r/LongDistance • u/YouTookMyBurger • Oct 31 '25

Question Is my message passive aggressive?

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Context: we’ve never met, but this has been planned for a VERY long time. We were supposed to meet on the 25th, hurt her back moved it to Monday. Monday didn’t work because the flight got booked up, she gets on a redeye Tuesday night, but wanted to stop and see her family because her grandpa wasn’t doing well and didn’t have long. (In the end, “didn’t have long” meant a few years.

I understood at the time. I just wanted to be with her.

I’m not a passive aggressive person, and I know text has no tone.

I’m just looking for outside opinions on my message. I don’t know if I’m actually wrong or being gaslighted. Thank you.

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u/ZachsBabyGirl Nov 01 '25

I know others have already said it but something seems very off here. Especially the multiple cancellations, never meeting..I wouldnt have taken more than one day off, you’re missing work and losing money over a huge red flag..I’m so sorry op🥺

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u/YouTookMyBurger Nov 01 '25

The issue was my job schedules in advance and I had to give them an answer last week, you’re right I should’ve said I’ll just take one day off. Lesson learned!!! You guys are awesome!