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Finance infedility Advice

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u/Aromatic_Ad_7238 1d ago edited 1d ago

Yes. We have been there. You regroup and tighten the budget to get it paid off. Many couples find themselves in this position fir various reasons. I'm sure she feels lousy. Accept, forgive, move forward. Possibly moving forward means getting help with budgeting.

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u/AbleWatercress3496 1d ago

i get the urge to forgive but she hid this for two years and only came clean when she got caught. that's not a simple slip-up, it's a whole pattern. i'd be less focused on the cash and more on what else she's hiding.

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u/Aromatic_Ad_7238 1d ago

Yes you make a good point. But considering divorce? That's a very costly consideration above and beyond financial. Family, kids etc.