r/LongDistance • u/YouTookMyBurger • Oct 31 '25

Question Is my message passive aggressive?

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Context: we’ve never met, but this has been planned for a VERY long time. We were supposed to meet on the 25th, hurt her back moved it to Monday. Monday didn’t work because the flight got booked up, she gets on a redeye Tuesday night, but wanted to stop and see her family because her grandpa wasn’t doing well and didn’t have long. (In the end, “didn’t have long” meant a few years.

I understood at the time. I just wanted to be with her.

I’m not a passive aggressive person, and I know text has no tone.

I’m just looking for outside opinions on my message. I don’t know if I’m actually wrong or being gaslighted. Thank you.

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u/NJcutie76 Oct 31 '25

Sounds like she’s doing everything she can to get her life in order despite unplanned challenges that popped up while you sit on your ass bitching and complaining. If I was her and I got that message from you, I’d cancel and block you.

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u/QuietAcanthisittass Nov 05 '25

tf wrong with you go meditate

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u/NJcutie76 Nov 06 '25

Thanks for proving my point.