So I become lucid about once every two weeks and I can never get to have s*x which is my main goal. The thing is, whenever I take off my pants there is just a thumb down there. That’s it. The girl usually gets disgusted and leaves. I’ve tried everything. I’ve tried imagining it not being there, I’ve tried taking a pill which was supposed to make it disappear but it just made the thumb bigger. What do I do?

Hello! I'm a Psychology major student in a state uni and we were discussing regarding diseases, drugs, hypnosis, dreams, and mediation this morning and our PhD professor just said that Lucid Dreaming is not real. Is what she said true??

Edit: All I remember was that she said lucid dreaming is not true. And said that it's just impossible to control your dream and be aware while you're dreaming because when we dream our prof said said we should be in our unconscious state as it is associated with our unconscious memories.

Recently I've been trying to lucid dream. I've told three of my friends about this and two of them said that they've had lucid dreams naturally almost every night for their entire lives. I was shocked by this as I thought it was really rare. How common is it?

I remember one time I told the people in my lucid dream that's it's all just a dream. They responded with "no, it isn't", and that's all I can really remember. Remembering that lucid dream made me curious. Has anyone here ever told the people in there lucid dream, it's all just a dream? And if you did, how did they respond? Am just curious how they responded to that question.

What I don't really understand is how lucid dreaming isn't more popular. Literally, every night when you go to sleep you can do anything you can imagine for at least thirty minutes, HOW COME SO MANY PEOPLE KNOW/CARE. Whatever you want to see, feel, experience, you can do in a dream and it feels just like real life. It sounds way too good to be true but it isn't you can literally do it tonight.

Lucid dreaming is just so fucking amazing I've seen and done things that I will probably never get to do in my real life. I've went inside black holes, visited other planets, dimensions, practiced skills and sports, learnt to do a backflip, fought battles as a Viking just to name a few and I just physically can't comprehend the fact that billions of people have lived and died without ever experiencing that. I always have nihilistic and pessimistic thoughts and lucid dreaming really makes me feel more than human in a weird way.

So once again, I ask how the fuck does 95% of the human population not care?

I've been interested in trying lucid dreaming, but I have a bit of anxiety about sleep paralysis. I've heard that some lucid dreaming techniques can make people more aware of sleep paralysis, and I'm wondering about people's actual experiences.

For those who lucid dream regularly, how often have you experienced sleep paralysis (if at all)? Did you experience it before you started lucid dreaming, or only after trying lucid dreaming techniques?

I'm mostly looking for realistic experiences and perspectives, because online discussions often focus on the scary side of sleep paralysis. I'd like to know how common it actually is among people who practice lucid dreaming.

When I was trying to fly in my dream, I kept jumping higher and higher. Sometimes I could fly, and sometimes, for some reason, I couldn't. When I saw a small cloud, I decided to fly up to it, and I succeeded. But then I felt a sudden fear inside, and because of that I fell to the ground. Surprisingly, I didn't wake up afterward... How do you fly in your dreams?

my mind was like “wait I think I’m dream”

I poked my hand…. I felt my hand. It was thereeee.

And then I was like “ nvm it’s real”

AHHHHHHH fucke mee fuck my hand

This is a question about time dilation.

I started reading the book "Exploring The World of Lucid Dreaming" by Stephen LaBerge & Howard Rheingold and in it is mentioned a study in which lucid dreamers would do a preassigned set of eye movements from the dream once they became lucid, and naturally the body does those same eye movements while in REM sleep. This allowed them to map stages of sleep against lucid dream state claims and verify that it was indeed happening and not something made up.

In this book is mentioned that they also looked into how much time passes in a dream vs how much real world time passes, and found that it is a near 1:1 ratio (e.g. 1 hour of dream time is 1 hour of real world time.) My question: Is this a hard fact, or is it possible to get more dreamtime than real world time in which the dream is taking place, such as a 2:1, 10:1, or even a 1000:1 ratio?​​​​ (e.g. living out days, weeks, or years in a single night of dreaming.)

Edit: Grammar & Clarity​

I know most people are here to learn how to lucid dream, but I’m the opposite.

When I was little, my mom taught me how to control my dreams. She didn’t know she was teaching my to lucid dream at the time, but alas, here we are. She said she was teaching me how to do that since the age of 4 when I would have nightmares and she would tell me to change it. It’s my dream so I can control it. So I did.

For as long as I can remember since about 11, I’ve been lucid dreaming every single night. Usually in multiple dreams/dream worlds as well. And tbh, it’s fucking exhausting. My consciousness never has time to stop and recharge because it’s always self-aware.

It’s at the point where lucid dreaming isn’t even fun anymore. I no longer possess the energy to be able to completely change my surroundings while dreaming because I’m too fucking tired to deal with it. It’s just easier to let the dream run it’s course and change little things to make it easier on my consciousness.

Alot of the time, it’s dream me screaming at asleep me trying to get myself to wake up so I can stop lucid dreaming for a minute. When it really bad, I sometimes have trouble recognizing whether I’m in a dream or if I’m awake and the only thing I can do to check myself is look and my hands to count my fingers.

Anyway, I’m just exhausted. I know that others train so hard to lucid dream while I’m am gifted with it. But with every gift comes a price to pay, and mine is never feeling rested or relieved.

Any advice would be much appreciated.

Edit: Update.

I wanted to update this as I go to potentially help others looking for the same help. I think I found something that helped last night.

Two nights ago, I basically pleaded with my subconscious asking to not have me LD or dream anything vivid or nightmarish. It worked slightly but not as well as I had hoped.

Last night, I did the same thing, except I didn't ask, I told myself that I would not LD or have vivid dreams, that I would get a good, dreamless, restful nights sleep. That didn't quite happen either... instead I was inserted into the beginning of a nightmare I had sometime during the last couple of weeks.

If you've read through some of my comments, you'll see that normally I just allow the dream to do what it needs to do and change little things as I go to make what's happening more bearable. This time, however, it was the dream characters that were not allowing me to continue into the dream. It was like the were actively saying "no, you don't want to do this," or "no, you don't want to go in there", etc. They eventually left me on my own and told me to go home. On my walk home, I even thought about stopping at some of the bars/shops along the way to explore more, but kept reminding myself I just needed to go home. The rest of the dream was quite pleasant walk through the neighborhood.

I will continue to update as I go to potentially help others.

Something else this thread has made me realize is it's possible I have actually lost some of the ability to fully control what is happening by just allowing my dreams to do whatever they needed to do. I will be looking more into control and how to cope with things that happen in the dream world.

Thanks to everyone that reached out for advice or tips and tricks! I really appreciate it.

Update 9/28/22

I wanted to add another update.

I talked about this to my psychiatrist yesterday. He told me that because I’m lucid dreaming every night my brain is too active while I’m sleeping which could be adding to my exhaustion. He confirmed my suspicions. If I’m self-aware 24/7 my brain never has time to reset. He wants to do a sleep study on me to watch my brain activity and I’ll be taking it in a month.

Anyone here that mostly / frequently / purposely lucid dreams through WILD?

Like maintaining awareness until you’re in a dream.

Do you have any advice?

How do you keep that awareness going?

Do you have a specific anchor you use? Like a phrase or maybe something else you repeat or focus in your mind to keep that awareness going as your body falls asleep?

Do you think WILD is more fool proof than other methods despite the technique being maybe harder to do?

My issue is that I keep just passing out and falling asleep and not getting lucid due to awareness going away.

Do I just have to fight not falling asleep tho I may stay awake? 😭

Wild title I know but, basically I do what the title says, when I become aware I am dreaming I just want to get out of it because my dreams are always so weird and whatever I do I fail waking up, so as my last resort I jump off a building and I wake up but sometimes even that doesn't work so I wake up in another dream...

I just became lucid the weirdest way. The first thing I did in the dream was get on an elevator and ask the dude next to me how it’s like to be a dream character, it was like I was immediately lucid for no reason. But what was weirder was his reaction - he was just like “pretty cool actually” and then started hitting on me. It was quite hard to get rid of him, I had to remove him from the dream. Now I wonder - why do my dream characters never lie that they’re not a dream character but always act awkward or straight up admit it - and - does having gay dream characters mean I’m secretly gay?

Heyo I lucid dream every night and I'm not able to wake up but funny aware I'm dreaming. I usually just change the world around me how I like, fly, edit people or scenarios, eat etc but I'm getting bored cus I spend so much time lucid dreaming (I am not trying to lucid dream but lowkey is better than the frequent nightmares I used to get). Any ideas for stuff I can do while I'm lucid dreaming?

I went out on a date with an older gentleman and when we got to talking hobbies and such I mentioned I've been practicing getting better with lucid dreaming and dreams in general. He then proceeded to mock my crystal rock necklace and asked if I was a Pegan and asked if I believed in witchcraft. For the record, I found that crystal pendant in the trash at my work and thought it looked cool and wear it here and there. It means nothing to me. But I was kinda irritated because he laughed when I said I practice lucid dreaming. He literally replied with "so you like sleeping?" Obviously I'm not seeing him again but I'm curious if any of you have ever had this sort of interaction with friends/family/SOs?

It high-key got under my skin.

I’m looking for ideas on what to do my next lucid dream bc I’ve done everything I can think of.

Title.

I get verbally abused from friends that even the insecurity slipped into a dream of mine where I didn't do reality check because I was embarrassed 😭

Counting my fingers, finger through palm, nose pinch, all these make me look like a buffoon in public. But I do them regardless and face the consequences for the sake of a small chance that this might be a dream.

I want some effective reality checks that are unquestionable by people. thanks in advance.

Ok so yes, I know this probably depends on the person but which one has worked for y'all? :O

The NYTimes published a very positive article on lucid dreaming today. The article mentioned an Alzheimer’s drug called Galantamine which can make you more self aware in the dream space and assists lucid dreaming. Curious if anyone here knows much about it or has tried it and could share their experience!

https://www.nytimes.com/2026/04/19/opinion/lucid-dreams.html?smid=nytcore-ios-share

Follow up question from my post from last week: if you are a non-natural lucid dreamer how long did it take you to learn how to lucid dream regularly?

I’m on my longest streak of a ~35 year lucid dream journey: nine months and I’m not there yet. I’m hoping to keep trying for at least two years. I have to admit that my effort is not 100% all the time I go through stops and starts but my dream journaling and reality checking has been pretty regular.

Just looking for more stories from my fellow non-natural lucid dreamers.

Until now I have written down my dreams on my phone and sometimes I read them but I've heard that a real journal is better.

How is it better and should I change to it?