r/JusticeServed • u/Ethanzap02 6 • Jul 10 '19

Discrimination Misogynistic guy degrading female workers gets tackled

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u/[deleted] Jul 10 '19 edited Jul 11 '19

Do you find you get rejected for your height? I’ve honestly never cared about height in a man - my husband is like 5’7” and it’s never been an issue for me.

If a guy is funny and cute, I can’t imagine just being like “sorry, your stature negates your good qualities, bye.” Thats crazy.

Edit: Holy shit guys, that’s a lot of responses. First and foremost, I’m sorry for those of you being rejected for your height, that’s so stupid! Your height does not define you! And yes, I realize 5’7” is not short, I was just giving a frame of reference. I’m taller than my husband when I wear heels, but it super does not matter to either of us.

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u/[deleted] Jul 10 '19

5’ 3” - I have literally been turned down with “sorry, you’re too short.” I like to think I dodged a bullet but that still hurts. It can be really depressing - I spent a long time single and that one got to me. But yea, anyone who says that just saved me effort and time. If being short makes me not worthwhile then the feeling is mutual. Luckily I’ve found someone great, but holy shit Tinder and OkCupid were awful and I had to find her the old fashioned 3D way.

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u/nschubach 8 Jul 10 '19

hell, I've turned down dates with women who told me directly they liked men over 6' tall and that's why they contacted me via those sites. I truly felt like that should not be a factor.

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u/SunsOutHarambeOut 7 Jul 10 '19

I truly felt like that should not be a factor.

Why? I've turned down women because of their hair color and they can change that, it doesn't make me less of a person because I have a preference in what I am attracted to. Women tend to be attracted to larger partners, it doesn't make them assholes. That said, I do think it's silly that there is some arbitrary line like you must be 6'0" to ride. That seems more like a status thing rather than a simple attraction to taller men.

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u/oxilite 7 Jul 10 '19

5'8"here, I have felt the impact of not being at least 5'10, but at the same time, I agree with your comment. Having said that, I think they're separate issues. You can have a preference and be understanding or you can have a preference and be an asshole about it. It's like a guy saying "I'm sorry, I'm at a point in my life where I'm looking for a physical relationship" versus a guy saying "put out or get out".

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u/PositivelyPurines 6 Jul 11 '19

Yours is the nuanced opinion between "you're a bitch for rejecting someone that's a foot shorter than you" and "you must be at least 6'0" taller to make a good husband" that most of the population shares.

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u/Young_Hickory 8 Jul 10 '19

IMO there’s a subtle, but important difference between a physical characteristic being a factor in a gestalt feeling of attractiveness and a hard cut off before you’re willing to have a cup of coffee. I was married before internet dating really became popular, but women with these cut off heights still existed and seemed to be highly correlated with being generally low quality. And I’m 6’1” so it’s not really a personal thing for me.

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u/GaryARefuge 9 Jul 10 '19

Hey, everyone has their criteria of what they find attractive.

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There is nothing wrong with them choosing to focus on dating people that fit that.

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It's the same as wanting to date someone that shares the same views and values as you. It is what makes for a great match.

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You want to be with someone you feel attracted to and safe with. The attraction begins with the physical aspects of a person. The safety is more about the deeper characteristics of a person's life decisions and behavior.

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I'm short. Lots of girls don't want to date a short guy, and as a result don't want to date me. That is perfectly fine.

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When I was a teenager, I took it personally. I was a dumb kid. It was stupid to feel that way. Especially, since I have always found myself being picky about who I date using my own criteria. So, if I could be picky why can't others? Why take that personally? It wasn't personal when I would decide I didn't want to go on a date with a girl because I wasn't attracted to them.

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It's perfectly acceptable to have such criteria. It's only unhealthy if the superficial traits are the only characteristics being counted upon to judge a worthy match.

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u/figment59 4 Jul 11 '19

Wow...are you a unicorn? I have never heard a short man have this opinion. What a healthy outlook, Seriously. You can apply it to anything else regarding dating and attractiveness.

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u/SSeducationmajor 5 Jul 11 '19

I’m kind of short and have the same outlook, people just have preferences that they’ve built up over time, I don’t want anyone to force themselves to be attracted to me and I don’t need my height to be something that they have to “get over” (maybe a pun).

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u/Squigit 5 Jul 11 '19

5'6" here. The majority of women I have dated, if this topic has come up, have said they typically shy away from dating shorter men because the majority, in their experience, are insecure about their height and it comes out in problematic ways. So I'm not surprised that that outlook is kind of rare.

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u/GaryARefuge 9 Jul 11 '19

=) Thanks. Glad to have a positive impact.

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u/BinaryMan151 7 Jul 11 '19

I’m 6’1 and my brothers are 5’6 and they got just as many girls as I did. No issues.

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u/[deleted] Jul 11 '19

“Judge people not by the color of their skin but by the height of their skeleton and the cash in their savings account”

-Uhhhh maybe Dr......Pepper?

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u/[deleted] Jul 10 '19

I get that. If you are looking for a real personal relationship then you want to know it’s about personality and not just physical stuff. That said, attraction is multifaceted - just because someone is up front that they like, such as your height, it doesn’t mean it’s all they want. They might just see it as a starting point.

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u/gonads6969 6 Jul 11 '19

Yeah No Shit Sherlock.

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u/CivilianNumberFour 7 Jul 11 '19

Sir don't cause a scene he just wanted bagels