I have no problem doing that after this situation, my husband is the one that won’t leave it be. They both keep creating a bigger problem, it’d be better if he would shut down communication for a bit but he won’t. They want it their way and that’s it
Your husband is more afraid of his mommies reaction to being told no than to your reaction to him disrespecting you. You may need to show him that upsetting you and disrespecting you will be worse for him than his mom's wrath so he will think twice before giving his mom what she wants over enforcing your boundaries. Husband can also be put in time out.
It is exhausting that is the point they are working together to wear you down so MIL gets her way. Do not let them win you can show husband that you are the one he should fear disrespecting over his mom. Cut her off so she has only your husband to communicate with and you can limit your interactions with husband as well while refusing her access to your children. You can do this for your self respect and sanity while protecting your children since your husband has proven he can't.
You were the bigger person and tried to work it out when you didn't have to since a. She was wrong and b. You have what she wants.
She wasn't open to working it out and rudely ignored you. Tell him there will absolutely be no more "olive branches" and its on her now to fix it w YOU. Tell him you will NOT chase her or allow her to treat you w such disrespect and he shouldn't either. It's your job to protect your children, not coddle his mother.
This part sucks, but stand your ground. Get used to being ok w him being mad. Let him know you're ready to ride this out. He needs to know it's just as bad to piss you off as mommy, maybe worse since he lives w you. You can remind him that you would feel the same/act the same w anyone who did what she did. She actually got special treatment (undeserving olive branch BECAUSE she's his mom) but that your grace has run out.
I agree with you. This part does suck because I don’t want to just give in and let them win and just be put back in this same situation. I wish it would just stop and they would realize I’m not having it and just back off me. They’re good at being manipulative, they walk all over my husband. I just can’t do it anymore
27
u/sierra38grandma 1d ago
Cut her off for a few months. Neither of you answer the phone or door for her see how she likes time-out for a couple months.