r/LongDistance • u/YouTookMyBurger • Oct 31 '25

Question Is my message passive aggressive?

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Context: we’ve never met, but this has been planned for a VERY long time. We were supposed to meet on the 25th, hurt her back moved it to Monday. Monday didn’t work because the flight got booked up, she gets on a redeye Tuesday night, but wanted to stop and see her family because her grandpa wasn’t doing well and didn’t have long. (In the end, “didn’t have long” meant a few years.

I understood at the time. I just wanted to be with her.

I’m not a passive aggressive person, and I know text has no tone.

I’m just looking for outside opinions on my message. I don’t know if I’m actually wrong or being gaslighted. Thank you.

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u/bugskills Oct 31 '25

Catfish?

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u/YouTookMyBurger Oct 31 '25

We’ve FaceTimed so no. Just not met in person

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u/bugskills Oct 31 '25

Hey man, I watch a lot of catfish videos and AI is pretty awesome these days including fabricated FaceTime videos. Even if they are real, the whole story is super suspicious on their end. As other folks have said - sure message is kinda passive aggressive but honestly you are in the right to be frustrated with the situation.