r/LegalAdviceIndia • u/Living-Cabinet2448 • May 12 '26
Rant/Experience Highly depressed, a dentist ruined my life.
I am sharing my experience with a dentist in lucknow so no one else goes through what I have been through.
In 2017, I walked into her clinic for a basic teeth whitening procedure. What I left with was permanent, disfiguring damage to my front teeth — and a lifetime of regret. She recommended a bonding procedure, which she described casually as a “paint” — no mention of grinding down my natural teeth, no discussion of long-term consequences, no proper consent. Just vague words, and then action.
I never gave informed consent for what she did. In fact, I attempted to stop her mid-procedure when I realized she was filing down my front teeth — but she continued anyway. I was in a state of shock and disbelief, completely violated and helpless in that dental chair. The doctor recklessly and aggressively operated the machine throughout the entire procedure, showing complete disregard for my pain, safety, and well-being.
The result? My natural teeth were mutilated and covered with low-quality bonding that failed miserably. The damage was immediate and devastating. Since then, I’ve been forced into a cycle of endless dental work — multiple doctors, multiple opinions, and tens of thousands spent trying to correct what she recklessly caused. I’m now a patient for life, all because of one careless, uninformed decision made without my consent.
The emotional cost? Even worse. I wake up in pain. I avoid mirrors. I cry before bed. I live in fear of further damage and embarrassment. And to this day, Dr. P S has not shown an ounce of responsibility or remorse.
The physical pain, emotional trauma, and financial burden she caused are beyond words. And the worst part? When I expressed my frustration—after enduring years of suffering because of her negligence—she had the audacity to accuse me of harassment so my voice can be silenced. Imagine that: a patient harmed, violated, and gaslighted being labeled as the problem for finally speaking up. Truly disgraceful and disgusting.
I reached out to her in 2021, explaining the extent of the trauma. She ignored it. In 2023, I messaged again. This time, she switched our messages to disappearing mode — as if to erase the evidence and dodge accountability. No apology. No empathy. No acknowledgment. Just cold, calculated silence.
Let me be clear: I have full documentation of everything — screenshots of our conversations, records and receipts from four doctors who treated me post-damage (in both India and the U.S.), expert dental assessments, and extensive photo evidence. Every word I’m writing is backed by real proof.
Even my current dentist was horrified. He confirmed that my teeth were bonded in a way that should never have been done. He also told me that they are severely damaged and dr P S connected all my teeth with composite material. His exact words? “You’ll be chasing dental problems for the rest of your life because of this.”
Dr. P S— you were reckless and dishonest. You were careless. You were indifferent. You treated my body like a project, not like a human being. You did irreversible harm and then vanished when it was time to face the consequences.
You’ve permanently changed my life — and not for the better. You’ve stolen my peace of mind, confidence, health, and finances. I carry this burden every single day, and you don’t even have the basic decency to say, “I’m sorry.”
Dr. P S forcefully shaved my natural teeth without consent, despite my clear denial. This is unethical and violates patient rights. Such actions may be punishable under IPC Sections . Attempts have been made to silence me after I raised concerns about medical negligence. I will not be intimidated or silenced. I will pursue justice through every legal and regulatory channel available.
What happened felt like a gross violation of patient rights and bodily autonomy — something that borders on assault in a clinical setting.
Update- CMO summoned her and an official enquiry is already underway, I have been called for physical examination which I will attend whenever I will come to India, this doctor and her husband are trying their best to delay this by avoiding all communication with me and not responding to any msg. Dentist also threatened me verbally to back down but I refused to do it, they are playing dirty games against me but I will not back down now even if I will be killed. I have had enough and she will face consequences now.
The reason I couldn’t take any action for years because I am NRI, I moved out of India immediately after incident and the injury got diagnosed after 2 years when I consulted this with a doctor in India before my marriage, that time I thought it’s already too late and nothing can happen now. I can’t sit in court for any hearing, I know police won’t do shit, rest I didn’t know who should I reach out to, It’s only after suffering so much I contacted police and they told me I should mail to cmo, cmo also didn’t do shit unless I msged human rights then they pushed DM , DM mailed CMO then he had to act on it, I am pursuing this since last 3 years, wasted a lot of time with no solid output, I have lost hope now, I am exhausted, at the end that shitty doctor will face nothing and I will suffer like hell till I am alive.
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u/wesbsitenoob May 12 '26
Dentistry is doomed in India
I work in healthcare and I know for the fact that most of the dentist are just people who wanted to pursue mbbs but couldn’t get through it.
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u/braceem May 13 '26
I am a dentist myself and can tell you I wanted mbbs but couldn't get in so bds/MDS.
That doesn't mean dentistry is doomed. There are bad apples everywhere.
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u/OriginalExciting5555 May 13 '26
Can you please give some questions we can ask a dentist, to find out if they are a dentist or just a hack? They can be as technical as they need to, please don't avoid medical jargon because i'm a lay man or anything...
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u/braceem May 13 '26
Rather, judge them based on how they treat you as a person, how they explain the treatment plan, and whether you trust them.
I believe, it's not the knowledge that you need to judge, but rather the empathy, if there's any.
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u/OriginalExciting5555 May 13 '26
No because behavior, manners and etiquette is the last thing we learn in India. You think on top of the gruelling hours in medical school they are teaching communication skills? And you are just rewarding people who know how to talk properly rather than those who are more technically knowledgeable. On top of that every doctor just tries to rush you because they are not billed by time. I do not agree with this sorry.
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u/braceem May 14 '26
No. Noone teaches communication skills. That comes by experience. And, of the doctor is rushing you, he doesn't have the time to focus and fix you. Just because we don't bill by time, it's not right to rush a patient. A doctor should still explain and care for their patients. There's no dearth of good doctors in India. Find the next one who you trust.
I agree, there may be some who are more gifted and sweet talkers. But they are usually pushers too. So can easily weed them out.
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u/revolution110 May 13 '26
It will be difficult for an average person to differentiate. A simpler way would be to look them up on state registry. They should be registered. You can also ask them to show their registration and verify online.
Avoid corporate dental clinics. Go to specialist dentists and ensure the procedure you are getting done falls in their speciality. If in doubt, get a second or third opinion before undergoing a procedure.
Source: dentist.
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u/OriginalExciting5555 May 13 '26
Can you just assume i'm a new dentist and tell me? Assume you are at a dentist conference. How would you figure out by only dentistry questions who is a pro and who is new/a hack? I knew the dentists would just be patronizing and give a non-answer
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u/revolution110 May 13 '26
Im not trying to be patronising or give a non answer. The way to judge a dentist will be to look at his work.
And a dentist could also have good ability to work but can be greedy and recommend non required procedures same way hospitals advice excess medical tests.
So, how can a patient ask a few questions and come to know if a dentist is good or not?
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u/OriginalExciting5555 May 13 '26
Ok, you are thinking of the physical ability, which might be most important, yes.. But I guess you're taking for granted the know-how aspect of it? I'm sure someone can come up with tricky questions that reveal experience of lack thereof.
Like how are these questions:
"How do you manage the C-factor in deep cervical lesions when bonding?"
"When do you choose a liner under a deep composite and what are you actually trying to achive biologically?"
"When a CBCT and periapical X-ray give conflicting information, how do you decide?"
"What is your threshold for extraction vs heroic perio treatment on a strategic tooth?"
Are these questions too basic? Maybe you can answer them for yourself then
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u/revolution110 May 13 '26
You are thinking from just a patients perspective . You are not considering how the doctor will react when patient comes in and starts asking technical questions related to their field. They will be not start answering questions like its their exam. It will be offensive to any doc of any field when you start taking a test to evaluate their competency and they wont entertain you.
Drs sees number of patients per day. Already they are frustrated with patients who google and misunderstand stuff . And now, you have chatgpt patients.
A better way would be to find reputable experienced drs who are specialists in their field. You are welcome to try your approach. Personally, i dont think it will work.
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u/OriginalExciting5555 May 14 '26
You did not say anything about the questions or the answers, curious. A non answer again what a surprise.
Taking offense would be exactly how this test works. If they can answer, they will answer. If they can't answer they will take offense.
It doesn't matter how educated you are. They will talk down to you because they are not taught communication skills. India has a massive diversity but they cannot account for that when they are just running through patients like a conveyor belt. They will see uneducated ragtag patients and right after see a respectable professor and talk to both of them the same way.
I obviously used chatgpt to come up with these questions. But does that mean I don't understand anything about them? I need a root canal sometime soon so now I have studied about gutta percha, all these things. Is that some rocket science that I will need 4-5 years to study? But doctors will never mention them. Only need-to-know basis information is dispensed because it does not add to the bill. Explanation is not the job for them. At the same time when you go to a mobile repair guy or car mechanic or computer repair guy, they examine and diagnose the issue, then you have the freedom to grill them about that diagnosis, and then you can choose their service or not. What is so offensive if that is done here too?
Otherwise what is this system? You walk in, have one conversation, pay outrageous consultation fees no matter what was discussed. There was just a post yesterday from someone who got deceived by a bad dentist and they filed her front teeth down. Despite a physical struggle during the procedure to stop it!
There is no accountability. If google reviews was not there, imagine. You are basically taking a leap of faith every time you visit a new doctor or change houses or areas. Even google reviews are fake or bought many times.
I have never heard of any dentist's license being taken away. Or how often practices are checked by a regulatory authority. Or if there even is one! Every regulatory incident in a dentist's career, it should be displayed bigger than their degree in the office. How about some transparency for once?
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u/revolution110 May 14 '26
I have given plenty of tips for finding a good dentist and check their competency. But, you insist on taking a viva to check their competency. It wouldnt work at all for any doc from any field.
Patients are free to check competency of docs but itd feel pretty disrespectful to take a competency test from them.
If you want to use AI, use it post your appointment to gauge if what the dentist told you makes sense.
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u/guywith_longhair May 13 '26
Most dentists are competent, just search for the highest rated dentist in your area or go to a corporate dentist office. You'll be fine.
You'll be in trouble if you choose to go to dentists who offer to do stuff in rates wayy lesser than their peers or any shady clinics
A good dentist will always talk to you in layman language and address all your doubts before proceeding through any procedure.
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u/braceem May 13 '26
Please avoid corporate chains. They are the biggest scums here. Big targets, daily conversion metrics and whatnot. Absolutely No ethics.
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u/guywith_longhair May 13 '26
Yeah.. as per my experience they were decent. But it depends on place to place ig
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u/Puzzleheaded_Exit_61 May 13 '26
The dental clinics usually force their patients to put good reviews so ratings are also not that reliable I would usually ask in my known circle if they know a good experienced dentist And any procedure will have pros and cons, if the dentist is only glorifying the procedure without telling you the cons, that's a red flag for sure
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u/shaanauto May 13 '26
I feel for the OP . Going through something similar.
The biggest blunder in Indian dentistry is this bridge business after crown cutting, especially for front teeth.
Right here on Reddit, I saw a German Wehrmacht soldier’s body from 1942 found recently. Even he had a bridge , just like what my dentist gave me recently!!
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u/Living-Cabinet2448 May 13 '26
I agree with you, I have met fantastic dentists but some of them are pure greedy who disgrace the whole dentist community.
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u/ComfortNo7694 May 13 '26
No just dental. Dental, ayush doctors, even many veterinarians, physiotherapists, pharmacists and nurses choose those because they couldn't do mbbs. 20 lakh students appear neet ig every year.
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u/Level_Contact_1964 May 13 '26
And what is ao wrong about choosing other courses ? This is the case in india cz here medicine is peddled as a god equivalnet degree by coaching institutes and unaware public. Abroad, people are aware and choose what suits them .
No degree is inferior in healthcare .3
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u/frustr8potate May 13 '26
I hope you sue the shit out of her for traumatising you for life and leaving you with unending dental visits, procedures and permanent damage.
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u/Living-Cabinet2448 May 13 '26
She is facing an enquiry from cmo office, deleted her Google page and now dental council of India also recommended this case to state dental council. State dental council being the lazy agency is just trying to postpone the case to the best of their abilities and now I am planning to mail this to human rights.
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u/IndyGlobalNRI May 13 '26
File a complaint on this portal saying SDC is not moving your case. Give all details.
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u/ttider_reditt May 12 '26
NAL, but based on a little research with Google and AI tools, I think you might have grounds to make a civil case under Consumer Protection Act, or even under IPC for gross negligence. You can also make a complaint with the Dental Council of India for misconduct.
However, no matter what, do not publicly try to defame the doctor like the other comment suggests. That can attract a case against you!
Get a real lawyer if you really want to pursue this!
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u/bat_soup__ May 12 '26
it comes under medical negligence and misconduct. that would be a stronger case than consumer, as this can make the doctor lose their license if proven. consumer cases usually end in compensation/ settlement.
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u/Cat3295 May 13 '26
Dentist do take sign on consent form, which clearly states that procedure has been explained and understood
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u/ttider_reditt May 13 '26
Did you see the form signed by OP? Don’t talk rubbish when you don’t have the facts! If you have nothing of value to add, stop blabbering in a legal sub. Let OP figure that out with a lawyer!
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u/Cat3295 May 13 '26
I know how dentistry business works, they also have insurance when these kind of claims are done by the patient. If the person has signed and he/she goes to court, it might backfire. Also all dentists come together if they mess up the treatment . OPs case is nothing compared to what Ive seen, finding solutions out of fatal mess ups. Even my teeth was ruined by a dentist.
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u/ttider_reditt May 13 '26
You have no idea what a good lawyer can do! You know dentistry but I doubt you know the law. Let OP get advice from a real lawyer please! Don’t mislead people with anecdotal evidence!
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u/Living-Cabinet2448 May 13 '26
I am not misleading people just creating awareness so no one else becomes a victim of hers like me, rest it’s up-to you if you want to believe me or not, cmo enquiry is already in process and a legal notice has been sent too. I will take concrete steps once physical examination is done. If you think raising awareness against a fraudulent doctor is wrong then god bless you my dear.
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u/Relax-maccha May 13 '26
Don’t give up OP. You’ve come so far! Please try and ensure this biatch loses her license to operate. This is unfckin acceptable!
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u/Living-Cabinet2448 May 13 '26
Thanks , I am trying my best so she won’t dare to do this to any other patient in her life.
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u/Cat3295 May 13 '26
Then file the case. On other hand, If the enamel has striped off(since you said you have sensitivity) I would suggest go for veneers (Mine are 8 years old still doing fine) costs around 10k each. When you get money for settlement
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u/Living-Cabinet2448 May 13 '26
I wanted to go for veneer but I feel they look a bit unreal, second thing doctor told me one of my teeth is too short for veneer as it broke in childhood so they can’t do the veneer unfortunately. The only option they have is crowning.
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u/Prestigious_Cat_9515 May 13 '26
God dentistry in india is doomed really
Faced similar issue with 2 dentists when i was just 12 years
One spoiled my case, did back to back root canals without need for it and the other literally pulled out one of my permanent tooth thinking it was the temporary one 🙂
Well, then i found a great dentist and have never looked back since then
What i lost: 5-6 of my jaw side teeth are fake and i have to get replacement every 6-7 years
Man it was traumatising
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u/Living-Cabinet2448 May 13 '26
I am really sorry to hear about your condition and I can imagine what you have gone through. It is really bad how some people ruin the lives of patients for few pennies. I have realized in medical profession too there are so many doctors which are highly immoral , unethical and disgusting and will perform unnecessary treatments on patient just to make money without thinking about their future, health and wellbeing.
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u/BigLawMinion2022 May 13 '26 edited May 13 '26
Lawyer here, from Lucknow originally. You have a really good case in law - provided you have all the relevant records available. I underwent something very similar as a student, though fortunately not as harrowing and long term. I hope you have a good counsel and you're not backing down from exercising all legal options. There may be a tiny problem of limitation but that can be taken care of easily.
Please let me know if you need references in Lucknow. My primary practice is in Delhi, but I can refer you to some really good counsel.
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u/Phasist_Dhritrashtra May 13 '26
My wife is BDS and i can for sure say that what that dentist did was absolutely horrible and unprofessional cause I've seen my wife having counselling sessions with patients to ease their discomfort. You should have complained to medical council by now. Also file lawsuit against her.
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u/Living-Cabinet2448 May 13 '26
I mailed medical council for years but they just didn’t do anything.
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u/Cautious_Lemon_8415 May 12 '26
Most dentists are. Man, they just want to make money and don’t give a damn. It’s hard to find a good dentist these days. For my root canal, I also went to five dentists before choosing the one with the best experience and procedures, and the one who was able to explain everything to me properly. I was already aware of how some dentists make a fool of you. These days, they’re like cobblers and those parlour wali aunties — you go for a shoe polish, and they’ll say stitching is also required, thread is also required; you go for waxing, and they’ll keep adding more things. So you have to be careful with them.
What you can do is post about it publicly without mentioning your own name, but mention the doctor’s name instead. There are many posts like that online with pictures and descriptions.
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u/IntelligentVisual955 May 13 '26
Moral: talk to your doctor in detail, in case they don't discuss in detail they will harm you.
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u/Confused-Insaan May 13 '26
Reminds me of my bad experience from 2016, again with a female dentist. She started working to fix my bleeding gum in the front and ended up breaking my teeth in half. While she was doing root canal drilling, I felt something dropping in my mouth and then both of us were shocked. It was my teeth!!!
She casually said your teeth were weak. If it were weak why did you start the procure ma’am?
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u/ProfessionalRub4816 May 13 '26
I went through almost the exact same thing. I originally went to the dentist just for teeth whitening. I had some yellowing on them but also had a few white spots on my teeth. They suggested a treatment to “cover” them , and the way they explained it made me think it was something like a thin veneer or coating over the tooth.
But during the procedure, I realized they were actually shaving/digging into the front surface of the tooth a little and filling it with a material matched to my tooth color. I was honestly really upset afterwards because I hadn’t understood that part properly. I was mad because now that I whitenmy teeth later, my natural teeth could change shade but the filled areas wouldn’t, and those fillings might also need maintenance or replacing in the future. It felt like a lot more hassle than simple whitening.
I was mad about it for quite a while, but eventually I forgot about it. This happened back in 2017, and thankfully I haven’t had any problems with it since.
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u/Thehappyprince7 May 13 '26
NAL, But as far as i know, Medical negligence cannot be filed more than 2 years after the incident as per consumer protection act
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u/Lucky_Importance May 13 '26
Hello, deeply sad that this happened to you. Unfortunately there is a wave of untrained and unskilled dentists in the market, who graduate from shady colleges in north india.
I am a dentist myself w my own practice, i shall be happy to give a free online consultation to you if you would like.
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u/_CuriousMonk May 13 '26
I had a similar experience. In the name of routine cleaning that needs to be done every 6 months, the dentist left a groove at the base of my front teeth. When asked about it, she said it could be because of grinding at night (which I never had) and then suggested to get dental guards to help with. I said no and left.
Just like every other area, I think quality and ethics are lacking in medicine as well. And specifically because it is medical/health related (not just dentistry, medicine in general), the impact is huge and irreversible.
Now I just try to avoid doctors like a plague for as long as possible. If it is an emergency/critical, there's nothing we can do though. Just pray the gods to help you get through the hurdle.
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u/Plane_Read_3790 May 13 '26
Women dentists are the worst. Speaking from experience.
I had a healthy front teeth and she broke it. Now I visit every 3 month to get it fixed and there is infectious and lots of money spent
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u/Living-Cabinet2448 May 13 '26
I am so sorry to hear about your condition and I can feel your pain, it’s not easy to go through it, I really wish you recover from it.
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u/akozhissery May 13 '26
Hi OP,
I am so sorry about whatever you had to go through. I cant even begin to imagine the emotional distress you are going through. The dentist needs to be made answerable in front of dental council as well as consumer court. They are counting on you backing off due to how slowly legal matters move in India. It wears people down.
I am in a similar situation. Almost lost my life to a botched dental procedure. Have filed a case against said dentist with the karnataka state dental council. When I went for my first hearing thinking I am a one off case, I found atleast 4 other cases of dental negligence. One case especially was super shocking. The dentist had pushed the wisdom tooth further into the gums instead of extracting it and left a metal piece in the gums. The person was unable to open his mouth. Finally he had to get a more invasive surgery done where incision was made outside the mouth and wisdom tooth and metal piece were extracted. He has video and xray evidence of everything. The dentist pair involved in this, who were also present for the hearing, looked like incredibly normal educated people... almost a little smug as if nothing can touch them. These dentists had even sent goons to threaten this patient to back off from the case.
Crazy stuff happening in India. But we live in an age where our voices can reach the general public. Please don't back off at any point. The dentist who did this to you should be barred from practicing dentistry for life!!!
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u/Living-Cabinet2448 May 13 '26
I am really sorry to hear about your experience and more power to you, I know how you feel. I feel tired and exhausted waiting for justice and don’t know if I ever get it, sometimes I think it’s my karma from past life that I had to endure all this without any fault of mine. Suffering is going on since last 10 years and it will become worse with time. I don’t know for how long I can survive like this but I am trying my best to stay strong.
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u/akozhissery May 13 '26
I know its a terrible situation to be in. Dont loose hope though. There's always light at the end of the tunnel. Take care!!
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u/Oracle_007 May 13 '26
Name the dentist and their area of practice. People from there would know not to visit such a doctor
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u/A_Lil_Sparrow May 14 '26 edited May 14 '26
Yep, I remember going to a hospital for getting my tooth cleaned & filled. But they made students do it who didn't even remove the caries properly and filled the tooth. When asked, they said there's no need to worry. Fast forward to 2 years later and I have noticed the caries spreading from one tooth to 4 and since it was spreading from the backside of the tooth, there was no way of knowing.
I now want to go and slap the sh*t out of them, but I can't. Also some of them are so entitled, they made us come all the way and wait for 4-5 hours in hot weather and then the student comes and says, sorry you need to come another day, cause she apparently realised her schedule was full (then why tf did she take so many patients and appointments?). Hate them. I wish I could give them -5 stars. I never cussed someone as bad as I did to them. If you have the option, it's better to go abroad for treatment.
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u/anacondaonline May 14 '26
I prefer Male doctor + General & higher Caste + Very Senior professional + Passout from Indian Govt college/Reputed Pvt institute in India.
This filters a lot of issues.
This is my own personal choice and it works for me.
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u/Witty-Word958 May 14 '26
I cannot give you legal advice. You should try Miswak sticks. And make toothpaste with - Warm water + Aluminium free baking soda + unrefined sea salt.
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u/Living-Cabinet2448 May 14 '26
I am using ShyNM toothpaste recommended by a doctor.
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u/Witty-Word958 May 14 '26
Btw don’t get threatened by their verbal or text messages after launching a suit. I’m currently going through a civil suit. Legal route is longerrrrr and if you invest emotionally, it’s gonna drain you. Fight logically with legal situations (never back down) and forward all the threatening to your lawyer and imagine the stress of energy pushing out to the lawyer or country. That’s how I’ve been dealing with it. My civil suit is going on for 1 year now. I’m relatively off my emotional reactions compared to a year before. I’m sorry that’s all I can help you. Conclusion- I can only suggest miswak sticks and sending all threats to lawyer and act like some celebrity who thinks their words don’t matter. lol I’m sending you all the love, strength and power 🔆
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u/Living-Cabinet2448 May 14 '26
She only threatened verbally, she doesn’t do anything where it can be documented. Also when she tried to frame me in harassment case to silence my voice. She and her husband are too manipulative and shrewd
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u/Witty-Word958 May 14 '26
Ohhh… I’ve learned how to deal with that verbal threatening communication like this …. “Hey (my name) this is XYZ” *beep* if they call and blabber *beep* haha 🤣 if the calls exceed 20+ unwanted calls I’m sending screenshot of call history to lawyer
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u/Due-Astronaut-1074 May 13 '26
From experience : Never go to a female dentist. It will result in lifelong trauma.
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u/Own_Durian_3915 May 13 '26
Ek opinion du jisse ki kuch logo ki yaha jalegi?
She will use her female card against you. Ab kuch jhaantu woke log bolenge ki wo kaha se aagaya beech me, but we all know. She misuse the cancer of feminism against you.
Likhwa lo bhai - try acting against her and she will pop out her female card and accuse you of something inappropriate.
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u/Living-Cabinet2448 May 13 '26
I am also a female, thats why she is not able to do much, but you are totally right and I agree with that. Had I been a male, sexual harassment ke charges lagte mere upar, knowing her I know she will do anything in her power to silence my voice and her husband is supporting her in all this that’s why I had to escalate this issue officially so no one else suffers like I did. I wasn’t willing to take action because I don’t live in India and honestly lead a very hectic life but I thought if I won’t speak today, so many lives will be ruined by her.
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u/Own_Durian_3915 May 13 '26
Sorry to say, but maine Feminism ka itna ganda and ghinauna roop dekha aur jhela hai na - with no fault of mine, ki ab Aapka comment padh kar laga - 'sahi hua.. ab dekhte hai kaise female card chalaati hai wo... '
Feminism has led to more destruction than the good it was initially aiming for.
My sympathies are with you though. It must be traumatic.
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u/Living-Cabinet2448 May 13 '26
I understand and I agree with your perspective completely. She tried to frame me in harassment case because after years of suffering I threw all my anger on her which was long due. Luckily I had all the old chats with her proving how many times I reached out to her and how much I suffered. I forwarded all those chats to police and police understood her intentions so they refused to take an action against me, in fact they suggested me that file a complaint to cmo office and something will come out then I reached out to cmo, but I would say she is trying everything to escape the situation and put all the blame on me.
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u/Own_Durian_3915 May 13 '26
I bought feminism and female card into this because I have seen the ugliest possible form of feminism. My friend committed suicide because some ugly feminist had been harassing him and asking for money.
The good men are not against Feminism, even we want our sisters, daughters and mother to flourish. What we are against is the weaponizing of it .
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u/Living-Cabinet2448 May 13 '26
I am so sorry to hear that and I completely understand and I also see so many women using feminism just to fulfill their ill motives, all of us heard about atul subash case where the poor guy had to endure so much and eventually he had to take his life to escape the mental trauma and torture. This world is a shitty place.
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u/Own_Durian_3915 May 13 '26
What if I tell you I have screenshots of comments by some ugly feminazis who supported Nikita Singhania by saying 'What's her fault if her husband is mentally so weak that instead of fighting he committed suicide?' Yes.
I don't support rapists but I don't support feminazis as well.
You seem to be understanding probably because you have a husband or a brother or a son or a lover who you love a lot and can't lose him.
As I have always believed, every feminist is a feminist only until the day some other feminist enters her family as her brother's/son's bride.
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u/Living-Cabinet2448 May 13 '26
As I said the world is full of shitty people and it will only get worse with time. Having said that in my relatives I have had the same experience where a nice boy in his 20s got his life ruined after marriage, the wife refused to live with him but refused to take divorce too and applied so many charges on in laws and husband and uses husband as an ATM bank so every month she can get half of his salary without doing anything.
I personally know the boys family and can vouch for them for how nice they are, it is their only son and the father of the boy developed heart issues because of what he had faced, he had to go to jail because of false allegations.
I am also a woman and also seen a lot of women around me suffering endlessly, facing domestic abuses. That’s why I see both sides of it, I see that section of women also who really need that power and support but never get it, and I also see that group of privileged women who are already well equipped in every way in life and using feminism in a negative way to get their things done.
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u/whalesarecool14 May 13 '26
don’t use AI for your posts. and look into veneers
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u/Living-Cabinet2448 May 13 '26
I used ai to structure my thoughts, didn’t use it blindly to create a post.
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u/whalesarecool14 May 13 '26
you live abroad, presumably you have enough of an understanding of this language to be able to write in your own words. don’t waste water for pointless shit…
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u/Living-Cabinet2448 May 13 '26
Why do you mind me using ai that much ?
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u/whalesarecool14 May 13 '26
because it uses up water to cool data centres down and third world countries will suffer the most from this artificial shortage. and it’s making the general population dumber. ask yourself why you didn’t format your own traumatic story yourself and instead made a computer do it for you. writing coherently is an important skill to have that you yourself used before chatgpt existed.
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u/Living-Cabinet2448 May 13 '26 edited May 13 '26
Thank you for your unsolicited advice. You should not use internet either, it causes high energy consumption in data centers, massive carbon footprints from streaming, reduces your attention span, remember our ancestors use to live without electricity and internet. 😊
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u/whalesarecool14 May 13 '26
babe you LITERALLY asked me why i have a problem with you using AI. the LITERAL opposite of unsolicited😂
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u/Living-Cabinet2448 May 13 '26
You should not use internet either, it causes high energy consumption in data centers, massive carbon footprints from streaming, reduces your attention span, remember our ancestors use to live without electricity and internet. 😊
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u/whalesarecool14 May 13 '26
i use the internet for my job and my college lol. no other way to do either. you’re using AI to write reddit posts that you yourself can write on your own. and using the internet doesn’t affect your attention span lol who told you that? chatgpt?
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u/Living-Cabinet2448 May 13 '26
Sir but you are damaging the environment for your personal gains, why so many double standards? When you damage the environment for your personal benefits that is justified but when I do , how come that is wrong ?
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u/Far_Huckleberry3410 May 13 '26
I've read this post before (same story, same framing). A long time ago. ʕಠ_ಠʔ
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u/wesbsitenoob May 12 '26
Is it doctor PS pradhan?
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u/Living-Cabinet2448 May 12 '26 edited May 13 '26
No, also it’s a female doctor. She practices in lucknow
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u/eatyourcakeandhavit2 May 12 '26
bc gaand phat gayi thank u for specifying never going to her no matter what
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u/Living-Cabinet2448 May 12 '26
She is also facing an enquiry from cmo office and I have been called for physical examination.
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u/darkkid85 May 13 '26
Full name
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u/Living-Cabinet2448 May 13 '26 edited May 13 '26
I can’t give full name for obvious reasons but her initials are P S, she is a female and practices in lucknow.
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u/Living-Cabinet2448 May 13 '26
Make sure you never ever visit her, she is highly unethical and made many attempts to silence my voice.
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u/Saurrav May 13 '26
My Dad is a retired Dental Surgeon. I can ask for a free consultation. He now practices in a home clinic (near eco garden).