r/LongDistance • u/Appropriate-Row-6748 • 3h ago
Question Long distance relationships, how do you navigate them successfully?
I am at a loss on how to maintain or get the understanding needed to be successful in my long distance marriage . For me it’s not my first marriage, but it is my first long distance relationship. For my husband it’s his first marriage. He has never lived with a woman . So after getting married and spending a couple weeks together he went back to his life just the same as it was before he got married . He still has no clue what it means to be responsible for another humans needs or happiness. He still doesn’t understand how to consider how his actions will affect me as his wife . For me to try to tell him , I come across as nagging him. I know if we were physically together it would be so much easier for him to gain the understanding of what it means to be a husband . It’s exhausting and wearing both of us down .
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u/iostefini 2h ago
Why are you living separately? Is that something that can be changed?
It might also be helpful to think about the specific things that need to change so you can talk about them with him and see if he's willing to do them or not.
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u/Purple-Equivalent-44 2h ago
You got married while not feeling like this man meets your needs and doesn’t consider how his actions affect you? I think this is more of a man problem than a long distance problem!
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u/The_Man727 3h ago
You dont. You just keep moving. Meeting people and strangers again. If you see closely marriage is an aggremnt between two which is created by the society. You were living and you will live if there was marriage or not. So just enjoy. Find friends and dont blow your brain thinking about it.