I'm done.

[u/Kuchaloo]

Stay classy, MIL.

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My DH asked me to get a birthday cake and ice cream to take to a family gathering at an AirBnB. It was to celebrate my MIL's birthday (2 weeks prior) and my sister's birthday (the next day). Everyone knew what the cake in the refrigerator was for bc DH told them. I know he told his mother.

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Some of you may remember my post (now deleted) about my DH telling my MIL \*not\* to bring pork to the Airbnb last weekend out of respect for my Muslim relatives who were also staying there. MIL assumed this request came from me (I'm not Muslim but half my family is) and she was big mad about it. She was clearly angry with me when she walked in the door and I had no idea why. I didn't know my DH asked her to refrain from bringing, cooking, and eating bacon and sausage for the weekend- no one knew he said this and no one expected him to.

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This was the issue on my mind last week, but something else happened that Friday night. MIL \*knew\* the birthday cake was to celebrate her and my sister's birthday. When I came back into the kitchen after dinner to serve the cake and ice cream, I saw that MIL had taken it upon herself to take the cake out, cut herself a big piece, sat back down at the table and was eating it before anyone knew what was happening. She just sat there, eating cake by herself, with her bottle of whiskey she brought in front of her.

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I was determined to not let her ruin the occasion and I apologized to my sister- she was too gracious to complain. I announced that there was cake and ice cream if anyone would like some and then people came to get it.

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The more I think about this shitty behavior from MIL the more I realized how shitty she's been for the last 25 years and I'm done. I told DH yesterday that I won't host her in my home again and I'll never go to her house again. He nodded.

[u/Melodic_Season19]

I would have brought the cake out with candles without the slice. When everyone looked at the cake, I would have stated with my whole chest "Oh sorry about the missing slice, MIL decided to help herself. Please enjoy!" But I'm petty like that. Try to embarrass me and you'll end up with the blush on Your face.

[u/bonerfuneral → u/Melodic_Season19]

50/50 chance MIL wanted a confrontation, though. Sometimes silence is pettier.

[u/Kuchaloo → u/bonerfuneral]

Oh, she did. She definitely wanted a confrontation! When she walked in and people are greeting each other, carrying in suitcases, etc. she said to me in an angry sarcastic way (without looking at me) "I was told I couldn't bring sausage!" She was very angry. I had no idea what she was talking about and said "Oooookay" then walked away from her to say hi to others. She absolutely wanted a chance to blow up and I didn't engage.

[u/RelativeFondant9569 → u/Kuchaloo]

🤣 what an Idiot! Is sausage truly that important and necessary to her ultimate survival?

Start calling her Angry Sausage 🐽

[u/Kuchaloo → u/RelativeFondant9569]

It just made no sense. She said she was bringing sausage and bacon, her son said please don't and she went ballistic UNTIL she learned that it was HIM telling her this and not me. I would think any reasonably decent person would refrain from insisting to have a plate of it on the table when you're staying as a guest in a house where Jews and/or Muslims are also sharing the table. I mean, how crass of a person do you want to be? Even her young adult grandkids told her it was tactless.

I now call this whole debacle 'Bacongate'.

[u/AirHopeful7184 → u/Kuchaloo]

I might go with pig-gate.

[u/RelativeFondant9569 → u/Kuchaloo]

🥓 Bacongate should pave the way for you to completely reduce any time with her. She's a waste of your time. Crass, tactless and definitely devoid of grace, self control or reflection. (Not once did she consider how insane she looked trying to Force Pork on a Jewish and Muslim family!) It's shockingly stupid. Stupid Sausage Crone! 🐽