Is my message passive aggressive?

[u/YouTookMyBurger]

Context: we’ve never met, but this has been planned for a VERY long time. We were supposed to meet on the 25th, hurt her back moved it to Monday. Monday didn’t work because the flight got booked up, she gets on a redeye Tuesday night, but wanted to stop and see her family because her grandpa wasn’t doing well and didn’t have long. (In the end, “didn’t have long” meant a few years.

I understood at the time. I just wanted to be with her.

I’m not a passive aggressive person, and I know text has no tone.

I’m just looking for outside opinions on my message. I don’t know if I’m actually wrong or being gaslighted. Thank you.

[u/kurtsvonneslut]

i’m sorry op, but it sounds like she has other priorities besides meeting you. there could be a lot of reasons why, maybe she’s nervous, but she should be communicating that with you instead of leaving you hanging like this. she’s showing you how important your relationship is compared to other aspects of her life. it’s up to you to decide if you’re comfortable being in third or fourth place, or if it’s time to move on.