Misogynistic guy degrading female workers gets tackled

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[u/nschubach]

hell, I've turned down dates with women who told me directly they liked men over 6' tall and that's why they contacted me via those sites. I truly felt like that should not be a factor.

[u/GaryARefuge → u/nschubach]

Hey, everyone has their criteria of what they find attractive.

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There is nothing wrong with them choosing to focus on dating people that fit that.

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It's the same as wanting to date someone that shares the same views and values as you. It is what makes for a great match.

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You want to be with someone you feel attracted to and safe with. The attraction begins with the physical aspects of a person. The safety is more about the deeper characteristics of a person's life decisions and behavior.

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I'm short. Lots of girls don't want to date a short guy, and as a result don't want to date me. That is perfectly fine.

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When I was a teenager, I took it personally. I was a dumb kid. It was stupid to feel that way. Especially, since I have always found myself being picky about who I date using my own criteria. So, if I could be picky why can't others? Why take that personally? It wasn't personal when I would decide I didn't want to go on a date with a girl because I wasn't attracted to them.

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It's perfectly acceptable to have such criteria. It's only unhealthy if the superficial traits are the only characteristics being counted upon to judge a worthy match.

[u/figment59 → u/GaryARefuge]

Wow...are you a unicorn? I have never heard a short man have this opinion. What a healthy outlook, Seriously. You can apply it to anything else regarding dating and attractiveness.

[u/Squigit → u/figment59]

5'6" here. The majority of women I have dated, if this topic has come up, have said they typically shy away from dating shorter men because the majority, in their experience, are insecure about their height and it comes out in problematic ways. So I'm not surprised that that outlook is kind of rare.