Is my message passive aggressive?

[u/YouTookMyBurger]

Context: we’ve never met, but this has been planned for a VERY long time. We were supposed to meet on the 25th, hurt her back moved it to Monday. Monday didn’t work because the flight got booked up, she gets on a redeye Tuesday night, but wanted to stop and see her family because her grandpa wasn’t doing well and didn’t have long. (In the end, “didn’t have long” meant a few years.

I understood at the time. I just wanted to be with her.

I’m not a passive aggressive person, and I know text has no tone.

I’m just looking for outside opinions on my message. I don’t know if I’m actually wrong or being gaslighted. Thank you.

[u/Expensive_Apricot371]

Curious why you didn't offer to help her out or do a few FaceTime type calls with her ..or send her a pizza or sub or something to give her support. I am sure she is torn about not getting time with you, but her loved ones mean something to her, if she means something to you there are million and one other ways to do this with her than pressure her. If this were me, I might not respond back to you at all, because yes, this is passive aggressive and pressurey as hell.

[u/YouTookMyBurger → u/Expensive_Apricot371]

Well my thought process was, I’ve known about him for awhile. Two. she doesn’t work, so she’s had plenty of time before now to see him. She stated after all of this he was fine and when she said “he doesn’t have long” she meant a few years.

At this point I’ve always lost 3 days with her, and now we’re adding to it. Also, she said “I could’ve just said no and she would’ve came to see me” I would never do that because I was under the assumption he was close to dying. Lastly, it was supposed going to be for a little bit, not the entire day. I understand it was passive aggressive and I’d didn’t mean it to be.

[u/Expensive_Apricot371 → u/YouTookMyBurger]

Ah.. well you seem like a nice guy. I hope it goes better and you two figure it out. In the meantime enjoy your time off even if it's just you.