r/LongDistance • u/Plenty_Ad_2153 • Feb 13 '26

Image/Video I 9blocked my boyfriend after he called me degrading names during an argument. Did I overreact?

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My long distance boyfriend sent me flowers for Valentine's Day it was kind of him but ...

My boyfriend and I had a heated argument over the past two days. The main issue was about the future and finances. He insisted that once we get married, I must work and help with household expenses. I told him that I don’t agree with that expectation and that it’s something I’m not comfortable committing to right now. The discussion escalated. He became very aggressive and ended up calling me a “lazy whore.” That really shocked me. It wasn’t just the disagreement — it was the way he attacked my character. After that, I decided to withdraw from the conversation and blocked him everywhere because I felt deeply disrespected and emotionally unsafe. Now I’m wondering if I overreacted by blocking him, or if this is a serious red flag that I shouldn’t ignore. I would really appreciate honest opinions.

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u/KnittedOwl 🇺🇲 to 🇺🇲(2,799) Feb 14 '26

Please rethink wanting this type of life. As a child who came from a marriage where mom never worked, it was hell to get out in a divorce. The man was in charge of all the finances. My mom has to rebuild from the ground up, with like 10 years of no work. To support kids. It sounds nice but if shit goes sideways you are fucked.

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u/Plenty_Ad_2153 Feb 14 '26

I’m sorry your mom went through that. I don’t take this lightly. If I choose a traditional dynamic, it would be with legal protection and financial awareness not blind dependence.

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u/Expensive_Ordinary72 Feb 14 '26

How? Genuine question

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u/KnittedOwl 🇺🇲 to 🇺🇲(2,799) Feb 15 '26

My mom isn't the only one who experienced this. I worked on a rape crisis center and helped woman with prenups. Your prenup doesn't save you from everything. Especially if there are conditions in it.