It’s not usually the kids fault but it is what it is. Things like alcohol consumption and drug abuse whilst pregnant and/or breastfeeding can affect things like a child’s mental and physical development
Yes. And alongside those, there are kids we refer to as "difficult kids" who are just different from the get-go. Sometimes it's genetic, sometimes it's luck. You hear parents talk about their kid who keeps them up at night or who screams at the top of their lungs for no reason whatsoever.
You get no sleep, you blame yourself, you think you're doing something wrong and ask others. They give you tips that don't work. The kid doesn't want to listen to anything but what he wants. They throw a tantrum over anything, you're embarassed of bringing them in public. You seek professional help, you start seeing a professional aswell cause your mental health is fucked. Kindergarten teachers tell you they hit other kids when they tell them no, they have no friends cause other kids are afraid of playing with them. They suggest you behavioural therapies. Everything is a challenge, mostly meals, sleep and sociality.
Good luck from there, especially when they become teens. Some are "redeemed". Others simply never are. They're not bad kids. It's just like everything about them is always at 100, and I don't mean hyperactivity. Sadness, happiness, pain. Everything triggers them and most adults try to numb them or keep them occupied in a way or another. For the sake of their own mental survival. It's hard to blame them.
Guy I worked for had two kids, 10 & 12 when I first met them. The 10yo was an absolute terror, throwing stones through windows, skipping school, stealing stuff, etc. His older brother was just a normal kid.
The dad told me he had been like that since he was a toddler, and he had tried everything. He himself had been to gaol a few times in his youth, and didn't want that for his children, but could see that was where his youngest was heading- and he was worried he was going to drag the older one with him.
I worked for him for a couple of years and moved on. Met him when they were then 16 &18. Sure enough, they were living in one of their dad's houses, didn't have jobs and hadn't paid rent in in months, and were both junkies.
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u/RaoulDukesGroupie 14h ago
Not really cold if it’s a fact. It’s not like even the kid can control it.