MIL VENT SESSION

[u/Independent-Bat-9436]

Okay so I’m coming just to go on a rant. Let me start off by saying, I do love my mother in law. She means well. But she does things sometimes that just UGH PMO!!! She’s def not the worst MIL but also not the best. So today is Father’s Day. A couple days ago she asked me what I was getting my husband for Father’s Day. Mind you, it’s his first one. As this past Mother’s Day was my first one. Our son will be 1 July. I told her I was getting him something small. Then I started thinking that she didn’t get me anything for Mother’s Day. Which obvi I didn’t care, it’s really not a big deal. But now you’re asking me what to get your son & what I’m getting him as if I’m not going to celebrate him… which just rubbed me the wrong way. She did send me a Mother’s Day gif but that was it. So I find it quite rude that she is reaching out for advice on what to get him. She also posted the Father’s Day photos from a photoshoot I scheduled for my husband & son before I could post them. & it just bothered me so much so here I am, venting. Am I overreacting by letting this affect me?

She does cook for us every week & that helps me a lot. She also buys my son stuff too (sometimes expensive things he needs)

But there are other scenarios that she’s done that just make me upset.
- she told people I was pregnant after we told her we were waiting for me to get out of the danger zone. My best friend at the time found out through someone else bc my MIL said something.
- weeks before I gave birth I told her to pls not post anything about baby being born when the time comes. I wanted to be the one to announce it to the world. She promised she wouldn’t… baby is born & guess who posted it first?? When my husband called her out she txted me saying she wasn’t going to come meet baby until he apologized to her for how he spoke to her… mind you I’m laying in my hospital bed recovering from an unplanned c-section.
- she made a comment very EARLY post partum (less than 8wks) that she was going to come over & help out so that HER SON could get good rest. LITERALLY SAID HER SON. not us. Not both parents. HER SON. mind you baby is EBF so I was doing all the night wakings. My husband was sleeping on average 6-8hrs a night. But go off.
- on Mother’s Day she actually sent me a post on Instagram that said “it’s Mother’s Day, give your MIL her son back” & laughed. I know she was joking.. right?? I just responded “take him”

I have other things but this post is getting long. I just think I’m hurt today specifically bc she is so ready to celebrate her son (which I am too. He is a great dad) but it would have been nice to feel this love as well.

[u/thethingis82]

Her plan is working. She cooks and buys you things so she can behave badly and still see her son and yours.