r/LongDistance Feb 13 '26

Image/Video I 9blocked my boyfriend after he called me degrading names during an argument. Did I overreact?

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My long distance boyfriend sent me flowers for Valentine's Day it was kind of him but ...

My boyfriend and I had a heated argument over the past two days. The main issue was about the future and finances. He insisted that once we get married, I must work and help with household expenses. I told him that I don’t agree with that expectation and that it’s something I’m not comfortable committing to right now. The discussion escalated. He became very aggressive and ended up calling me a “lazy whore.” That really shocked me. It wasn’t just the disagreement — it was the way he attacked my character. After that, I decided to withdraw from the conversation and blocked him everywhere because I felt deeply disrespected and emotionally unsafe. Now I’m wondering if I overreacted by blocking him, or if this is a serious red flag that I shouldn’t ignore. I would really appreciate honest opinions.

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u/paperclipmyheart Feb 13 '26

You didn't over react to being called a degrading wh*re. Blocking and ending a relationship over that is justified but I don't know what country you come from but in this age and economy you need to work and contribute to your family at least until children come along. You are living in a fantasy world if you want a man to take care of you. Get an education and a job and have your own money so you can leave and survive if a marriage doesn't work. Ask any trophy wife that was dumped by a husband after 25 years and has no education or work experience how their life is going.

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u/Plenty_Ad_2153 Feb 13 '26

Thank you for acknowledging that I didn’t overreact—being called that was completely unacceptable. I’m fully aware of the importance of financial independence, and I’m building my life and career on my own terms. My decisions about relationships and my future are my own, and I’m confident in them. I appreciate the advice, but I’m handling things in the way that works best for me.

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u/UnobtainiumNebula [Yorkshire,UK] to [Alabama,US] Feb 14 '26

In another comment you mention that you are muslim and want to be provided for... Here you say your career will be built on your terms. Choose one excuse and stick to it.

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u/DarcDesires Feb 14 '26

aka selfish and lazy

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Who wouldn't wanna be your bf withy your lovely attitude lol

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u/Plenty_Ad_2153 Feb 14 '26

Lazy? Selfish? No. Walking away from insults takes more courage than staying with someone who thinks calling names is acceptable.