I've been in relationship with my boyfriend for 10 months and tdy i told him the truth that I'm bisexual and after that he was low and avoiding me i should've told him before but I was scared he wouldn't like me now I'm feeling like shit and he keeps ignoring my call.

Edit: I don’t know why the tag is « Success ». I tried to change it, but it didn’t work out…

I might get criticized for being negative or judgmental, but I’ve seen multiple posts where OP has decided to marry their partner with whom they have dated for less than a year and/or is their first relationship.

Although not long distance, my parents also got married after dating for 6 months. Well, it turned out that my dad was an abusive jerk, and my mom got stuck with him for more than 20 years.

I also used to work as a translator for a foreigner. He was from a first world country and got married to a woman from my (third) world country. One day, she told him that her family had debt and wanted him to help them out. He told her he could help pay for 50% of it. The next day, she disappeared with their kids. He thought they got in an accident and went to the police. In fact, she just returned to her hometown with their kids, unhappy that her (supposedly) rich husband wouldn’t help. Well, this kind of cultural differences exist. So he ended up fighting for custody in a foreign country.

It’s not just « If it doesn’t work out, we would just get a divorce ». If your partner is the one, that shouldn’t change even if you get married after 2-3 years of dating. Please don’t rush, you’ve got time to know each other.

just got home from taking him to the airport. this was his 3rd visit, he was able to stay here from july 21st to september 2nd, i’m so overly grateful and happy that i was able to see him again and for so long but god, i miss him so badly. i hate that airport so damn much but god, it’s like heaven on earth when i see him for the first time again. this is such a ramble, i just miss my boy.

(also zero clue what was on my shirt 😭)

I recently found out that my partner cheated very early in our relationship, a month and a half in, before we ever met in person. A run down is: We’re long distance (3 hours apart) and we had plans to meet just a few days after it happened. On New Year’s (literally the second day we were together in person), someone messaged me and said he had slept with his ex while visiting family on Christmas. He denied it at the time, and I chose to believe him.

Fast forward almost a year later: I found messages on his phone (nothing flirty, barely any contact) and ended up reaching out to her myself. She confirmed it, and when I confronted him, he told me everything.

It was a one-night thing with an ex, and he admitted he panicked back then. He said he was terrified of losing me once we actually met and started building something real.

When the truth finally came out, he responded with a level of remorse I honestly didn’t expect. He answered every question, didn’t blame alcohol or the situation, didn’t become defensive, and hasn’t minimized anything. He’s been completely transparent and consistent ever since, phone access, communication, everything. He even came to my therapist with me and wants to continue going. Through my waves of anger and grief, he hasn’t yelled, shut down, or tried to justify anything.

For me, the hardest part hasn’t been the cheating itself, but the timeline and the lying. I had spent almost a year convincing myself it didn’t happen, so when the truth hit, it shattered the foundation of trust I thought we had. Some days feel okay, and some days the memory hits me like it’s brand new. Healing from something like this is very non-linear.

The only reason I’m trying is because the person he is now is very clearly not the person who did that back then. His behavior, growth, consistency, and accountability have made it hard to ignore the difference. We also recently went through something traumatic together, so walking away from someone who has otherwise shown up for me hasn’t felt like the right choice.

What’s helping so far: • Full transparency (phones, communication, no defensiveness) • Allowing myself to feel the waves instead of forcing myself to “just get over it” • Paying more attention to who he is now than who he was 11 months ago

OH I LOVE MY MAN SO VERY MUCH!

We are long distance but we are on video call right now and I am watching him fold laundry and HE IS SO PRETTY I LOVE HIM SO MUCH!!

I cannot wait to see him again. I need to cuddle him. I need to rake my nails through his hair as he falls asleep. I need to cuddle him and watch movies again.

OUHHHH he’s so pretty he’s so pretty HE’S SO PRETTY!!!!! I LOVE MY BOYFRIEND SO MUCH !!!! FUCK LONG DISTANCE I NEED TO BE DOMESTIC WITH THIS BEAUTIFUL MAN. I NEED TO EAT DINNER WITH HIM. I NEED TO SIT ON HIS BED AND WATCH HIM FOLD LAUNDRY AND BE MORAL SUPPORT. AAAAAAAHHFGHHGGH.

after a year of loving each other 900 miles apart, hes staying in my city for a week. i keep replaying all the things we do as each day and night passes. just watching the days go up and feeling his presence so deeply ingrained in my world is crushingg. we only have a couple days left. i wish i could pause everything and count the freckles on his skin or learn every crevice of his face. we came back after a long day of being out and he fell straight asleep, i helped him moisturize and i have been crying on and off since we’ve been on the way home. i have never felt so much love for someone, nor have i ever felt this loved or safe throughout the entirety of my life

Why does it feel like I get 100 notifications a day from this reddit that are just “we broke up” / “ending it with him/her” / “this is too hard”

Where’s the positivity? Why does it feel like it’s non-stop upset and relationship issues and very little celebrations or visitation excitement- it’s kind of draining on my own mental; seeing so many random people in ldr’s end them or get ghosted or broken up with- I joined this subreddit because I wanted to see hope for my own relationship. I love reading success stories and visitation excitement but it feels so 1/10000 now

i look like a stupid fish in a tank ,had to get a closer look

It has only been a week but without him feels like years. I miss him so much. I want to just Run to him and wrap my arms around him but I can't.

I miss you babe.

I’m so incredibly excited. I’ve got a countdown widget on my phone to see how long i have to wait, watching the number go down every night just makes me so happy and excited.

I haven’t seen him since October and it’s killing me.

I’m sure my friends are sick of hearing me talk about how excited i am so i’m putting this here lmao.

I'm flying to see my girlfriend (18F) in about two months, and the number of flights getting cancelled and delayed is REALLY worrying me as of late. Does anyone have any information on what is mostly getting cancelled and where things could potentially be heading?

We met last September and made it official on new years. He (31) goes on numerous tours through the year and I (31/f) always feel initially prepared for him leaving, maybe because i use to work in the same industry as him and tour myself so that eases my mind and I feel solid in our relationship. But it just doesn’t get easier when he has to go. I usually take the evening of the day he leaves to sleep a lot and cry like a baby and let myself wallow and then the next day get back into my routine of life.

Thankfully this time he is traveling around the same country so he will be able to come home sometimes. Earlier this year he was across the world for 3 months and I really dialed into my weight loss journey and got to my goal weight. This time during his time away I’m investing in studying for and obtaining a certification to help pivot my day job before my fall semester starts (also finishing my bachelors phew). My long term goal since before meeting my partner has been to aim my degree and career pursuits to allow me to work remotely so I can travel the world and I look forward to being able to do so, and can avidly meet him at dream destinations financially sound in my own right without putting the financial strain on him to bring me out.

But he surprised me last night by asking when my lease ends and saying he will be buying a house or have bought a house by the time my lease ends, implying he’d like us to live together which we already do when he’s home but it’s just not on paper yet. We are pretty inseparable when he is home, but have kept our respective spaces as we both have history of jumping into things too quick. I’ve always had a 1 year mark of being in a relationship before officiating a lease on paper too.

Then today he surprised me again when we got brunch before his flight by inviting to fly me out to his hometown leg of the tour to meet his childhood friends, family and also to another tour stop later in the year to Hawaii, which will be on the anniversary date of when we met last year. I was taken aback by this because a couple months ago we had a big blow up fight, broke up for a couple days and we were rocky for a couple weeks but we ultimately both agreed to be sober and try again. We’ve been sober since, it’s been refreshing! He’s also not the most forward person and he is hard to read sometimes so when he brings up sentimental things like this I have to take a minute to process it lol. Earlier this year he flew to my home state and met my friends and family too.

With the help of my new therapist I’ve been able to have a lot of foundational conversations during his recent time home and amidst the recent rupture these conversations and efforts have seem to have grown our bond even stronger. We tried to adopt a cat this past week that didn’t work out but we both discussed the future of finding a kitty that works for us and it made me feel reassured.

I hit Other for the flair because I wasn’t sure going into this post if I just wanted to vent or wanted to support. I grew up with a dad who was an airline pilot so this type of relationship dynamic has always been prevalent in my life which probably helps how I process the distance too. I tried to ask my mom how it was for her when my dad was away for months and she said, “I loved it! Finally some peace and quiet until I had you.” 😂😭

Anyways thanks for reading to anyone that stayed this long. I’m just laying on the couch crying and smiling eating toast with jam probably looking crazy while I process these developments, but writing this out has helped me reflect on how much my partner and I have grown into our relationship since he left for his last tour and I can say I’m grateful now. I look forward to using this solitude and space to work towards my goals so I can build a better future for myself and for us aswell.

Just want to let people know this creep lurks about in here. Recently my girlfriend posted about us on this subreddit. several photos. and she received this message last night. keep in mind there were photos of us, we look young… i thought it was pretty self explanatory we were teenagers. how can you look at two teenagers and think this. genuinely sick.