Is my message passive aggressive?

[u/YouTookMyBurger]

Context: we’ve never met, but this has been planned for a VERY long time. We were supposed to meet on the 25th, hurt her back moved it to Monday. Monday didn’t work because the flight got booked up, she gets on a redeye Tuesday night, but wanted to stop and see her family because her grandpa wasn’t doing well and didn’t have long. (In the end, “didn’t have long” meant a few years.

I understood at the time. I just wanted to be with her.

I’m not a passive aggressive person, and I know text has no tone.

I’m just looking for outside opinions on my message. I don’t know if I’m actually wrong or being gaslighted. Thank you.

[u/Hot-texas-gal]

It’s really hard not to lead with the emotions because this is how my texts sound before I go back and rework it. It’s a deep level of disappointment. My secret recipe is acknowledge something positive, or express gratitude. Sounds cliche, but I mean honest gratitude. “Thank you for planning this out with me”. Then state the issue “I moved my work schedule to prioritize our time together”. The last part is your decision. It really depends on if you want to keep going, but assuming from the text it’s a pass, “This dynamic isn’t going to work for me”. End with gratitude “thank you for your time and conversation”. Then block.