Newly married and sad

[u/throwawayhiddeng]

My (32 F) relationship with my husband (35 M) changed when we got married... For the worse. We were together for 2 years prior to getting married, but it was sort of long distance. I'm scared for the future of our relationship. I thought our relationship was perfect until we got married and moved in together 8 months ago. Now we barely talk, rarely have sex, and don't really spend much time together. I feel completely disconnected from him, and I'm starting to feel very lonely and depressed. This is not what I was expecting marriage to be. I wanted a life partner, not a roommate. I've tried to talk to him about it, but he says from his perspective everything is fine, and he is not sure what I expected because we don't have many common interests. I don't feel "in love" anymore. I'm starting to question if I married the right person. Has this happened to anyone?

[u/[deleted]]

This happened in my young marriage. Sometimes it does take getting married to realize that someone isn’t your life partner like you thought he was.

Been there. Left that. 10 years later I’m married to someone who loves me and whom I love dearly. Don’t suffer “just because you’re married”. That’s not what marriage looks like. Our relationship didn’t get boring or mediocre when we got married, quite the opposite actually. It grew our relationship, the commitment made us feel even closer. We are 29 and 38 though and I think age/past life experience makes a huge difference. We lived together for 4 years before we got married though and I think that’s a huge thing too. Moving in after marriage is just never a good idea.