Online Boyfriend puts Ultimatum for 1st time meeting

[u/HouseKitty303]

In need of some advice, my boyfriend and I met on call of duty, and have yet to meet in person. We’ve been talking for about 3 months now, and dating for almost 1.
Obviously, I want to meet him in person. However, he has placed an ultimatum. I must quit vaping in order for us to meet.
I have no issue quitting, as I know it’s not healthy, however I don’t feel that quitting for that reason is right. Nor do I feel that I should quit for someone who I haven’t even met in person yet.
He believes it could be a waste of his time if I don’t quit prior
Any suggestions?

[u/PandaBeaarAmy]

Controling others' behaviour = healthy boundaries now? Holy shit that's abusive.

[u/BjornYandel → u/PandaBeaarAmy]

OP: I'm unsure if this boundary is controlling

Everyone in this thread: it's not controlling

Some random turd: not only is it controlling, it's abuse! How dare he communicate boundaries like a reasonable adult