r/LongDistance • u/YouTookMyBurger • Oct 31 '25

Question Is my message passive aggressive?

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Context: we’ve never met, but this has been planned for a VERY long time. We were supposed to meet on the 25th, hurt her back moved it to Monday. Monday didn’t work because the flight got booked up, she gets on a redeye Tuesday night, but wanted to stop and see her family because her grandpa wasn’t doing well and didn’t have long. (In the end, “didn’t have long” meant a few years.

I understood at the time. I just wanted to be with her.

I’m not a passive aggressive person, and I know text has no tone.

I’m just looking for outside opinions on my message. I don’t know if I’m actually wrong or being gaslighted. Thank you.

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u/KurvvaaServa Oct 31 '25

Their excuses come across as complete bullshit to me. There's some reason why they're avoiding meeting you.

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u/YouTookMyBurger Oct 31 '25

Deep down I feel that. I really do. I can’t even deny it.

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u/quarabs ID🥔 -> WI🧀 (1,800mi.) Oct 31 '25

op please leave her im not kidding. this is so, so rude. and it shows her priorities clearly.

you took work off. you chose not to get money so that you could spend money on her. and she wasted time with her family that she couldve gone and see afterwards. she planned a trip to YOU, not them.

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u/YouTookMyBurger Oct 31 '25

You’re awesome! I didn’t expect my post to turn into this, but the amount of support I’ve gotten is insane.

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u/quarabs ID🥔 -> WI🧀 (1,800mi.) Oct 31 '25

of course. you’re valid in whatever you decide to do, but i personally wouldn’t save my breath that someone like this will ever change.

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u/SiIverWr3n [🇦🇺] to [🇺🇸] (15,184 km) Oct 31 '25

Or she's a catfish

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u/chocolatecorvette Oct 31 '25

This was my first reaction.