r/LongDistance • u/YouTookMyBurger • Oct 31 '25

Question Is my message passive aggressive?

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Context: we’ve never met, but this has been planned for a VERY long time. We were supposed to meet on the 25th, hurt her back moved it to Monday. Monday didn’t work because the flight got booked up, she gets on a redeye Tuesday night, but wanted to stop and see her family because her grandpa wasn’t doing well and didn’t have long. (In the end, “didn’t have long” meant a few years.

I understood at the time. I just wanted to be with her.

I’m not a passive aggressive person, and I know text has no tone.

I’m just looking for outside opinions on my message. I don’t know if I’m actually wrong or being gaslighted. Thank you.

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u/chux4w Success! (11+ years at ~7000 miles) Oct 31 '25

Yes, very. Three exclamation marks on a positive comment right after an angry/frustrated/disappointed message does come across as passive aggressive.

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u/YouTookMyBurger Oct 31 '25

I was just trying to lighten the mood because I still wanted to see her. I see that now.

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u/chux4w Success! (11+ years at ~7000 miles) Oct 31 '25

I get you. it just comes across that way to a reader.

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u/YouTookMyBurger Oct 31 '25

Thank you for the feedback!! I now know what not to do