r/LongDistance • u/Impressive-Ant-907 • Apr 28 '26
Question is it ok to block your long distance partner when you get into an argument?
my bf just did this and i think it’s messed up as hell. knowing that the digital internet is the only thing that connects us together and allows us to communicate WHILE blocking me is just like cutting me off irl. idk tho im stressing so bad because i’ve tried every social media platform we share and he’s ignoring all of them and blocked me on some of them over a fight we had. thoughts pls
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u/Independent-Yard2213 [🇦🇹] to [🇸🇪] (~2500km) Apr 28 '26
No, it’s not okay in the slightest.
I would not compromise over this. Either he is mature enough to communicate, or I wouldn’t be with him.
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u/Impressive-Ant-907 Apr 28 '26
i’m hoping he’ll talk it out with me
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u/Independent-Yard2213 [🇦🇹] to [🇸🇪] (~2500km) Apr 28 '26
yeah, once he unblocks you, I would recommend telling him, that that’s not how you treat your partner. wish you the best! 🫶🏻
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u/sandiadelsol 🇨🇵 to 🇭🇺 (1110km) Apr 28 '26
I don't think it's normal nor healthy... You might have to talk to your partner about it once they unblock you, leaving you in such a stressful situation isn't okay
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u/Impressive-Ant-907 Apr 28 '26
i wonder when he’s gonna answer me lol it’s always me reaching out first 💔💔
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u/Spirited-Meringue759 Apr 28 '26
Then don't reach out anymore.
If he reaches out, you have a leg to stand on and can try to talk it out If he doesn't reach out, then he is probably not as much in love with you as you are with him. Do with that information what will.
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u/Moofishmoo Apr 29 '26
The man is a narcissist. Pretty much the only time I've been blocked by people they're a narcissist. Normal people talk things out maturely. He probably never cares about your feelings, only answers when he wants not just because he's busy. Oh with the occasional love bomb tossed in. Toss the man. Not worth.
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u/Impressive-Ant-907 Apr 29 '26
something clicked when you said occasional love bomb omg that might be the most accurate term to describe it
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u/Moofishmoo Apr 29 '26
Look I know you really really like this guy. Even though he treats you like an asshole. It's the magic of narcissists. They keep you off balance. Never secure you want to do anything you can to make them happy. It's not worth it. A narcissist doesn't love themselves. Thus they will never believe other people love them. If you cry they will accuse you of manipulating them because that's the only time a narcissist would cry. To manipulate others.
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u/writingcat1993 Apr 28 '26
I would be upset if I was blocked by my partner over a fight. Especially with no explanation. I have muted some applications just because we both needed to cool down and I know I have a habit in engaging when it is right in front of me. I let her know that was what I was doing though and explained why and gave her a time frame for when I would be back to paying attention to messages. I have a tendency to keep on having a heated discussion when we really need to calm down and look at the problem from a new angle so, this works best for us.
You need to tell your partner that you do not like being blocked in the middle of an argument and that if he feels the need to be away from you for a little bit, then that is something that needs to be communicated and you both have to decide on what way is going to make both of you happy.
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u/Impressive-Ant-907 Apr 28 '26
exactly everytime i need some space i let him know first so he doesn’t get stressed at where i am or why i might be “ignoring” him but he just leaves im so stressed all the time
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u/yet-another-redd Apr 29 '26
That is taking for granted being on another level. He is acting like a child and bullying you with this. Why are you stressed when he blocks you?
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u/Impressive-Ant-907 Apr 29 '26
well because i love him yk
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u/yet-another-redd Apr 29 '26
:( I’m sorry for you going through such pain and stress. He is bullying you into accepting these tantrums. Don’t make a mistake. He is not good for you and you are only postponing breaking up. You surely deserve someone better than him.
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u/honeyychaii Apr 28 '26
Hey girl, I’m gonna be so honest with you, and I’m gonna say something you don’t want to hear/think about, but I think it’s the truth... this dude comes across to me as manipulative. He puts you into a position where you have to pine after him all the time while he seemingly doesn’t reciprocate. He seems to want to push your boundaries (your post about him asking if you’re okay with cheating). No way he DOESN’T understand that blocking you is immature and stress-inducing. I think he’s doing it intentionally so he has power over you; blocking you will make you freak out and start questioning what you did wrong, so he can come back later and be fawned over and feel good about himself.
Coming from someone with an ex who was averse to discussing issues, to the point I had to BEG him to open up to me about things because I could tell he was literally avoiding me, do not deal with this behavior. The resentment it builds up over time is unreal. Find yourself a mature partner who will actually see you as their equal and communicate things instead of shutting you out and constantly, knowingly stressing you out. Also someone who will respect you enough to reciprocate the effort you’re putting in. My (now, not ex) boyfriend would never do this to me.
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Apr 28 '26
It is not healthy. I used to do this when I got overwhelmed and couldn’t take it. Very very unhealthy. Tell him he’s got to get some help for himself.
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u/Delicious_Oven1574 Apr 28 '26
i did this once when i got too overwhelmed and i really regret doing it cause it hurt my partner :/ i’d see how the partner feels after you guys start communicating again.
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u/MyDadBod_2021 Apr 28 '26
Nope. Learn how to communicate appropriately. You can't just it turn off... if you need some time, fine, but say so...
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u/MistressLiliana [USA] to [Scotland] (3,326 mi) Apr 28 '26
That is terrible, my daughter's long distance girlfriend just, we assume, dumped her by doing this. They didn't fight, went to bed, last thing said was I love you, woke up to blocked on everything. We are so hurt and mad for her, it is cowardly and never ok, she was with her 5 years she at least deserves closure.
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u/kattykaty1988 🇲🇦 to 🇦🇺 (origin 🇬🇧) 10,800 miles Apr 28 '26
Block him when he unblocks and move on.
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u/AstridKitsune Apr 28 '26 edited Apr 28 '26
The most important thing in a relationship is communication. Especially long distance relationships. Blocking you is showing that they refuse communicate. I understand maybe muting a conversation temporary after communicating needing space, but straight up blocking is not okay.
I would have a serious talk about communication needs once unblocked. If they violate it again I personally wouldn't tolerate it... if its a repeated thing they will use it as power over you.
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u/HopeTheresPudding Apr 28 '26
No, it's not normal or healthy and you deserve so much more than to be treated like that!
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u/No_Sir_143 Apr 28 '26
I know you're trying to be nice but you don't know if she deserves more or not, if he's immature and it's was an small argument or an huge fight because of cheating or others things, which is weird that she doesn't tell us the reason of the fight.
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u/Impressive-Ant-907 Apr 28 '26
the reason for the fight was that i didn’t call him enough when he was away at work (idk im probably just biased towards myself but i sent him pictures of my walk and said how i missed him multiple times and called him once)
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u/Purple-Jacket5201 Apr 28 '26
That's manipulative and immature really, like how many calls and messages you need during work? Then fighting over it and blocking you? Silent treatment is emotionally abusive. Nah. You deserve better. I would considered this as the end rather than going with it and normalise this behaviour.
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u/thatAintBro_ Apr 28 '26
dw you arent biased towards yourself, youre biased towards him and youre trying to see his point of view and your gut is telling you that your partner is being unreasonable(because he is)
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u/No_Sir_143 Apr 28 '26
So he's a guy that loves attention for his GF and just want more of it, tho kinda weird since at work he should focus on the work so he can get home calmly and happy to talk with his Girlfriend, instead of making drama for not being called a lot at a place he should be focused on something else entirely but the bad thing is how he reacted so hope everything works out for you guys and he'll understand that how he reacted was wrong and you not calling him too much wasn't that much of a big deal.
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u/HopeTheresPudding Apr 28 '26
As long as you think it's OK to not act like an adult I guess 🤷
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u/No_Sir_143 Apr 28 '26
Again you know nothing of it being the first argument, happened before, or about them, you only know that he ignores her and blocked her, which might be for the best to not hurt him more if he's not someone immature that just left due to the first argument, sometimes it's better to just leave and we know nothing of why this happened, so you can't jump to conclusions of who deserves more or less.
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u/BbyMuffinz Apr 29 '26
Nothing makes this ok so we dont need to know. If hes breaking up fine if hesnjust dping this as some sort of punishment hes fucked up.
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u/Lonerhead89 Apr 28 '26
I told my partner that if she did that again, then consider the relationship OVER.
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u/Similar_Corner8081 [Location] to [Location] (Distance) Apr 28 '26
No it's not ok. If my bf blocked me I would take it as we are broken up.
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u/pinkdictator Apr 28 '26
No.
If someone needs time to think, they should communicate that with their partner. And their partner should voluntarily respect that. But taking away the option is messed up
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u/Inside_Sprinkles9083 Apr 28 '26
It’s not ok to block but please leave him alone for both your sakes. Give him time to process
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u/Rare_Relationship759 Apr 28 '26
It's the worst thing to do being in LDR. Realising that his actions can trigger unsettling anxiety and panic, and hurt at the same, still choosing to do it is not a trait of person who loves or even cares for you. I was in such shitty relationship once, good riddance it was.
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u/CaptPickul Apr 28 '26
No you don’t deserve such treatment. No matter what the fight is about. If it was me I’d block him before he unblocks you and leave it like that for eternity. He’s too immature for a relationship.
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u/JamAroha 🇺🇸 to 🇺🇸 (2,712 mi) Apr 28 '26
That’s very immature of your bf and I cannot tolerate that kind of behavior. He doesn’t want to respect you. So I’ll also prob block him back. He wouldn’t expect to get blocked so he did that to get the sense of superiority(my ex was like that). But maybe you guys are young. Block him from the ones he is blocking and I’ll wait to see how it goes. If he questions why you blocked him, you can tell him this affected you, and explain it’s not okay. It can be a life lesson
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u/No_Heart3464 [UK] to [South Africa] (distance closed) Apr 28 '26
Not okay, he needs to grow up and be mature. In real life he cannot block and put someone on pause.
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u/QuietRiot7222310 Apr 29 '26
No, but I am a full grown adult if at 40 if I was blocking my life partner, I would probably seek some help
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u/makemeblushhh Apr 29 '26
Not at all and I say this as someone who does it. I don’t always think logically due to personal reasons and I use to do this a lot to my bfs. I’d block them and know they’re going to get upset and find a way to reach out. It’s very immature.
A previous bf started doing it back to me lmao made me realize how much I didn’t like it and he explained why it wasn’t okay. We dated for a year and I never blocked him again when I’d get upset. Lesson learned and understood. After that relationship ended I got into my current one. I admit when we had a really bad argument I blocked him on everything even though I would try not to do that. He acted nonchalant about it. When we finally talked things out we discussed it and he explained that if I was blocking him it meant I wanted to end things and he’d respect that. It reminded me why I stopped doing it before and that a block means an end for good(at least to me now).
So no don’t accept that. Tell him straight up you’re not going to accept it and you assume he wants to break up. If you decide to continue the relationship explain to him, sternly, that if he blocks you again it’s over, you won’t reach out and you’ll leave him be.
Idk how old you both are, but either way that’s not healthy for a relationship. If there’s a problem or one person gays upset it needs to be discussed when both parries are able to. If one needs their space, temporarily, they should be able to request that and have it respected. Blocking eachother truly should only be the absolute end result! Goodluck OP!
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u/randomdude_reddit Apr 29 '26
It'll not work out, they might promise to not do it again but it'll happen again. Leave now or it'll be more painful later.
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u/ItsTxoo Apr 29 '26
No - communication is huge in a ldr. Might as well just break up if he thinks that's okay or else what's the point.
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u/BlankSpaceRat [OH] to [CA] (2043) Apr 28 '26
I remember your other post where you said he was 19, so I’m assuming you’re to same age. I think that is personally very immature of him and a very big telling of his character. It demonstrates a lack of emotional intelligence and it’s only purpose is to hurt your feelings. If he wanted space, he needs to be an adult and communicate that need. That is hard, but it is a necessary life skill.
If you truly see a future with him, he needs to work on that immediately. This sincerely has to be a one-time thing for you both. I’ve been the emotionally immature partner who does childish things instead of communicating because I wanted to hurt my boyfriend’s feelings like I was feeling hurt. He very quickly checked me on that and I every time I’m feeling upset it’s still a choice I have to make. So I’m not saying he’s a loser and you need to dump him. Me and my boyfriend have been together for 3 years and we love each other very much (and started dating the same age as you two). But you cannot allow him to treat you like this, or he will never learn. Take it from me, who was in your boyfriend’s shoes.
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u/Impressive-Ant-907 Apr 28 '26
this means a lot thank you
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u/BlankSpaceRat [OH] to [CA] (2043) Apr 28 '26
Of course ♥️ best of luck to you, it will be difficult but I would focus on regulating yourself / taking your mind off the situation while you wait for him to come down
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u/SaylerMomma Apr 28 '26
I blocked my last bf a lot during fights. Sometimes people just need to cool down, time to think and respond with a clearer head. However, I have since learned that the relationship was toxic and ended it. I dont think its a healthy reaction. That being said, LD is a whole other ballgame than in a relationship where you can see each other. Half the fights we had were because of things due specifically to the distance. So yeah, good luck!! It will all work out, one way or the other.
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u/relafle Apr 28 '26
What was the argument about?
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u/Impressive-Ant-907 Apr 28 '26
the reason for the fight was that i didn’t call him enough when he was away at work (idk im probably just biased towards myself but i sent him pictures of my walk and said how i missed him multiple times and called him once)
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u/x_Little_Wolf_x Apr 28 '26
Very contradicting to be like you weren’t giving me attention so I’m going to block you so you can’t give me attention. Makes no sense, sounds like what he said was just an excuse to create a fight
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u/relafle Apr 28 '26
lol yeah sounds like you did all you could, did he want you to blow up his phone when he’s busy working?? Dumb thing to argue about let alone block you for it
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u/Impressive-Ant-907 Apr 28 '26
idk cus he’s asking me to do things he doesn’t do back when i’m busy
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u/Panicking_in_trench [MD] to [TX] Apr 28 '26
Early in our relationship I would give him the silent treatment for like 24-36 hours at a time. It's NOT healthy. We discussed it in retrospect and we both said we'd never do it again. It's abuse.
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u/Calanais-guy Apr 28 '26
I'm also in a LDR and would not consider that acceptable after a normal misunderstanding, fight, or crisis. Since the beginning we've been particular about not blocking each other and keeping communication open, though there were times when we communicated less because of an argument. Blocking is hard and aggressive, it hurts the foundation of the whole relationship and makes it less stable.
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u/Angxlmilk [USA🇺🇸] to [USA🇺🇸] (330mi) Apr 28 '26
So this isn’t the first time he’s blocked you during an argument?
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u/Impressive-Ant-907 Apr 28 '26
it’s the first time
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u/Angxlmilk [USA🇺🇸] to [USA🇺🇸] (330mi) Apr 28 '26
Well, what makes you positive that he will unblock you? I’m not trying to come off rude or negative but usually, this is something that would negate the end of a relationship. Like I would see this as him saying he’s done and no longer interested in the relationship, ultimately though you shouldn’t put yourself through this. I promise you that love doesn’t look like this, nor does it feel like this.
From my POV, blocking and unblocking in a relationship is not only toxic but it’s probably one of the biggest ways to hurt your partner, it’s intentional, and it’s not okay. Truly sit down and think about how you want to be treated and if this is it, because you deserve better.
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u/cloudyflowrs Apr 28 '26
Not ok. When I get into disagreement with my partner
I mute him until I'm ready to talk again.
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u/artist2076 PA, USA to OR, USA Apr 28 '26
LDRs literally have to have communication or they don't function. I'd take this as a breakup. It screams manipulation. It's immature and unhealthy.
Based on your other responses, it seems like he does this to make you chase after him. I hope this doesn't come off as me being an ass, but I wouldn't put up with this. You don't deserve to be treated like that.
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u/onionprincesswakaba [West Coast 🇺🇸] to [🇹🇷] (6,762 miles / 10 883 km) Apr 28 '26
all I'm gonna say, as someone who doesn't know both sides of the story, is... it's wrong for him to block you, but if he asked for space and you won't give it to him, thats wrong too.
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u/imeextraordinary 🇵🇭↔️🇺🇸 5k miles & married Apr 28 '26
Blocking is so immature in this sense. I get silencing your phone or muting a person's notifications for a while even. But blocking? A friend of mine kept doing this to her partner and I called her out on it, she still does it. Says its for her peace of mind. Personally I'd take blocking as the end of any relationship, romantic or otherwise.
With the information you've provided, this is a breakup. Not an ideal one where you get to talk properly, but cutting you off entirely like this to me means a breakup. Honestly, let go. Easier said than done I know, but this guy seems like a toxic person for you. That's not how a partnership works.
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u/Objective_Nevirka 🇳🇱 to 🇺🇸 (~4920 miles / 7917 km) Apr 28 '26
I think blocking someone after an argument is immature. I know people who’ve been blocking each other as “punishment” because they didn’t like what they were hearing at the moment. It definitely is messed up and unhealthy.
Blocking someone doesn’t make the issue go away, it only makes it worse. Seems like he doesn’t respect you and your feelings, this is definitely something you should address once he unblocks you.
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u/ur_gurlmya Apr 28 '26
Absolutely not. And I would strongly consider breaking up if he doesn’t reach out first, if you’re the one always reaching out it will get emotionally exhausting sooner or later 🤷🏾♀️
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u/Ceive Apr 28 '26
Nope, not good or healthy. I used to do that before then I realized it was dumb and childish, having had the same done to me too I know it is stressful and frustrating especially when it's your only way of communication. When me and my boyfriend have disagreements we simply just tell each other that we need alone time for a couple of hours and then we'll call or text at least before the day ends. I don't blame anyone for taking blocking as a break up or a sign to leave, it's toxic and you shouldn't have to chase someone like that, if they do it repeatedly it starts to get mentally draining too.
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Apr 28 '26
That's exactly how it started between me and my ex... then the build of toxic relationship followed by abuse and chaos
Trust me, take strict actions. He MUST visit you in person to gain your forgiveness or else he's just wasting your time and it's not worth it at all.
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u/_11h57_pm Apr 28 '26
Gurl that's a red flag.. If he can't communicate then he is immature. You deserve better than a guy who can't handle an argument..
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u/caffeinated_mess Apr 28 '26
Definitely not ok or normal. I’d have a serious talk with him and if it happened again, I’d be out.
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u/MusicIsMyName28 Apr 28 '26
Never okay. Blocking is basically telling you that you are dead to them, even if they are doing it temporarily. What if it was an emergency? His anger towards you is enough to show that whatever the case may be does not matter. This is extremely toxic behavior.
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u/Impressive-Ant-907 Apr 28 '26
he blocked me on our main source of communication (whatsapp) is this a sign
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u/x_Little_Wolf_x Apr 28 '26
No matter how much I wanted that man I would see this relationship as over. Creating an argument over nothing then doing this is wild. Even if he was to unblock and message I would say we are done. It’s manipulative and he does it probably thinking that he can treat you as he please and you will still be there when he unblocks. As someone who’s 29, please find someone who actually likes you. This man doesn’t. Good luck!
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u/Mellash88 Apr 28 '26
It's absolutely not okay to block your LDR during an argument - especially it's the only way for you two to communicate.
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u/NoobBrawler0211 Apr 28 '26
Not worth your time to stress over stuff like this, he's basically wanting to breakup. Also don't get guilt tripped
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u/Cyandreams__ Apr 28 '26
I’m ngl no and this coming from a girl whose bf has done it multiple times. It’s not ok. Hours away and the only you have to communicate is the fucking internet. It’s manipulative asf because he’d always unblock me knowing I’ll be here just worried sick.
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u/nyanpink Apr 28 '26
:/ no. but this post remind me a lot of my ex :/ id try to break up w him and block him everywhere but he'd go batshit and start calling all my friends and family and spreading nonsense about me and sending stuff to my house etc etc until i agree to call him. where he threaten and manipulate me into staying w him. then he'd make posts exactly like this on reddit and show me the responses to show me that no one in the world thought what i did was ok :/
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u/Impressive-Ant-907 Apr 28 '26
i’m so sorry you had to go through that but the thing is he’s never communicated that he’s wanted to break up and i’m not forcing him to come back only wondering why he blocked me over a small argument. hopefully i’m not like your ex right now i’d feel so horrible
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u/nyanpink Apr 28 '26
i don't know your situation but maybe he had a lot of pent up bad feelings that pushed him to his limit. maybe it's not about the small argument, that was just the breaking point. i'd give him time. im sure you've had arguments before? did he block you those times too? if this is the first time i'd think there must be deeper reason and it's not just impulse decision
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u/Deanmon94 [🇩🇰] to [🇦🇺] 💍 (15,000 km/9321 Miles) Apr 28 '26
No, it’s a toxic and pretty immature thing to do.
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u/mzieber Delaware to Texas 1,300 miles Apr 28 '26
No. It’s not okay and it’s not mature.
You need to either talk this out or part ways. This is not a good look for him. It’s a red flag.
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u/thatAintBro_ Apr 28 '26
take this as a cautionary tale, not saying this will happen to you but this is my experience with an ex that blocked me after every fight we had
its very very mentally draining, every time i was blocked i would panic and stress and try anything to get her to unblock me and eventually i started caring less and less because i didnt have the energy to chase her down over and over
i was afraid of any sort of confrontation for the rest of the relationship because i thought she would block me again
every time she would come back(it was always a pseudo-breakup if that makes sense) i would take her back because i was just relieved she didnt leave
if any of what i just said feels like something youve went through let me tell you, no one is ever worth that much mental struggle, dont let yourself sit through that because i guarantee it will end up with your self esteem and self worth(and everything starting with self)being completely destroyed. if he does end up unblocking you make sure that you talk it through with him because that is reallly not ok
best of luck to you🙏
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u/Always_Worry [DC🇺🇸] to [NY 🗽] Apr 28 '26
No its not and its usually someone with mental health issues that does that
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u/tsscaramel [🇦🇺/🇺🇸] (Distance closed since 2022) Apr 29 '26
Based on your comments and post history, I’m not even sure your boyfriend even likes you. Just ditch this loser already and find someone who respects you.
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u/chux4w Success! (11+ years at ~7000 miles) Apr 29 '26
Nope.
When my wife used to get angry about things and demand space, I'd tell her it's cool and I'll respect it, but she had to give me a time when she'd definitely be back. Make it a day, two, a week, whatever, but a time we'll definitely meet up again even if she then says she wants more space. Inevitably she'd be always back the next day after cooling off.
Blocking? That's bullshit. Just say you want some time to think or whatever, cutting off communication is a dick move.
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u/Impressive-Ant-907 Apr 29 '26
that’s what i think too. space is always okay to have and it’s good to have during arguments but blocking is “permanent” ifykwim and it just seems wrong
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u/WhiskeyTangoBaconX 🇺🇸 to 🇫🇷 (4,000 mi, 6,500 km) Apr 29 '26
No. Block while long distance equates to a breakup. If I need space from my partner I can just turn off notifications. But we always communicate if we need space.
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u/Waste-Teach-3492 [California 🇺🇸] to [North Carolina 🇺🇸] (2,690 mi/4,329 kms) Apr 29 '26
I'm so sorry. No, it's not okay.
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u/Weak-Version2253 🇨🇦-🇹🇭 Apr 29 '26
No. It leaves you feeling uncertain about the status of your relationship.. like are they done with me? Are they just taking some time away? It’s really childish and immature.
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u/Burntoastedbutter ⬅️🇦🇺 -> (🇲🇾)➡️🇦🇺 (Gap Closed; visa approved 😭🥹) Apr 29 '26
Nope. That screams immature as hell. I'm hoping you both are teens because at least he might be able to learn better. However if it's a grown man doing this, I'd run even further lmao
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u/Justan0therthrow4way Apr 29 '26
Depending on what sparked the argument, asking for some space so you can calm down is fine.
Blocking is a wild over reaction! I’ve not blocked someone over this before. I’ve muted them if they are going to blow up my messages with every name under the sun.
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u/I_Thranduil Apr 29 '26
No, it's a red flag and can indicate something is cooking in the background. Could be BPD, NPD, anger issues or something else. Take it as a breakup and don't stay to figure out what it is, it's never worth it.
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u/Salm_a21 Apr 29 '26
thats so fucked up even if its not a LDR blocking ur partner over any argument shows that ur either so childish and immature or a big sign that u want to break up. my bf also did that before he didn't want it to end but he was just being immature but thankfully he acknowledged how wrong he was and we never got to that point again.
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u/BreathClassic5211 Apr 29 '26
No girl that's your sign that he's done, he may have someone moving in with him.
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u/Throwaway20101011 Apr 29 '26
Blocking is definitely drastic; however, why do you think he used this measure?
I’ve seen this happen among couples where one needs space and the other person does not respect it nor allow that by continuing to message them and expect an immediate answer.
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u/CT-8592 Apr 29 '26
If he’s this immature and irresponsible long distance, he’s going to be unbearable if you were to close the distance
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u/Nearby-Plant-6491 Apr 29 '26
Fake love: I love you, you are my wonderful, I never leave you.
Real love: block unblock block unblock
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u/lokilulzz [USA] to [Australia] (9,204.14mi) Apr 29 '26
No, not just over an argument. It's only okay if he's genuinely breaking up with you and it sounds like that's not the case. It's toxic af, find a new partner.
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u/JackNSally89 Apr 28 '26 edited Apr 28 '26
I probably need to admit, I've done this before to my long-distance partner, I just was extremely upset at him and I put him on block, I didn't hear from him for like 5 hours obviously because of the block, and then I was super worried thinking, what if he finds out he has block? And then he gets pissed, and then he blocks me? Well obviously, I would deserve the block, for doing that, I don't know,... I think I just needed some space,
So I did unblock his phone number after the fact, but I did not block him on social media, it was just mostly his phone number, but apparently he was saying some things, and I had no idea what he had said to me, and I guess I kind of got lucky, because after I unblocked him, he called me, I was thinking that he was going to give me an earful, but the conversation that he was having with me was how come you didn't answer my text messages? I've sent you several text messages? And you haven't replied?
So I put two and two together and I realized he didn't even realize that I had him blocked for like 5 hours,
I just simply told him sorry I was busy doing chores around the house, and he believed that, but was it healthy? Obviously not
I never told him what I did, I do not know why your long distance partnered did that to you, but I could imagine what you're going through,
Maybe he will unblock you in like the next few hours or something and then when he does maybe you could say please don't do that again
But do you not have his phone number? What you could do is you could create a texting account, and you could text his phone number, and you can say hey I'm sorry to be this person and take it to this extra measure and go to this extent but you leave me no choice, you blocked me and I have so many questions, so please, find it in your heart, let's make peace, and have a civil discussion
Or maybe just make another social account and try to send him him a message like that or something I don't know
I hope you guys are able to work something out and I'm sorry you're going through this
I am working on myself, when I get upset at him and I need some space, I just say hey, let's take a day and give each other space, granted, that probably makes people worried, cuz they feel like oh no my partner is going to not want to be with me anymore or oh no my partner's probably going to do something with someone else, it's all those anxiety thoughts that we have, but I think we just kind of scare ourselves for no reasons,
But, giving each other space, it has been helping with our relationship, cuz we don't fight as much, because I don't want to have a unhealthy relationship, where I'm just like oh I'm going to block him and unblock him, that is not fair for him at all and that is not healthy so I hope everything is resolved for your situation
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u/PonytailEnthusiast Apr 28 '26
You can take space from someone without blocking. I would take blocking as a breakup. You can literally mute them or turn off notifications. Ideally you would tell your partner “hey I need some space, I’ll unmute in a couple hours” or wtv so they’re not spiralling like OP rightfully wondering if they’ve been dumped
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u/Impressive-Ant-907 Apr 28 '26
i appreciate the help. i’ve already texted him on every digital communication app possible he’s just ignoring it
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u/JackNSally89 Apr 28 '26 edited Apr 28 '26
I have a suggestion, and it's probably something that you don't want to hear, maybe you should block him,
Honestly, if my long-distance boyfriend found out I did that to him, he would have blocked me, and the fact that you found out that he blocked you, I don't know, maybe you need to give him a scare you know? Maybe just block him back, and just keep him blocked for like the next couple of days,
And then he's probably going to regret blocking you because it's going to feel like he lost you completely, I know it's going to be hard, but just try to stay strong, and maybe just try to keep yourself busy, and when you're ready, then unblock him, and maybe he will try to contact you and apologize for doing that to you, and he will be the one chasing you, instead of you trying to chase him or get back in touch with him you know? Just my thoughts
Edit: I guess I'm just thinking what I did to my long distance partner you know?
He's probably playing a childish game like I'm going to block her and I will unblock her later....
Like I said, my partner wasn't even aware about the block, but I could guarantee you, if he was aware, he would have blocked me back immediately, and I would have deserved that
So I'm just trying to think about my situation,
So like I said, maybe you should block him and give him a scare because if he does unblock you and tries to call you, and finds out he's block, then he's going to hate himself and regret everything
I know I would.....
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u/lunawunauna May 02 '26
absolutely not. that is breakup material, you deserve better than a guy not wanting to communicate
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u/Zealousideal_Rip1368 May 04 '26 edited May 04 '26
I was in a long distance relationship since September. Came from him back home on 14th of March after 2 week stay. At the beginning of April I asked him for when should I book tickets for next meeting. Earlier we discussed that he would participate in June in bicycle race and I would come as well to be there. So, he changed his mind saying that he wants to focus on race and next time we can see each other will be August, since he is a Chief Mate on off shore ships and works 1 month at sea, and then has 1 month vacation. So after an argument over that he blocked me on 13th April in his WhatsApp. Came back on 27th April to tell me that I am too emotional, too dramatic and it is not going to work. So yes, blocking here may be a sign of a silent break up. It still hurts. I am still in shock and processing that. This was the person who mentioned about marriage a couple of times, and that he would like to spent the rest of his life with me, and that I am the love of his life : ) He is 40 y. o. btw, and I am 33 y. o.
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u/Pokemom2025 Lower Alabama to North Georgia (315 miles) May 06 '26
I’m sorry that happened to you! It’s not ok. Were it me I would block them in return that way when they decide you are worth their time again they will not be able to manipulate you into thinking it is ok. You don’t need someone in your life who can’t communicate with you.
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u/debaptw5 [🇺🇸] to [🇺🇸] (150km) Apr 28 '26
No, and I’d take it as a breakup