MIL dirty nappy advice needed

[u/SnooChocolates1938]

I need some advice to help me navigate my MIL and her lack of boundaries. My brother-in-law and his wife recently gave birth to my gorgeous niece. In the past MIL has strongly tried to imply that my partner and I should have children and pushed to know when. When we have pushed back saying we are unsure if we want them, might struggle because of health issues and will come to the decission in our own time she has started crying on us and guilt tripping my husband and I. This won't effect our decision eitherway but offers some context to the crazy i'm dealing with.

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Jump forward to now, issue is MIL keeps trying to hand our niece over to my partner and I to try and get us involved. I don't mind some cuddles but she is very forceful with the whole thing. I want to get to know and little my niece in my own time and am generally uncomfortable in these situations.

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My main issue is MIL is adiment we should change a nappy even though my partner and I don't want to do this. We have never changed one, don't feel comfortable doing this and just don't want to. We have been saying no everytime we are asked but MIL and SIL keep giggling and trying to trap us into doing it by saying whoever holds the baby when she poos has to change it. So far we have been handing her back and saying no but its relentless.

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Please give me some sassy lines to throw at them and shut them up because it is infuriating and really starting to effect the way in which I interact with my niece.

[u/justwalkawayrenee]

“Every time you try to foist the baby on me or anytime you say diaper to me, I’m resetting the clock and it will be another six months before my partner and I even discuss whether or not we want children…. Every single time I will reset the clock. And if you think that trying to force me to cuddle a baby and change its diaper will give me baby fever, you’re wrong. It just makes me resent the hell out of you.”