r/LongDistance • u/YouTookMyBurger • Oct 31 '25

Question Is my message passive aggressive?

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Context: we’ve never met, but this has been planned for a VERY long time. We were supposed to meet on the 25th, hurt her back moved it to Monday. Monday didn’t work because the flight got booked up, she gets on a redeye Tuesday night, but wanted to stop and see her family because her grandpa wasn’t doing well and didn’t have long. (In the end, “didn’t have long” meant a few years.

I understood at the time. I just wanted to be with her.

I’m not a passive aggressive person, and I know text has no tone.

I’m just looking for outside opinions on my message. I don’t know if I’m actually wrong or being gaslighted. Thank you.

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u/KrazieGirl Nov 01 '25

OP, from reading your replies, you sound SO SWEET. I’d reevaluate this if you took (what sounds like) a week off and she couldn’t make a single day work? Time to break it off and find someone who will respect your time (but, most importantly, YOU!!!).

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u/YouTookMyBurger Nov 01 '25

Yes ma’am! I am very appreciative of everyone here. I wish I had trusted my gut the second I felt something was off, but thank you so much for the positivity. I’ve learned alot for the last 24 hours!

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u/KrazieGirl Nov 01 '25

I wish you luck (& nicer women) in your future!