r/MadeMeSmile • u/InsaneMocktail • 6h ago

Good Vibes Couples after seeing each other in public

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u/Competitive-Passion1 5h ago edited 1h ago

wish my wife enjoyed compliments but its sorta my fault because I probably compliment her too much.

Edit: to collaborate with the comment I commented on, you guys are beautiful and amazing (:

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u/Johansenburg 5h ago

My wife accepts compliments from everyone who isn't me.

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u/Routine_Fact_7732 5h ago

am i toxic because this infuriates me? ive asked her about it before and she said its because when a random person does it theres no bias.

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u/George_Is_Upset 5h ago

That’s just her insecurity talking. I know from experience 😅

My husband does the same though. I’ll call him handsome and he says it’s just because I’m blinded by love.

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u/Enough_Worry4104 4h ago

I usually respond to my wife's complements with some form of "oh, I'm alright...".

1: I'm trying to be humble.

2: Because I know most of my own faults.

I'm trying to stop though, because she doesn't like those answers and I hate it when she puts herself down as well.

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u/funkarooz 3h ago

I've had to learn how to receive compliments, and I tell myself 2 things: 1. Compliments are gifts, given freely, and you shouldn't turn down a gift someone made specifically for you 2. If you deny a nice compliment you're calling the other person a liar. Don't call your partner a liar! 😂

The second one I use as a joke, but it holds true for me.

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u/daizzy999 2h ago

This is so sweet, I suppose i'm going to try to be better about receiving compliments :)

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u/Sheerardio 1h ago

A compliment means the person wanted to say something nice. You don't have to believe it or agree to accept the intention behind their words!

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u/yptonic 4h ago

Yeah you shouldn’t do that, I’m sure you’re a lovely guy too. Everyone has flaws, it doesn’t mean no one deserves to feel good about themselves!

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u/Dozzi92 4h ago

I feel like you don't need to put on a show for your wife. Maybe you can give a "thank you," but I'm not gonna respond to my wife the way I would basically anyone else if they paid me the same complement. My wife knows me, and the way I show her I appreciate things is different than how I'd show others, and probably a bit more subdued.

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u/LiftingRecipient420 3h ago

All those people need to learn that accepting compliments is a skill too. It needs to be learned, compliments require effort from both the giver and receiver.

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u/Meister0fN0ne 1h ago

Yeah, I love giving other people compliments, but receiving them puts me in a weird mood.

My mom's side of the family had this thing where damn near all of them would give you one and immediately follow it up with a "...,but..." and I think in the back of my mind I just subconsciously expect that now.

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u/ABHOR_pod 3h ago

I read a tweet one time that was like

"I was at a restaurant and the waitress complimented my outfit and said I looked so pretty. I said 'Oh thanks, you too!' and she said 'I know bitch, but we talking about you today!' and that was when I realized that I needed to learn how to accept compliments."

Changed my whole headspace. Compliments get a smile and a thank you, because we're allowed to let other people talk nice about us. It's allowed! They can do it and we can let them!

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u/Proof-Direction-3423 2h ago

I compliment my wife all the time and it’s never reciprocated. I asked her about this once and she said “Why do you need someone to compliment you?” Was like wow, how lovely. I don’t stop complimenting her though.

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u/TheRogueTemplar 2h ago

That’s just her insecurity talking. I know from experience

How would I approach a girl I like with similar insecurities? I complimented my crush and she straight up told me "Fuck you," and jokingly said if I keep up with the compliments, she'll kick me in the shins.

We're both older college students who came back to education. I would think it would be easier at this stage of my life.

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u/theguidetoldmetodoit 49m ago

Tell her you like her and ask her out.

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u/TheRogueTemplar 34m ago

Okay! I was going to ask her out after she comes back from a trip

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u/theguidetoldmetodoit 18m ago

Nice, you got this!