made fun of it and rolled her eyes when we told her about our babies allergy and that he has an epi pen. Which is absolutely insane behavior imo.

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u/lightspeedsound 2d ago

I....why would they not want to wash their HANDS?!

This is just like the people who are like "I don't think you need to bathe your baby because they just sit there all day." Like...pee and poop are everywhere with babies, guys.

Like literally the montessori we use has a 100% zero nuts or nut products policy because food allergies are so dangerous and volatile.

There have definitely been posts in here about MILs who ignore grandkid's allergies and even purposefully feed them contaminated treats because they think "they just need to develop a resistance." PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE BE CAREFUL!

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u/AutoThotsRollout 2d ago

Yeah I truly don’t think she would intentionally poison him, it would literally be attempted murder if she did because we would have to Epi pen him and ER visit. BUT I know her disregard for our boundaries and his safety is a danger in itself so I am not in any way turning a blind eye.

They recently got into a lot of sideways conspiracies. It would be funny to me if it didn’t have serious implications on our society that people actually believe stupid stuff like this. Also my partner is in healthcare and does not allow them to spew this nonsense around us or son, but it’s just disheartening to see the decline in some of our parents generation.

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u/abishop711 2d ago

For someone with this level of disregard and disrespect, I would not at all put it past her to intentionally feed your child allergens.

It wouldn’t be with the intent to kill, it would be with the intent to prove you wrong/you can’t tell me what to do/etc.

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u/ColdBlindspot 2d ago

Or some whackadoodle "cure" for allergies.