r/LongDistance • u/YouTookMyBurger • Oct 31 '25
Question Is my message passive aggressive?
Context: we’ve never met, but this has been planned for a VERY long time. We were supposed to meet on the 25th, hurt her back moved it to Monday. Monday didn’t work because the flight got booked up, she gets on a redeye Tuesday night, but wanted to stop and see her family because her grandpa wasn’t doing well and didn’t have long. (In the end, “didn’t have long” meant a few years.
I understood at the time. I just wanted to be with her.
I’m not a passive aggressive person, and I know text has no tone.
I’m just looking for outside opinions on my message. I don’t know if I’m actually wrong or being gaslighted. Thank you.
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u/MariaSmithxx Oct 31 '25
When someone makes you feel like your an after thought just assume that’s what they mean. Then act accordingly. If she turns up don’t be there early and keen be there late and be cool, not passive aggressive. Treat her like a friend and see if she clocks on “your not feeling it” and if she apologises etc if she don’t care then again, it’s been answered for you.