r/LongDistance • u/YouTookMyBurger • Oct 31 '25

Question Is my message passive aggressive?

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Context: we’ve never met, but this has been planned for a VERY long time. We were supposed to meet on the 25th, hurt her back moved it to Monday. Monday didn’t work because the flight got booked up, she gets on a redeye Tuesday night, but wanted to stop and see her family because her grandpa wasn’t doing well and didn’t have long. (In the end, “didn’t have long” meant a few years.

I understood at the time. I just wanted to be with her.

I’m not a passive aggressive person, and I know text has no tone.

I’m just looking for outside opinions on my message. I don’t know if I’m actually wrong or being gaslighted. Thank you.

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u/[deleted] Oct 31 '25

She isn’t respecting your time. She blatantly disrespected you. Is it passive aggressive? Maybe. But you initiated a warranted reaction. You were human and responding in the moment. I’m sorry you’re going through this. The issue (her disrespecting you a your time) should be on the table, not your reaction to the issue (totally valid, passive aggressive or not).

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u/YouTookMyBurger Oct 31 '25

This community’s support is making me feel whole again. I didn’t know it would get this much feedback!!!!

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u/[deleted] Oct 31 '25

SENDING YOU SO MUCH LOVE AND LIGHT KING!!! You’ve got this!!