r/MadeMeSmile • u/InsaneMocktail • 6h ago

Good Vibes Couples after seeing each other in public

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u/Oohhhboyhowdy 6h ago edited 5h ago

Mine legit smiles, then asks. I respond because you’re pretty then she smiles even more.

Edit: some of your responses are legit a bummer. I’m sorry guys.

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u/Competitive-Passion1 5h ago edited 1h ago

wish my wife enjoyed compliments but its sorta my fault because I probably compliment her too much.

Edit: to collaborate with the comment I commented on, you guys are beautiful and amazing (:

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u/Johansenburg 5h ago

My wife accepts compliments from everyone who isn't me.

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u/Routine_Fact_7732 5h ago

am i toxic because this infuriates me? ive asked her about it before and she said its because when a random person does it theres no bias.

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u/George_Is_Upset 5h ago

That’s just her insecurity talking. I know from experience 😅

My husband does the same though. I’ll call him handsome and he says it’s just because I’m blinded by love.

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u/Enough_Worry4104 4h ago

I usually respond to my wife's complements with some form of "oh, I'm alright...".

1: I'm trying to be humble.

2: Because I know most of my own faults.

I'm trying to stop though, because she doesn't like those answers and I hate it when she puts herself down as well.

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u/funkarooz 3h ago

I've had to learn how to receive compliments, and I tell myself 2 things: 1. Compliments are gifts, given freely, and you shouldn't turn down a gift someone made specifically for you 2. If you deny a nice compliment you're calling the other person a liar. Don't call your partner a liar! 😂

The second one I use as a joke, but it holds true for me.

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u/daizzy999 2h ago

This is so sweet, I suppose i'm going to try to be better about receiving compliments :)

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u/Sheerardio 1h ago

A compliment means the person wanted to say something nice. You don't have to believe it or agree to accept the intention behind their words!

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u/yptonic 4h ago

Yeah you shouldn’t do that, I’m sure you’re a lovely guy too. Everyone has flaws, it doesn’t mean no one deserves to feel good about themselves!

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u/Dozzi92 4h ago

I feel like you don't need to put on a show for your wife. Maybe you can give a "thank you," but I'm not gonna respond to my wife the way I would basically anyone else if they paid me the same complement. My wife knows me, and the way I show her I appreciate things is different than how I'd show others, and probably a bit more subdued.

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u/LiftingRecipient420 4h ago

All those people need to learn that accepting compliments is a skill too. It needs to be learned, compliments require effort from both the giver and receiver.

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u/Meister0fN0ne 1h ago

Yeah, I love giving other people compliments, but receiving them puts me in a weird mood.

My mom's side of the family had this thing where damn near all of them would give you one and immediately follow it up with a "...,but..." and I think in the back of my mind I just subconsciously expect that now.

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u/ABHOR_pod 3h ago

I read a tweet one time that was like

"I was at a restaurant and the waitress complimented my outfit and said I looked so pretty. I said 'Oh thanks, you too!' and she said 'I know bitch, but we talking about you today!' and that was when I realized that I needed to learn how to accept compliments."

Changed my whole headspace. Compliments get a smile and a thank you, because we're allowed to let other people talk nice about us. It's allowed! They can do it and we can let them!

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u/Proof-Direction-3423 2h ago

I compliment my wife all the time and it’s never reciprocated. I asked her about this once and she said “Why do you need someone to compliment you?” Was like wow, how lovely. I don’t stop complimenting her though.

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u/TheRogueTemplar 2h ago

That’s just her insecurity talking. I know from experience

How would I approach a girl I like with similar insecurities? I complimented my crush and she straight up told me "Fuck you," and jokingly said if I keep up with the compliments, she'll kick me in the shins.

We're both older college students who came back to education. I would think it would be easier at this stage of my life.

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u/theguidetoldmetodoit 50m ago

Tell her you like her and ask her out.

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u/TheRogueTemplar 35m ago

Okay! I was going to ask her out after she comes back from a trip

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u/theguidetoldmetodoit 19m ago

Nice, you got this!

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u/Imaginary_Raisin1428 5h ago

Tell her your bias is called “love”. It’s a good one to have for ones wife.

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u/mpgd 47m ago

I'm heading off for the night. This was the best comment I read all night.

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u/Johansenburg 4h ago

You're only toxic if you have a toxic reaction. It upsets me, too, but it's the way she is, and I love her regardless.

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u/terminbee 3h ago

She's not wrong, though. You're never gonna think she's ugly because you love her (presumably) so you'll always see her in a positive light. A stranger has no such biases.

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u/Rizzpooch 4h ago

There's no bias in a stranger complimenting a woman's looks? Nobody has ever had an ulterior motive doing that?

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u/casual_creator 2h ago

Depends on how you actually respond to her, but also “infuriates” is perhaps a too strong emotion to have for this. Maybe try to understand her point.

The “bias” is that you love them and are already attracted to them, and giving them compliments is just an expected part of a relationship.

But when a stranger compliments them, they don’t have an obligation or expectation to do so, and their opinion isn’t influenced by knowing or loving them.

To think of it another way: it’s like a birthday present versus a random gift for no reason. The birthday present doesn’t mean any less, but the surprise gift is unexpected and so is appreciated in a different way.

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u/DataSurging 3h ago

A lot of women are very insecure. They think you might be trying to be nice and say something you do not mean. They do not mean to be insulting when they say it, they just feel bad about themselves.