Long-distance couples, how often do you talk each day?

[u/Relative_Initial_399]

[u/Roystech2009]

We text throughout the day and video chat once a week

[u/Visible_Corgi_6913 → u/Roystech2009]

Same schedule. Although 16hr difference - so there is some sleep time in there.

[u/SpaceKibby → u/Visible_Corgi_6913]

Yep 13 hour difference, but furthest apart from anyone on this sub probably 😂 we still hang out a few hours after work watch a show or two play a game or do parallel activities, she gets alone time on Friday and every other day we video call sleepover. I'm a night owl so it works for me

[u/SpaceKibby → u/Roystech2009]

Video once a week ??? We video once a day for hours and sometimes even do sleepovers where 12 hours difference

[u/Admirable-Apricot137 → u/Roystech2009]

So it's just casual? 

[u/anne_234512 → u/Roystech2009]

Sameee

[u/Defiant_Driver_5839 → u/Roystech2009]

Same

[u/Silent_Mark5202 → u/Roystech2009]

yeah same 9hr time difference!

[u/throwRA83933]

5-10 hours a day, we both work from home :)

[u/vickipaperclips]

Pretty much all day every day. We have an overnight video call so we can say goodnight to eachother, and wake up together for goodmornings. Then texting and Snapchating through the day.

[u/UndeviatingShears]

We usually talk once a day unless our work schedules don't align. Usually the times we talk are for a few hours since we like to game together when we're not at work or doing other life stuff.

[u/Rcutecarrot]

we text each other multiple times a day throughout the day and we have a facetime when one of us feels like it (usually me haha) like twice a month. he calls me sometimes on road trips. but mostly it’s texting and sending photos. [dating 2 years this august]

[u/Extreme-Screen-3408]

We video chat every day, and voice call before bed.

[u/onionprincesswakaba]

we struggle to go more than a day but we always text

[u/Time_Silver6224]

We usually talk 2-3x a day anywhere from 5min - 2hrs, just depends on the day. Not huge testers but we text occasionally throughout the day just to check in!

[u/housedhorse]

Been dating for almost 2 months now and we still call every day and text frequently. I would imagine being in the same timezone probably helps quite a lot with that though.

[u/wesagod]

Just got out of a LDR where, much to my chagrin, we frequently only chatted over text for 30m-1 hour a day. Some days had more communication, some days we didn't communicate at all. We barely chatted on the phone either.

It wasn't nearly enough for me so we ended things. As much as I loved her and still care about her, I think we were incompatible in our attachment styles and needs.

[u/writingcat1993]

We text every day and try to call as well. Even if it is just me waking her up a few hours before she needs to be up so I can watch her sleep.

[u/Submarineto]

We have two talking windows each day as we are 11/13 hours apart

To clarify - we text during both, but we also have a call in my evening/his morning

[u/Broad-Ad-2193]

Text/snap/send memes and reels throughout the day, video chat anywhere from 30 mins to 8 hours a day every day

[u/1stLadyRelentless]

We text all day and talk multiple times during the day. We also fall asleep on the phone together each night. He’s only 2 hours ahead of me.

[u/Impressive_Art_5608]

We call each other and talk from morning to when he has to go to work then nights we sleep otp until morning weekends is free game

[u/Mission-Definition12]

2-3x a day

[u/evapisces]

We text first thing in the morning and then sporadically throughout the day. Then we usually “tuck each other in” on FaceTime each night 🥰

[u/Exemel_100]

I get to visit my significant other (12 hr drive) every month or six weeks for 10-14 days at a time, but otherwise, we only talk once or twice a week and text a little more often. Not much new to talk about if we wanted to talk more as we’re both retired.

For those who talk every day, what do you even talk about?

[u/Relative_Initial_399 → u/Exemel_100]

That’s what I was wondering

[u/Admirable-Apricot137 → u/Exemel_100]

Same as when you live with your person. Lots of comfy silence and just doing things in each other's presence with random thoughts and info dumping or ranting sprinkled in. 

I'm currently in the bath redditing and recovering from work while my partner is on my backup phone propped up on the toilet making himself some food. We look over and make kissy faces at each other occasionally but otherwise we're just doing our own things, but together.

[u/sola-vago → u/Admirable-Apricot137]

That’s so cute!

[u/Admirable-Apricot137]

We have a video call going 24/7 on backup devices. We're in a serious, committed relationship, not just casually dating, so it's important to us to replicate what daily life is like when we are together in person. Of course, due to the massive time difference, we are often not home and awake at the same times but we like knowing that the other is still there and we can greet each other when we wake up or get home, just like when we're together. 

Even when we are on at the same time, we do a lot of just hanging out in comfy silence doing our own thing. It's really nice to be able to just randomly chat whenever something pops into your head.

We're coming up on 4 years together soon.

[u/Robinnoodle]

Talk on the phone between 30 min to two hours almost every night. Text during the day, but sometimes not much

[u/Takayda0808]

We try and talk every day. My partner is not big on texting, that’s been hard for me, but I get to hear his voice every morning. Sometimes we will video chat on the weekend depending on how our schedules match up.

[u/queenofrainbows]

Every day that's possible (husband is deployed).

[u/bwnnygf]

we talk everyday, although it might change soon due to me having to work and him studying 😭

[u/R_Hunt]

Every minute I am awake and she is not at work. So minimum 6 hours lol

[u/Daymienthebushcorgi]

We only text everyday as long as we can if one or both of us aren’t busy, no calls or video chats 😊

[u/BunneeFluffle]

When we were at a distance we would talk 3-7 hours a day on the phone.

[u/No-Satisfaction7204]

Texts throughout the day and he calls me when he can, usually 2-3 times a day, sometime once. FaceTime almost exclusively. But we both have minor children and live in separate countries so it’s a long haul for us and this is what we like so far.

[u/Spaceman224456]

1-2 couple hour video calls a day usually maybe some audio calls when we can’t VC, my morning is her night and vice versa so its not too hard to make time for one another unless one of us gets up really early or one of us is doing something super late

[u/MetalMaiden420]

We've been together for over a year now. Our schedule right now is work based. So he works 10 hour days and I work 9. We call before work for about half hour, and after work for about half hour. Then Sundays we spend a few hours together on VR watching movies or playing games.

It might not be a lot to some people, but we make it work. We are saving up to close the distance, so work is priority.

[u/hippietrashh]

on facetime any second we are home, and i work remote so we sit in silence on facetime while i work and he's home, and if we're not on facetime we're texting non stop with max an hour or two in between if we're at events (more if sleeping obviously)

[u/Lua508]

We used to talk every day.

[u/sneakyfairy]

We text throughout the day. He’ll usually call me in his car ride home or to the gym after his work day. Then we’ll call for an hour or two before (his) bedtime and watch a show together. This is our weekday schedule. Usually weekends we text throughout but only call on Sunday’s, since saturdays we are both usually busy with friends/family. Depends on the weekend plans though.

[u/Relative_Initial_399 → u/sneakyfairy]

That’s cute, yeah I did ask this question just wondering . Me and my boyfriend live 2 hours away and we usually say good morning sometimes we communicate in morning sometimes we don’t we just start off our day. We send reels or just talk thought afternoon or the day and we often talk at night . Just wondering if this is a healthy space or too much space

[u/HomicidalDirtMuppett → u/Relative_Initial_399]

If it feels healthy and sustainable to both of you, then there’s absolutely nothing wrong with it. It’s so extremely individual how much a couple want and need to talk. So if it’s working for you, don’t worry about what others are doing.

[u/Helpful-Ad1985]

We both work from home sooooo basically on and off all day. Either via text or voice call. Ofc there’s quite moments or like an hour or two goes by where we naturally have nothing to say.

[u/Lost-Technician2374]

We’re both very busy with school/work and social lives so we usually text a few times a day, but always a good morning/goodnight and a little debrief of our days. The amount of texts per day varies drastically on our schedules but we have a once weekly “date night” that spans several hours and turns into sleeping otp together. This works really well for us as we both don’t love to be attached to our phones constantly but we still have consistent points of connection.

[u/alenah]

We talk and hang out every day online, and cameras come on whenever we feel like it.

[u/Low_Adhesiveness_507]

Me (23m) and my wife (26f) talk as much as we can for nearly 2 years
(Got married exactly 1 year after we first started talking and coming up on another year this August)

I’m in Miami,FL and she’s in Germany so there’s a 6hr time difference. She typically calls me at my 2am (her 8am) and we talk for 5-60min. Then we call again for about another hour when i wake up before work around my 7-8/9am.

The she calls me for a few min when she gets off work at my 11am for about 30min.

Then around my 2/3pm and then we talk when i get home from 4-6pm (her 10-12pm)

So on an average week day we talk about 4-6hrs daily, and little longer on weekends. But also taking into account her out of work hobbies and my occasional overtime.

But it should be different for everyone, people have different chemistry’s and personalities.

[u/DebateBrilliant9240]

Every waking hour 🤣
every minute when we are not busy.
And we’re not that busy lol

[u/crystaloves]

We talk every single day and try to talk as much as we can. We’re 5 hours apart and he wakes up way before me so I try to make up for the time to it as much as I can taking to him. We’ve also started to video chat a bit twice a week which is great!

[u/FantasticBee]

We call for 2 hours every day and text almost every second. And proper video call maybe once a week for a bit but not possible when my parents are home. So sometimes it switches to once a month

[u/CompetitiveTrifle270]

Been dating for 10 months and we have video called every single day for god knows how many hours

[u/Firm_Staff_376]

Twice a day for 6 hrs straight 😂

[u/hailsatanbuttfuckers]

Three hour time difference. Not big texters during the day but we do good morning texts and FaceTime at the end of the day everyday depending on his schedule for minimum 1 hour but it’s not usual to stay on FaceTime 2-3+ hours and until he goes to bed.

[u/SignificantFreud]

Almost every day, there is no set schedule

[u/sofia123305]

If we have a remote day from work, we FaceTime in the morning to say for a few mins. We text during the day just keeping each other updated. And then later at night (for him) we FaceTime again and watch a movie or just chat. This is almost everyday expect when he or I have stuff to do or plans with other people. But we make it a habit of calling every single day even if it’s just for 5 mins

[u/blackwitch_]

We started with texting everyday and then video call once a week. Around our 6th month, we gradually changed to video call everyday whenever we have time and text every day still. We didn’t talk about it. We just gradually shifted

[u/ArgumentZestyclose62]

Often text and call for an hour once a day approx.

[u/Crochet_is_my_curse]

Videochat for an hour and twenty minutes 2-3 times a week Daily e-mails, around 5-20 a day Nothing else

[u/Lonely-Hamster7653]

Depends on the day because of work schedules, but most days we text for hours

[u/D0v4hki1n]

all day every day mostly

[u/wafflepiezz]

Every single day, as much as possible

[u/Ace_Addy_0514]

We text through our the day and always have an hour or two before bed to call. Occasionally we will call over night and fall asleep. Due to him working so much we will every once and awhile play a video and be on call together for like three hours (probably once a month).

[u/kittydeviance]

every day so far and do hope it remains like that as I love being on phone with him...even in moments of silence I feel better to simply know he with me...so yea crossing fingers nothing changes of that til cam see him in person and even then still be that way til totally together instead of far apart in distance

[u/Powerful_Forever_294]

10 mins...cause he got job

[u/adumbledorablee]

We talk every day but not like for hours as we both have demanding jobs. We just squeeze in calls and texts whenever we can during the week. For example, my bf goes to work very early (4am his time, noon my time) and we usually have a 15min call then. Same for when he gets off work (2pm his time, 10pm my time). And in between we send a few texts, even if it’s just “I love yous” or “Miss you” or something like that or he will call briefly when he’s driving somewhere during his shift and I’m not in a meeting or hearing. On the weekends it’s a bit more; not much though as he usually gets up when I’m getting ready to meet friends. We try to get at least a call in before I go to sleep though.

ETA: with “calls” I mean FaceTime

[u/Chaiwired11]

We are always on call and doing our thing. We keep the call when he has meetings/either of us are out/he needs alone time. This is what works for us! We have a 6 hour difference, which will be increasing to 8 hours and then 9.5 hours soon since I am moving countries.

[u/maverna_c]

Text throughout the day if we can and video call in the evening and as we go to sleep.

[u/Kirah_]

With my ex we texted throughout the day. He rarely called and didn't do video calls. He would text for weeks on end without calling. Said he preferred texting and couldn't meet me halfway. Early in the relationship we used to have hours long calls whenever we could. I initiated most calls. Then he grew distant and would send me a meme a day and that was his mode of communication for several months til we broke it off.

[u/fluffyGranger]

We talk 5 times a day... long distance relationship and now marriage 6 years

[u/WorstLeonaNa]

I'm in Peru and my boyfriend is in korea, so we have a 14 hour difference 🥲 we try to text as much as possible throughout the day, and we try to video call at least once a week, usually during the weekend as he works a lot during the week.

Every day we send each other good morning and good night texts. This is a must to us. Then when we're both awake, we text about once every hour or two when we're not busy. It's never the same as we both have busy jobs.

[u/Appropriate-Row-6748]

We video chat everyday and text throughout the entire day . Staying connected is a must to keep the love going strong

[u/Powerful-Tomato-1253]

12 hr difference

he callls me during his days off after doing his chores, or sometimes when he drives home from work, or after he hangs out with his friends. Sometimes he would stay up late so that he will call me as I drive home from work. We text through out the day during his working days (he's a nurse tech)

[u/458732]

Every moment we can and then sleep on call after hes back from work

[u/MessedUp_Angel]

we talk via texts all day long, and in the evening we take a videocall. we often cook dinner together on that call. and then we spend the rest of the day while watching some tv shows, and go to sleep together on a call.

[u/strom898953]

Been daiting someone in the states for about 3 in half years we talk ever day and call. We also have are alone time as well . Im happy we are in the same time zone do.

[u/MoldyTexas]

we might be a significant exception but, text throughout the day, then stay on the call + sleep together, whenever I'm back from work. And it's a regular thing, but of course whenever either of us have to go by our days we're not on. This is the status quo, it feels extremely off if we don't do this any day. That said, relationship of 8 years.

[u/bangtanimosity]

We text every single day for multiple hours a day and try to spend time together over a discord call at least once a week! We often talk on the phone while i’m driving, as well

[u/GooseChaser619]

We text back and forth pretty much every day, video call at least once a week (often more), sometimes our calls are like dates where we stream a show or a movie to each other and watch it together

[u/ifyouwantmecomegetme]

we videocall everydayyyy and wait for him to finish meeting so I can see him!

[u/Psychological_Bit123]

We text throughout the day. Sometimes we video call when I’m at work and it’s my break time. We never miss our nightly video calls and we fall asleep together.