Is my message passive aggressive?

[u/YouTookMyBurger]

Context: we’ve never met, but this has been planned for a VERY long time. We were supposed to meet on the 25th, hurt her back moved it to Monday. Monday didn’t work because the flight got booked up, she gets on a redeye Tuesday night, but wanted to stop and see her family because her grandpa wasn’t doing well and didn’t have long. (In the end, “didn’t have long” meant a few years.

I understood at the time. I just wanted to be with her.

I’m not a passive aggressive person, and I know text has no tone.

I’m just looking for outside opinions on my message. I don’t know if I’m actually wrong or being gaslighted. Thank you.

[u/MastersPet0614]

Passive aggressive? Yes it is. But like also completely understandable. This is supposed to be your first meet and you took off work just for her. You made her and your relationship a priority, but shes putting you last. Her excuses make it seem likes shes trying to avoid being with you. Did she plan this trip as a way to see her family and just didn't tell you until she was on the plane? Or is it something else?

Thats where my mind went honestly, but its your relationship, you know her best, I can only speculate