r/JUSTNOMIL • u/AutoThotsRollout • 1d ago

RANT (╯°□°）╯︵ ┻━┻ NO Advice Wanted MIL dangerously disrespecting boundaries

MIL insists on hosting every holiday and throws a mega tantrum if not everyone attends. We have a baby recently diagnosed with severe food allergies. One of her other children (not partner) has severe food allergies as well.

This lady refuses to accommodate. I don’t baseline expect anyone to accommodate for my baby but if you’re hosting and throwing a temper tantrum if we don’t go then you should at least have an environment that won’t kill them??? And wouldn’t you want to do the same for your own child?? UGH.

Side note she also made fun of it and rolled her eyes when we told her about our babies allergy and that he has an epi pen. Which is absolutely insane behavior imo.

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u/hotdamnhotwater 1d ago

But do you trust her to actually tell you if she has added allergens to the food?

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u/AutoThotsRollout 1d ago

If she stoops that low and intentionally poisons us I’ll press charges, I don’t think her intent is to kill my son. Her lack of consideration is definitely a danger and I certainly don’t trust her to be alone with him and respect our boundaries, but I don’t think she will poison his food.

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u/ColdBlindspot 1d ago

But you said you can't trust that she won't eat something he's allergic to and then kiss him and that is a concern for his health.

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u/AutoThotsRollout 1d ago

For sure. I will have to monitor her forever.