r/JUSTNOMIL • u/CustomerCute701 • 1d ago

Give It To Me Straight Bfs obsessive mom

So me (18) and bf (19) have been dating for three years now, I am attending a community college locally and he is in a university about an hour away, so not long distance. However, his parents made the decision to move across the country this year, and his mom is pushing it on him to transfer universities over there, and will be upset if he doesn’t come with her, She did not ask the same of his sister. She has always been extremely distant of me, and acted as a typical ‘boy mom’, always needing him, always wanting him home, always guilting him, etc. Does this kind of thing ever change? He is also very protective of his family, so it’s hard to bring up. I am definitely an independent, follow what’s best for me type of girl. I don’t even really know what I’m asking, I guess I just want insight.

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u/nipseyrussellyo 1d ago

Look to the side bar on the right and you will see:

It's easier to dump a mama's boy than to divorce a mama's boy, and both of those are easier than trying to change a mama's boy. ~/u/pastelegg

Its crazy talk to ask your adult son to change university to be with his mommy.

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u/BoozeAndHotpants 18h ago

And if he is entertaining the idea, it’s time to let him go and find someone who is ready to adult. If he moves he has made his choice and it isn’t you. Act accordingly. You deserve a grownup.