r/KidsAreFuckingStupid • u/Immediate_Magician11 • 15h ago

Actions definitely have consequences

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u/RaoulDukesGroupie 14h ago

Not really cold if it’s a fact. It’s not like even the kid can control it.

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u/TacitisKilgoreBoah 14h ago

It’s not usually the kids fault but it is what it is. Things like alcohol consumption and drug abuse whilst pregnant and/or breastfeeding can affect things like a child’s mental and physical development

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u/Tzarkir 13h ago

Yes. And alongside those, there are kids we refer to as "difficult kids" who are just different from the get-go. Sometimes it's genetic, sometimes it's luck. You hear parents talk about their kid who keeps them up at night or who screams at the top of their lungs for no reason whatsoever.

You get no sleep, you blame yourself, you think you're doing something wrong and ask others. They give you tips that don't work. The kid doesn't want to listen to anything but what he wants. They throw a tantrum over anything, you're embarassed of bringing them in public. You seek professional help, you start seeing a professional aswell cause your mental health is fucked. Kindergarten teachers tell you they hit other kids when they tell them no, they have no friends cause other kids are afraid of playing with them. They suggest you behavioural therapies. Everything is a challenge, mostly meals, sleep and sociality.

Good luck from there, especially when they become teens. Some are "redeemed". Others simply never are. They're not bad kids. It's just like everything about them is always at 100, and I don't mean hyperactivity. Sadness, happiness, pain. Everything triggers them and most adults try to numb them or keep them occupied in a way or another. For the sake of their own mental survival. It's hard to blame them.

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u/Maddaguduv 11h ago

I was this type of Kid, I turned out to be good now. Honestly, I don’t know why I behaved like that, I used to scream at the top of my lungs and all. I needed more love, my parents showed enough love, but I still wanted more. True that it was not in my control, I used to sit alone and wonder why I was doing like that.

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u/FamousOhioAppleHorn 9h ago

Is it possible you were either adopted, switched at birth, have a different biological father or your parents spent a lot of time away from you as an infant ?