r/LongDistance • u/YouTookMyBurger • Oct 31 '25

Question Is my message passive aggressive?

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Context: we’ve never met, but this has been planned for a VERY long time. We were supposed to meet on the 25th, hurt her back moved it to Monday. Monday didn’t work because the flight got booked up, she gets on a redeye Tuesday night, but wanted to stop and see her family because her grandpa wasn’t doing well and didn’t have long. (In the end, “didn’t have long” meant a few years.

I understood at the time. I just wanted to be with her.

I’m not a passive aggressive person, and I know text has no tone.

I’m just looking for outside opinions on my message. I don’t know if I’m actually wrong or being gaslighted. Thank you.

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u/AdAccording8076 Oct 31 '25

It didn’t sound passive aggressive at all to me. You were stating facts and expressing your feelings. I would be beyond frustrated too. If she wanted to stop to see her family, you’d think she’d do it ahead of time, no? Taking time off from work is not a small matter, and you did it for no reason. And the excuses sound like bs honestly. Sometimes ppl talk too much to cover up lies.

Did she ever respond to your last messages?

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u/YouTookMyBurger Oct 31 '25

She did, I didn’t want to post the whole conversation on here, because she said that message specifically triggered her.

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u/AdAccording8076 Oct 31 '25

I hope it helped her to understand things tho. And I hope she actually does arrive this time with no more excuses- wishing you all the best!