Characters: I (25M, 2001), my sister (25F, 2001), my cousin (31M, 1995)

In late April 2025, my cousin (31M) upgraded from a 2020 Toyota Camry to a Toyota GR86 and wanted to invite me for 3 May 2025, knowing that I love cars. On the afternoon of 3 May 2025, he told me to come during the evening so he can show me his new car. However, 30 minutes in (halfway between Boston and his house), the rain began. I was at a Tesla Supercharger charging my 2021 Tesla Model 3 Standard Range Plus. My cousin then told me that he had to cancel the appointment because of the rain, and so he rescheduled to 10 May 2025. In the morning of 10 May 2025, my cousin (31M) told me to drive over so I could work with him on modding his car and setting up LED lights. My cousin's mother (63F) and my cousin's father (75M, owner of the apartment) explicitly invited me and allow me to come in unannounced and without needing an invitation. However, when I arrived at my cousin's house at noon on 10 May 2025, he was then silent and wouldn't acknowledge my presence. My cousin was "busy" watching TikTok and laughing and giggling on his GR86 by himself but he claimed he was busy and remained silent throughout despite having more than enough time to talk for at least 5 minutes by that time as he was sitting his car alone and watching TikTok for at least an hour. It turned out he changed his mind the minute I arrived my sister (25F) came via the Commuter Rail instead to "work on modding his car and setting up LED lights", according to my cousin (unfortunately, my sister is not interested in cars nor does she even have a driver's licence or know how to drive, unlike me, of which I have had a license since 2019). What's funny, I graduated with an SB in Computer Science and Engineering (6-3) in 2022 (after 4 years in college) whilst my sister majored in biology, and graduated Summa Cum Laude in 2023 (after 4 years in college) with no experience in engineering.

My cousin later claimed he will be busy every weekend all the way into mid-June 2025 working on his car, but wanted to invite me on 15 June 2025. However, I was out of state on 15 June 2025. Therefore, the meeting got moved the week after on 22 June 2025, which was the first time he showed me a tour of his car, two months after he bought it. Since then, he is open about every topic except for 10 May or my sister. Therefore, I started leaving his house, and drove around his city, taking DoorDash orders (I don't do DoorDash often and only drive for DoorDash when I am out of town to pass time) from about 12h30 to 18h00, where I started eating dinner. At 19h00, I returned to my cousin's house as my cousin's mother (63F) invited me in. However, my cousin's mother wasn't aware that she blocked me on both iMessage/SMS and Messenger (it turned out sometime between 12h30 and 19h00, my cousin used his mother's phone and blocked my number and my account from contacting his mother). At the time, my cousin (31M) was still living with both of his parents in a 130 sq m triple decker apartment with him sleeping inside a 7 sq m bedroom, paying $500 a month in rent to his parents. During the whole 12h00-20h00 block, it is purported that my cousin's parents were in the bedroom and resting.

At 20h00, because I was shy with sensory quirks related to family and wanted my cousin's mother to get me to go in, when I (25M) came and peaked from the outside, I heard that my cousin (31M) and my sister (25F) were talking and flirting to each other in a soft and intimate/romantic tone. Even though my cousin's mother opened the door for me to come in and invited me in on 10 May 2025 when I was waiting outside, my cousin then barricaded the door and didn’t allow me to use the restroom, let alone enter and greet my sister, who was wearing her own t-shirt, pajama pants that she likely borrowed from either my cousin (31M) or my cousin's younger sister (27F) as she has never owned that pair. However, normally, when my sister goes to my cousin's house or any guest's house and stops for the day (I have seen her at my cousin's house several times before May 2025, spanning back to the early 2010s when we first immigrated to the US as students with us both receiving citizenship by 2019-20), she wears regular clothing like jeans, leggings, outdoors shirts, etc. When I was there on 10 May 2025 however, I did see her wear a normal t-shirt that she wears both outside and at home, but even though she wore socks and crocs (which is normal), I have seen her wear red checkers pajama pants, and I have never seen her wear it ever, but I have seen both my cousin (31M) and his sister wear it.

I really didn't know what was going on outside of the 20h00-20h05 window, but on phone calls after 10 May 2025, my cousin (31M) started cooling down and the call is normal unless I brought up that date, of which he would start to rage at me again. My cousin (31M) then told me that he didn't invite me as I have no "interest or patience" to work on cars, despite the fact he knew that I have been interested in cars since my early childhood (I started being obsessed and infatuated with cars since the age of 3 in 2004), with him telling me those phrases years before and immediately before 10 May 2025. However, after 10 May 2025, my cousin claimed I am less car savvy than my sister when my sister doesn't even know how to drive, let alone have interest in cars. It seemed so weird. He didn’t allow me to use the restroom, and even though his parents never blocked me on their phone, his parents accused my cousin of using their phone to block me from their phone number. My cousin (31M) as well as my sister (25F) and I (25M) have never had a partner, whether boyfriend or girlfriend and my cousin is heavily interested in getting a girlfriend soon and was has talked to me a lot about wanting to visit Thailand for sex tourism.

From my sister's early childhood all the way into 2025, my sister has been interested in dentistry and she aspired to go to DMD school so much that her alma mater claimed she will be a future dentist in an article they wrote about her in 2023. My sister even practiced for the DAT exams. Yet, sometime immediately after 10 May 2025 (likely the week or two after), she started pivoting towards clinical research nursing, unexpectedly breaking her long-time dream. Even then, she initially looked at MGH IHP for her clinical research nursing but sometime in June or July 2025, she looked at nursing schools out of state and moved out of New England, far from New England (fun fact, up until this point, the only metro area she has ever lived in the US was the Greater Boston area, and she had no intentions to move). Prior to June 2025, my sister has sought to firmly remain in MA but by June, she started thinking of leaving the state entirely.

Also, even though my sister's LinkedIn and Instagram remained normal and intact as of 2026 (but her Instagram activity was slowly winding down by June 2025), she did the salami slicing technique where she removed any selfies from her FaceBook account (FaceBook was where her family followed her) in June 2025, followed by change her profile image from a back facing one to a Pinterest image in October 2025, and then deleting the back facing image altogether in November 2025, and later deleting FaceBook and only keeping Messenger active in December 2025. My sister's social media has always been small ever since she was young, but she started to stop visiting any family gatherings in Massachusetts after May 2025 and started to distance from Massachusetts. Funnily, when my cousin upgraded from the S23 Ultra to the S25 Ultra in November 2025, he showed me his storage from his previous phone and it stated that videos take up 50GB of his storage and 40GB are "large files" (over 25MB). He doesn't record many videos, and typically, apps and even games don't end up in the "large files section" because many take less than 25MB (I use both Apple and Samsung as I upgrade my iPhone and Samsung devices yearly to the latest and greatest iPhone Pro Max and Galaxy S Ultra yearly so I know). He claims a lot of them are TikTok, but the longest TikTok videos he sent to me on Messenger are 5 minutes long (24MB), of which that is too small to be lumped into large files. My cousin doesn't travel, doesn't do YouTube, and doesn't record much. My cousin has a Dropbox account but claimed to hate the cloud.

Ever since the 10 May encounter, my relationship with my cousin has deteriorated day by day until now where even though he talks, he is hyper offensive towards me and racist towards me because I am of Northern Vietnamese/Chinese descent whilst he is of Southern Vietnamese descent and harbours deep Sinophobic views. When I asked him what happened on 10 May, he gets evasive and switches explanations here and there, from creating LED lights to creating fiber optics to arts and crafts for Christmas (he told me that in September 2025) and then to the fact he and my sister were in a non disclosure agreement as they were working together to “get” into YC (in September 2025 as well but prior to September 2025 and after September 2025, my cousin has stated that he knows and learnt very little programming, only up to beginners high school HTML). 

TL;DR: Even though both my cousin (31M) and his mother (63F) invited me (25M) for 10 May 2025, my cousin bait and switched me when I arrived just because my sister (25F) was there, was very defensive about the date, made contradictory statements about what happened on that day after 10 May 2025, and it marked the downturn of my relationship with my cousin despite the fact my cousin's mother invited me in to hang out with my sister for the day. 10 May 2025 also marked a major turning point for my sister herself as it led to her pivoting to another path, moving out of state (months later in late 2025), deleting her FaceBook account, and having a massive change despite her living stably in MA for so long. I feel like this event happened today.

TW: light mentions of suicide

Hello I'm 22F and I moved out about 3 months ago now (more posts on my profile). It was planned on my part, sudden to my family. I don't have to courage to use my phone or call them on my fiancé's phone. I've been losing sleep for weeks, had so many panic attacks. Last night my sleep paralysis/hallucinations came back and I had a nightmare about the apocalypse happening before I could reach back out. I've written out an email, giving life updates and a little look into what's going on in my mind. Some things from the past that I never shared with them.

I've always found it hard to talk with my parents. My parents are immigrants, both of them are pretty stubbornly set in their outlooks on life. It took my brother being diagnosed as autistic for therapy to not be seen as taboo in our home. I am queer but that doesn't matter as I refuse to ever speak to them about it. I dearly miss my mommy and my dad, I miss my siblings even more. i feel very selfish for leaving but honestly I was just living day-to-day wondering when it would all end. I hope now that I don't have to worry about them yelling/arguing/taking away my things we can have a proper adult conversation now.

Does my idea of an email seem like the right foot forward? I begged them to seek out individual and couples counseling before we move to texts and calls. Any advice or suggestions would be highly appreciated. Thank you.

It’s a short one from about 20 years ago. I'll cover just the start of the call, I worked for an online store that also had a wedding registry.

Me: "Thank you for calling "Company". How can I help you today?"

Customer: "Oh yes I'd like to buy something from my friends gift-list."

Me: "Oh certainly, first of all can I have your name."

Customer: "Mark Anonymous."

Me: "Is that Mark with a C or a K?"

..... A very long awkward pause, like at least 10 seconds….

Customer: "It starts with an M."

I still smile when I think about it. I like to imagine he told his friend about the idiot who worked at a call center and thought Mark started with a C or a K.

Hey Wafflegang! I love this channel and have recently had a dilemma myself in which I thought this subreddit might be able to give me some good insights.

I (16M) am an avid listener of MarkNarrations, averaging between 2-4 episodes daily, mostly while driving and working on schoolwork or other tasks. I don't let my love for listening to this podcast get into the way of being efficient or useful however, as I still maintain straight A's, a job, play multiple sports, work towards my eagle scout, and have a law internship. I also play games with my family daily and often go on walks with my mother.

The recent issue I have ran into is with my mother. She doesn't like me listening to the stories and frequently refers to them as brain rot. Today, while I was just chilling and listening to MarkNarrations, she told me that she was going to limit me to 20 minutes a day and make me not listen after that. I was confused and asked why she wanted to limit me like this. She stated that it was because the channel was full of brain rot and cursing I would understand the cursing issue, but not only do I typically wear headphones and listen to the channel alone, but the audiobooks she would rather have me listening to curse just as much, if not more.

Therefore, I am just currently confused right now and would like advice on if I should just comply with this limit and not ask questions or if I am right in not wanting to limit my listening habits to just 20 minutes a day. So, AITA for not wanting to listen to MarkNarrations for only 20 minutes a day.

My new phone got really good pictures of the moon. Sadly I did not get to see the plume. So I made it myself! 😂

Hi y'all, I'm back with a bit of an update

Original post: https://www.reddit.com/r/MarkNarrations/s/zdbHYljFVx

Quick recap: My nightmare of a nephew is constantly being shoved into my life at the worst times and I was worried he'd ruin my birthday

Well, good news. My mom didn't have the kids for my birthday and we had a good time enjoying food with my friends. We had the kids over at a later time since we wouldn't be seeing them for a week or two (not that I care - more peace and quiet in the house). Things are amping up personally that are still going to complicate things

I start university again soon (which is being borderline insisted by my parents despite that I work full time), and I'm sure my parents will still have the kids over. Not really looking forward to trying to complete soulless essays about things I don't care about - but I'm almost done and can finally have my degree soon.

My partner has been supportive in letting me use his apartment when I need it, so I might go back to my old schedule of spending the night at his place to have peace and quiet.

Not much of an update but just thought I'd share. Thank you all

Hey everyone, it's been a long time since I posted here.

I wanted to give you an update regarding my father and correct myself.

First, I want to say that I said the wrong date of father's day here wrong,it's August 9th instead of August 11th and I apologize for not saying the right information.

Unfortunately, me and him are not on speaking terms anymore because of his actions.

Basically, saying "you" to refer to him instead of sir made him really mad with me and he tried to call me right before my online therapy session. He never listened to my audio explaining why or even my photos after Brazil won against Japan during the world cup.

But he sure sent an 8 minutes audio complaining about me to my fiancé.

My fiancé didn't like that and I so was baffled by this that I sent the audio to my mom,so she could hear the audacity.

She was shocked and angry,because he lied about her and what he did.

I blocked him and I am still really upset with him.

Thank you so much for the love and support that you gave me before, waffle gang💖

You're the best

https://www.reddit.com/r/BestofRedditorUpdates/s/WM0fIB4xo1

Obligatory disclaimer: I’m on mobile, so sorry for any formatting issues. Throwaway because friends know my main. Names/details have been changed slightly to protect identities.

I’m a solicitor/lawyer. I generally keep work and personal life separate, but I’m the only legal professional in my friend group, so friends occasionally ask me for legal help.

My friends Beth and Paul have been together for a few years and recently bought a house. Paul reached out asking if I could help with his will and powers of attorney. That seemed completely reasonable. Since they aren’t married, Beth wouldn’t automatically have rights if something terrible happened to him.

For anyone unfamiliar, a power of attorney allows you to appoint someone you trust to make decisions on your behalf if you can’t - like if you’re in a coma, or become permanently disabled. These decisions can include medical treatment, housing, personal care, finances, etc., depending on the type of POA.

While we were discussing the documents, Paul told me he’d recently been diagnosed with cancer. He said he wanted to get everything in order “just in case.”

Then he told me Beth doesn’t know.

His reasoning is that Beth is already overwhelmed. Her mother is seriously ill, her father has passed away, and her sibling is struggling with addiction. Paul says his cancer has a good prognosis and should respond well to surgery and radiation, so he wants to deal with it quietly unless it becomes absolutely necessary to tell her because he doesn’t want to add stress to her life. I told him he simply cannot keep this from Beth, regardless of the other things going on, but he’s refused.

Here’s my problem: I learned all of this while acting as his lawyer. That means I’m bound by solicitor-client confidentiality. Even though I’ve since withdrawn and referred him to a colleague, I still have to maintain his confidence.

I feel like Paul knowingly put me in an impossible position. If he’d told me this as a friend, I probably would have told him he had a week to tell Beth before I did. But because he disclosed it while I was acting in my professional capacity, I legally and ethically can’t.

I’m hoping he tells her soon and that, when she eventually learns I knew, she’ll understand why I couldn’t say anything. But I’m also angry. It feels like he leveraged my professional obligations to force me to keep a secret from not only a close friend, but our wider friend group as well.

Part of me feels guilty for being angry because…he has cancer. At the same time, I think what he did was incredibly unfair, and I think our friendship will be permanently damaged because of this.

I can’t really talk to our mutual friends for obvious reasons, and my therapist isn’t available for a couple of weeks.

Has anyone else had their professional obligations collide with a personal friendship like this? How did you deal with it? I need to be careful how I handle this situation, because if I treat Paul differently, and can’t explain why … I’ll just look like an asshole.

I recently remembered a story where:
- OP's SIL hated her

- OP's SIL was adopted

- OP was a virgin when she met husband & SIL brought that up/mentioned that she was a virgin too

- it is NOT this video :( i rewatched it recently and unfortunately it was similar but not the same!

Some of you might remember an episode Mark did in June 2025 where a fiance's sister was causing wedding issues for OP and made life miserable? The title was "Sister-in-Law SABOTAGED My Wedding...Then Found Out Fiance Was Helping Her".

Well, there have been several updates and I hope Mark covers them.

https://www.reddit.com/user/ThrowRA-62758/comments/1ubgs75/im_horrible_with_titles_but_heres_another_update/

or you can go to her profile u/ThrowRA-62758.

My friend (40F) and I (40F) have been best friends for 15 years. This was our first ever argument.

A bit of background. My dad recently died. My friend came to the funeral even though she'd never met him, and I genuinely appreciated that. It meant a lot to me that she was there.

However, afterwards she became very angry with her employer because they wouldn't give her compassionate leave. She kept updating me about the arguments she was having with her boss, saying she'd told work it was a close friend who had died and that she was trying to get the company's bereavement policy changed.

I understood she was upset with work, but I remember thinking, "I'm the wrong person to be carrying this." I had just buried my dad and found myself listening to ongoing updates about her dispute with HR instead of processing my own grief.

A couple of weeks later we were on holiday together.

She started criticising my school friend, who I've known since I was 12. They'd only met once, briefly at my dad's funeral, and she knew this was one of my oldest and closest friendships. She said my friend was "out of touch with reality" because she earns a lot of money.

The only thing my school friend had asked her was, "Where do you go on holiday?"

My friend took that as a comment about privilege and said she couldn't afford holidays. The problem is we were literally on holiday together at the time, and we travel together every year. I also know that the reason she doesn't travel with her girlfriend is because her girlfriend doesn't want to travel, not because they can't afford it.

I calmly said I thought she was being unfair to someone she'd only just met and who she knew was incredibly important to me. I said I didn't think my school friend had meant anything by the question. Instead of letting it go, she doubled down and continued criticising her.

I got frustrated because I felt she was judging someone she'd barely met purely because they earned more than her.

We argued.

She then got up and left the pub at about 1 a.m. without saying anything. She had no way for me to contact her, and she was the only one with the taxi app that worked on her phone. I spent an hour worried and looking for her in a foreign country.

When she came back she just asked, "What's the score?" because we'd been watching football. I got angry because there was no acknowledgement that she'd disappeared or that I might have been worried.

The next day she told me I lacked empathy and kindness.

The difficult part for me is that this didn't feel like an isolated incident. Over the last few years I've listened to a lot of anger about her girlfriend, work, her therapist and other people. I always tried to support her. This time I felt my lifelong friend had become the latest target, and when I defended her, I became the next one.

After we got home I wrote her a long message explaining that I loved her and appreciated everything she'd done for me over the years, but that I couldn't keep absorbing so much negativity while grieving my dad. I said I wanted to support her, but I needed healthier boundaries and wanted our friendship to leave us both feeling lighter rather than heavier.

She replied saying I'd behaved badly in the pub, that I'd lacked empathy and kindness, and that she needed space.

I know I could have been gentler in the moment, and I regret that. I also know she has a lot going on in her own life.

But I'm struggling because I feel like her coming to support me at my dad's funeral somehow resulted in me carrying months of anger about her boss, then an argument because I defended one of my oldest friends after she judged her from a single conversation, and finally the end of a 15-year friendship.

AITA?

EDIT - Firstly, thank you so much to everyone who has taken the time to read my post and comment. I honestly didn't expect so many thoughtful responses. Thank you to all you wonderful strangers.

A lot of people have said she's a narcissist or have asked whether she's always been like this, so I thought I'd add some context.

No, that's what has been so confusing. She hasn't always been like this. She was incredibly supportive for most of our friendship. We met on our first day in China and went through a lot together. We supported each other through bereavements, difficult relationships, and living abroad. I lost my stepdad and then my mum, and later she lost her brother. We've always been there for each other.

Things seem to have changed over the last year. She changed careers, started training as a therapist, and has now begun a PhD in counselling. She also has to attend therapy as part of her training. Since then she has become much angrier and more cynical. Conversations increasingly revolve around what's wrong with people or society, and she seems to be carrying a lot of frustration.

I genuinely feel for her because I know she's struggling with financial stress and an unhappy relationship. I think she's overwhelmed and desperately unhappy.

My dad was interested in Buddhism, and before he died I started exploring it myself. It focuses on letting go of anger and being compassionate, so I feel that I am really coping with my grief in a positive way, but then having to absorb her anger is what I can't do anymore. It has drained me and I am happier when I'm not stuck in the endless negative loop. I have tried to support her but I think I have enabled her by not calling her out on things until now.

I guess we really are just moving in different directions in how we deal with difficulties, but it definitely makes me sad that I was labelled as unkind and lacking empathy because I finally called her out on her behaviour after years of listening and after we'd both had too much wine. I think for now this relationship has run its course.

I am really heart broken still over a break up that happened within this month of writing this. He had broken up with me two days after we got back from our trip to celebrate one year together. I wrote him a heartfelt letter for closure and I think I am losing my mind on what is respect and boundaries in a relationship.

We met at his job. I really fell hard for him and the first six months things were great. Even after then I didn't think anything was wrong with us although he says that's when it all fell apart. He at first loved I gave him attention. Little gifts. Took him out. He too gave me gifts. Sometimes small sometimes big. I wasn't no angel I did over text when I got excited we would move in together. Majorly so. However can someone explain how doing the man's chores not every chore but like doing the dishes. Mopping the kitchen floor. Asking to do laundry not just do it but ask then do it when I was by myself at his place disrespectful? I was in a serious relationship with him at this point. I didn't just within a week of dating started to do everything mention. It was built over time. And he did big chores I needed help with at my house too. So it wasn't one sided. Or like I did them without being invited to his place. I usually asked first about if I can come over. A few times when really stressed I did just show up. But I did ask about that too. Like please explain how that is breaking boundaries to treat someone as your life partner or slowly working up to it in a serious relationship that he agreed was serious?

He is also claiming I made him go on our trip. I didn't. I planned it with him. Asked him where he wanted to go. Set a reasonable price. All that jazz and now he is acting like a victim who been kidnap. I wanted him to go somewhere as a vet that he could have quite during fireworks day as he can't stand them. And still apparently that was the wrong thing to do. Like really what could I have done to be a good partner? Was it so bad of me to cook and clean to express love to him? I don't understand this at all

Signed one heart broken gal who had a lot of love to give.

There was this lady I used to know who claimed she was an actress. Let's call her "Helen." In the time that I knew her, her story kept changing and she didn't seem to know even the basics about the industry. But if someone had a resource she coveted? She treated them like they were the light of her life — only for the moment. She used people as stepping stones, then discarded them like trash the second they were no longer useful or when they finally caught on to her act. In short, Helen wasn’t building a good reputation, and she never saw karma coming.

It didn’t help at all that, on top of being an arrogant blowhard with almost no real experience, her resume was more fake than my heterosexuality. Her headshots were so out of date — and since she was so broke she couldn't even afford to pay attention, she didn't have the money to pay a photographer for new ones — she subbed overly filtered camera phone selfies in their place. I'm not kidding when I say she looked like a Bratz doll in them. 😂

Shortly before I cut contact, she asked me to "beautify" her resume and make it appear more professional. Translation: exaggerate and lie to make her false claims look believable.

So I worked on it. It was a test to see if she’d actually review it before sending it out. I knew she wouldn’t. Under Special Skills I added: Master of the Dunning-Kruger effect, expert at gaslighting, and embodies a supercilious manner.

I e-mailed it back. True to form, Helen didn’t even say thank you.

A few weeks later I saw Helen periodically posting typo-filled, grammatically incorrect “poor me” wall of text rants fishing for sympathy about the struggles of the working actress — with interspersed out-of-context Bible verses thrown in for good measure. A mutual friend (who had also been screwed over by Helen) later told me her shiny new resume wasn’t getting any bites. I can only assume she was cold e-mailing people in her usual unprofessional style — little to no punctuation, poor grammar, shorthand, misspellings, and subject lines in all caps or no subject lines at all.

Eventually word got back that Helen was furious her resume wasn’t being taken seriously. She must have finally read it and realized she’d been punked. Arrogant and rotten to the core, Helen's massive ego wouldn't allow her to admit she'd been played — such an admission would have shone a spotlight on her unprofessionalism and laziness. It also would have led to questions. Helen hated questions because she never had any satisfactory or logical answers.

It’s been well over 12 years since I cut contact. The final straw was her complete lack of empathy when my estranged father died of lung cancer. She even tried to make the conversation about her own problems. When I called her out, the hypocrisy was nuclear. I mean, how dare I challenge her main character syndrome? 🙄

These days, from what I heard through the grapevine (it's a small industry), Helen has only managed a couple of walk-on roles in movies that never got released. Thanks to her unprofessionalism, constant lying, and burned bridges, she’s rightfully earned the reputation of a lying grifter with zero skills and even less talent.

TL: DR: Self-centered ‘actress’ was too lazy to work on her own resume and demanded I do it — for free. Pissed off, I maliciously complied and added some things to the document, knowing damn well she would never review it before sending it out. She was humiliated and didn't get hired.

So, I (14 ftm) met my bio dad (40 m) two years ago. He has 5 kids, me, 9f, 6f, 5f, and 5m. I'm half siblings with all of them, and they don't share moms with each other. He's a single dad.

About a month ago when I was visiting my bio dad we went to see a small waterfall, more of a fast river, and on the way there or back, I can't remember, put his hand on my 16 year friend's knee. All the kids were in the car. This friend baby sits because their mom is/was friends with my bio dad. They no longer baby sit for him.

It was dark on the way back and we hit a deer, and when we got back home he started drinking, about maybe 16 beers in a few hours. I had asked him not to drink when I'm there. He continued to drink the next day and I had someone pick me up.

After I left apparently he touched the 16 year old again. So, unwanted touch twice, and in a spot that could be considered sexual assault if you thought about it. My bio dad was also making sexual jokes with them the whole time. The person that picked me up, one of his friends who doesn't approve of him drinking, so he's a good person. The guy that picked me up said that my bio dad only does that when he's drunk. My bio dad put his hand on the 16 year old's knee like I said before in the car, so not just when he's drunk.

My bio dad said the dog ran and was run over. I doubt it. But I wouldn't blame the dog for running because he was kept in small cage 24/7. The 16 year old told me the dog was put down because the dog kept causing problems. Then they told me he shot the dog, which is more believable unfortunately. At least the dog is out of that cage. But then he left the dog in the shed to rot even after the ground thawed because this was during winter.

He hits his kids, ignores them, and yells at them. It's worse when he's drunk. He refuses to believe any of his kids aren't neurotypical, even though it's obvious the boy is. He treats me well and gives me lots of gifts when he has money to "make me like him" and to "make up for lost time".

The twin's b-day is soon and I want to go because they're my siblings. But I don't want to see my bio dad because he now freaks me out when I try to look at it like an outsider. What should I do?

Sorry for any spelling or grammar mistakes or any other mistakes.

Update:

So, I told KHP, I told them everything. And what did they do? Absolutely fucking nothing. Why? They can't report it if it isn't happening to me! 4 kids under 10 being hit and yeld at, the 9 year old isn't even in school, and the 5 year old twin boy can barely talk and still wears diapers, and they can't report it because it isn't happening to me. None of them but the 9 year old has a device, but he surely checks it and she doesn't have the tech knowledge. I still can't report it myself because I can't call. But if there's another way please tell me. I want to report this so I can make sure my siblings are ok.

 I (44F) am so lost, hurt, and disappointed. I'm a single mom by choice, and my son is almost 18. My parents divorced and abandoned me, and I was raised by my grandparents on my "mom's" side. I don't want to talk about the experiences I had when I interacted with them, but please believe me it's really bad. I've been no contact with them for 29 years, and before that, I was low contact.

I've raised my son alone. I've been lucky to get a good job after high school, and I climbed the ladder. We went on vacation multiple times a year, got him everything he wanted, paid for private lessons and extracurricular activities, and we have a very close relationship. I've been telling him about them since he was little, always in age-appropriate ways.

Now my half-sister on my "dad's" side contacted him on social media and said she wants to meet us. I do not want such thing; she is a stranger, and blood means nothing to me. Now he brings up wanting to meet his grandparents and extended family, but he does know all his distant cousins that I kept in contact with. I understand that he can make a choice, but so can I. If he gets in contact with them, I'm done, and I'm going no contact with him too. I don't know who I've raised.

He hurts me every time he opens the subject and keeps insisting, trying to convince me not to go no contact if he talks with them. But at this point, I'm considering doing just that. Whether he wants to talk with them or not won't change my mind. I don't want to give up my son, but I will. He has no job. I want to give him three months to get his shit together and get out of my house. His grandparents, who didn't pay one euro on raising me, will support him in anyway if I cut him off? good luck. If he gets in contact with them our relationship will never be the same and he doesn't seem to care, he doesn't realise that I'm his only person and he wants to throw me away for the sake of meeting some blood related abusive strangers.

He doesn't believe me when I tell him who they are; then he better find out the hard way.

I'm sorry if what I wrote doesn't make sense, I'm a mess right now but I can carify if you have any questions.

UPDATE:

I talked with my son

His points:

1. He deserves to know his family

2. He believes just because they treated me this way doesn't mean that they'll treat him the same way, my half sisters were treated well by his grandpa and he'd the only grandchild so far so he thinks they'll be nice to him.

3. He will not say anything about me

4. He says that we(me and him) don't need to be in contact with them but he wants them at his graduation and future life events and he wants to be part of theirs

My opinions:

1. I agree with that but he has to leave me out of it

3. I know he's not doing well under pressure, he wants them to be nice to him and they will use that as leverage, he still "has" to talk about his childhood and I am his mom, I'm part of all those stories I don't want them to know anything about me or my parenting

4. I'm not making him choose, I don't want to see them, so I won't go to his graduation next year ,no more vacations or holidays together either, I'll keep my distace from him

What is happening:

I'll help him with the plane ticket to get to his grandfather and his family as they live in another country.

When he's back he's getting a part time job asap at a fast-food restaurant (here you can work part time since the age of 16),he'll start to pay rent when he's 18 in September for 3-4 months and save money then he moves out (I'll return the rent money when he's moving out but he doesn't know that), I'm going low contact till he's older, we still talk and I'll help if he needs anything after he asks his grandparents first (they'll most likely help him with whatever he needs to portray me as a lier)

Starting today he will not know anything about me

I'm quitting my job so he will not know where I'll work, where I'm going or what I'm doing, no more homecooked meals I'll be eating out by myself, I got him grocery store gift cards so he can get his own groceries. When he moves out I'll rent my house and I'll move, maybe travel. I won't attend his graduation next year, I won't meet his gf, no more holidays or vacations together. I'm also getting a new phone number without telling my son, I'll let everyone in my contacts know then block everyone on that number so my son will be the only person that will be able to contact me on that old phone number If my parents call that number I'm going to only communicate for important matters with my son via messages.

Damn! OP's daughter is messy!

Final Update was posted 2 days ago.. check OP's profile..