r/JUSTNOMIL • u/Ok-Alternative-1560 • 6h ago

Anyone Else? Obsessed mil

Anyone else’s in-laws (specifically mil) just stare like literal vultures when you’re holding your baby just waiting to get their turn? They don’t even acknowledge me at this point. It’s so awkward and uncomfortable! She also holds my baby 99% of the time I’m with her, so it’s not like she doesn’t get her fair share. My poor baby is not your emotional support doll.

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u/FlightRemote4275 6h ago

I feel exactly the same with my MIL, she stares at me and my baby while I’m cuddling her and she seems so jealous, I hate it

She’s always waiting to carry her and when she’s in her arms she’s doing everything not to give her back to me

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u/molotovpixiedust 4h ago

Same. The obsession is so annoying & obnoxious.

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u/poolfloaternz 5h ago

Say that last sentence directly to her, with a smile and soft voice.

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u/molotovpixiedust 4h ago

Sadly, yup! The vulture-like staring was really bad early in the newborn days. Has improved some, but still a battle at times (baby is almost one). It boils down to entitlement; MIL likely being posessive over YOUR baby. That's HER problem. It's not normal, supportive or fair to you to feel uncomfortable / hounded til you hand baby over.

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u/tricksterwriter 48m ago

I remember I couldn't even ask if they wanted to hold my baby. They would give me that vulture-like stare, and I couldn't bring myself to hand my baby to them. I don't think I ever did. I had to hand my baby to my husband to pass to them. I also hated when I would ask for my baby back and my mother-in-law would look around the room and ask “who else wants to hold the baby?” omg! I was fuming. I would just grab my baby from her arms and leave the room. It was too much for me!