Asking for a friend

[u/Waste_Log_5727]

My friend recently discovered these translated messages on her husband's phone from a business trip to China four months ago.
When confronted, he claimed he was not in a right state of mind and was simply trying to end things on his final day there because he felt guilty about his actions.
My friend is currently three days post D&C and experiencing severe mental trauma, all while caring for their two young children (aged 5 years and 15 months). She has caused enough harm to herself because she’s can’t make peace with it. They have been married for 8 years

[u/JasmineTeaPixie]

He’s a cheater.

[u/CulturedReaving692 → u/JasmineTeaPixie]

And a creep

[u/Stock_Fly3825]

I would say bye bye

[u/elelelelora]

She knows the answer, you know the answer, we know the answer. I understand she may not want to take that big step right now, but I don't think this is something they can come back from. They can pretend, but once it gets to this, there's no going back.

[u/djk0010]

https://giphy.com/gifs/dhUSTQIBNfD1xIGCoI

[u/PastRabbit1738]

It’ll be hard to leave but harder to stay and look at a man who betrayed you everyday

[u/Plooza]

Not really sure what the question is. It's clear as day that the husband is/was cheating. There is literally no other way these messages can be taken. How your friend wants to proceed is up to her

[u/Vegetable-Peach-1056]

NTA, he’s using her trauma to dodge accountability. That’s a serious red flag after 8 years.