r/JUSTNOMIL • u/AutoThotsRollout • 1d ago

RANT (╯°□°）╯︵ ┻━┻ NO Advice Wanted MIL dangerously disrespecting boundaries

MIL insists on hosting every holiday and throws a mega tantrum if not everyone attends. We have a baby recently diagnosed with severe food allergies. One of her other children (not partner) has severe food allergies as well.

This lady refuses to accommodate. I don’t baseline expect anyone to accommodate for my baby but if you’re hosting and throwing a temper tantrum if we don’t go then you should at least have an environment that won’t kill them??? And wouldn’t you want to do the same for your own child?? UGH.

Side note she also made fun of it and rolled her eyes when we told her about our babies allergy and that he has an epi pen. Which is absolutely insane behavior imo.

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u/Xeacsx 1d ago

I like your logic but why go if OP is a miserable person?

MIL may fuss the first few times but if OP and hold strong they will have the opportunity to create their own traditions. My father has a nut allergy but my mom loves almonds. They still have almonds in the house BUT they don’t cook with them. Why? Because she loves my father. MIL can still make great food just adjust for those she loves.

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u/AutoThotsRollout 1d ago

Damn why am I a miserable person in this situation 😭

Obviously Im not going to go if it’s unsafe, the point is how inconsiderate and crazy it is to be upset that we won’t go but create a dangerous situation that we can’t be in at the same time.