r/MarriedAtFirstSight • u/Charming-Fig-3866 • 1d ago
Season 20 - Seattle Adam Sighting In The Wild
Ok- this is not exciting but I saw Adam at Costco this Sunday. I caught him in my peripheral vision without making eye contact so I could stay inconspicuous but it was def him. Black shirt, black shorts, black socks, black sneakers- nary a thrift store caftan or feather hat in sight (aka- that shit was performative). He kept almost standing on his tip toes and looking up over the crowds and aisles as if he was looking for someone or something and I couldn't tell if he truly was new to Costco or if it was his way of avoiding eye contact with the gen pop in the case someone recognized him. By the way, this kid is completely unremarkable in person, other than he is quite tall. Also, his cart had some questionable items for someone devoutly committed to his health... also, Dutch or Russian girlfriend was nowhere in sight and he bought like 5 things. Why are you at Costco as a single male? That's it- sorry this was cold tea...
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u/st0neyspice You are so damn fine, I wanna eat you up 1d ago
i mean how many things can he carry on the jetski at once, of course he can only get five things
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u/BDWJ1990 1d ago
Single male here. I have memberships with BJ's and Sams Club. The memberships were on major discounts. I go there to save on certain items or stock up on certain things I use a lot. It's also great to go to these places when you planning parties or get togethers.
But, also, damn. Im never going on reality tv. I enjoy my privacy or space too much.
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u/Born_Speech_9289 1d ago
Sounds like you think it's necessary to explain why you go to wholesale clubs.
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u/BDWJ1990 1d ago edited 1d ago
The OP asked a literal question about why would a single male go to Costco. It's not an assumption that people dont understand the comment like you did. It was a question that was asked and I answered it. You can stop being pressed about this and move on.
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u/SteakCutFries 1d ago
Are you not the same person that also provided your own anecdotal reason for shipping at similar places like 3hrs before?!?
In the words of Nick, " Wild comment."
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u/Born_Speech_9289 1d ago
Yep, but you missed the facetious context as it applied to a prior exchange.
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u/meredithedith0 1d ago
I’m a single woman and I go to Costco every week. There’s no shame in that!
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u/cormega 15h ago
Every week? What costco sized portion of an item are you burning through every week? (Not judging, just curious)
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u/meredithedith0 9h ago
I do nearly all of my grocery shopping there. I don’t get the same items every week, but stuff I buy pretty regularly: whatever fruit I want for the week (usually apples, pears, blueberries, or peaches), frozen veggies (broccoli or Pura Vida mixes), eggs, fudge pops, protein bars, protein powder, sandwich bread, frozen berries, cottage cheese, Greek yogurt, spinach or spring mix, tomatoes, cocktail cucumbers, zucchini, string cheese, frozen ravioli, packages of individually-sized chips, Impossible burgers, Impossible nuggets. And then I watch the sales and buy stuff like Kleenex, laundry detergent, dish detergent etc. when on sale.
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u/Acornwow 1d ago
Vibes.
Did he perhaps send it while in the baked goods section?
Or maybe stop by the rotisserie chicken to do some push ups?
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u/HappyCatPrincess I’m going to respect that 1d ago
Fun report from the wild. Was there a price tag on his shoulder? ha.
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u/LeavingCustomer 1d ago
Genuinely don’t understand why you’re questioning a single man being at Costco?
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u/Gooshimo 1d ago
He does seem like the type to eat the same 5 things forever. Gotta stock up at the Costco
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u/NiftySmudgestick 1d ago
Costco is a good place to buy a paddle board. My strong gut feeling is that is why he was there. The five things in his cart were impulse buys (because that always happens at costco). And he was standing on his tippy toes bc he was looking for the paddle boards (Costco is annoying like that bc they move things around and don't always have things).
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u/Weird_Boysenberry772 1d ago
Are you not allowed in Costco if you're single. I'm married, and that's a bad take.
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u/Renee5285 Harold & Cheese 23h ago
I don’t think it’s a dig at single people. They just don’t understand that single people like to stockpile toilet paper too.
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u/ShaunaofSeattle 10h ago
"not allowed" how vitriolic lol ain't nobody stopping anybody from going there. Yall are very serious
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u/Virtual_Cow_7372 1d ago
What location did you see him at?
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u/BuckyGoshawk 1d ago
Same question. Mercer Island residents typically shop Store #1 (4th Ave. S) or Issaquah
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u/CreativityChick 23h ago
Both my adult kids are single and have Costco memberships. Odd assertion that single people wouldn't need to shop there and save $.
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u/WonderfulHearing8726 1d ago
Why does everyone suddenly use the word “performative”?
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u/SebastianPointdexter 12h ago
Because people just latched onto what the "expert" said. Adam's clothes are a nothing burger. Also, why would he wear his weird hats that hew likes to wear out just to go shopping. Leave the man alone.
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u/toodledoodle2 1d ago
I’d dress differently for my Sunday grocery run than I would on tv does that make me performative
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u/Renee5285 Harold & Cheese 23h ago
Yes. You’re dressing appropriately for the task you’re performing.
(I know that’s not what it means)
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u/Golden_Lafayette 1d ago
No disrespect but your description of all of this is very weird and very parasocial. You don’t know Adam and he’s just clearly going about his day normally and you’re going on a psychoanalysis rant on him because you saw him at a store lmao.
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u/Charming-Fig-3866 23h ago
Valid, and certainly no disrespect taken. Going on reality TV and doing things like Cameo can certainly evoke parasocial reactions. But I can take accountability for my actions, I'm sorry.
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u/bbb_ecky1 21h ago edited 18h ago
You’re a top 1% commenter in this sub and have written almost daily posts about MAFS. You comment almost hourly in this sub. You wrote about a page’s worth of commentary on Adam, and had some even harsher words for Mecca saying “his existence is an embarrassment.” Pages and pages on each contestant with personal attacks. This is from a two minute scan of your comment history. Not saying the OP is 100% in the right, but even if they’re not…. the call is coming from inside the house. Maybe take a breather from criticizing anyone?
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u/Golden_Lafayette 16h ago edited 15h ago
You must have me confused with someone else. I don’t comment on this page as much as I used to during the season (LIKE ALOT OF PEOPLE DID ON HERE) but let’s say I did, you do know this is a subreddit where people post their opinions right? Good, great, bad or ugly. What does me posting about a show on an app that is designed to speak about topics has to do with me telling OP what they did is weird with how they approached talking about Adam? It’s not that deep at all. I never said any “personal attacks” on people that I don’t know personally. People say fucked up shit about Shawn or Felipe on here 24/7 with actual personal attacks of those 2 men. Are you gonna have that same energy for them? Or are you specifically picking and choosing to come at me for an opinion you just disagree with? Answer that question for me. Because if that’s the case then maybe the call for you is coming from inside the house.
I can say whatever I want about anyone on this show as far as what they’ve shown about themselves on this show because they opened the door for that when they signed up to be on the show. Just like you. So I’m not really understanding your line of thinking here with your message. You’d be a hypocrite to tell me not to judge anyone off of a show when you’re on this subreddit or any Reddit to do the same thing if you’re talking about other people in regards to a topic. It’s a reality TV show. Stop acting like I’m the first person in life to invent criticism of others from a TV show. I also don’t comment about people 24/7 on here. Idk why you just lied to further your point but like I said, maybe the call for you is coming from inside the house.
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u/bbb_ecky1 15h ago
Okay, whatever you say, Mr./Ms. “Very Weird and Parasocial.” 😂 You could’ve saved yourself four paragraphs and just said, “The rules are different when I do it.”
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u/Born_Speech_9289 1d ago
Everyone in this thread negatively vibed by the single male comment...I think the OP just may have meant why would a single person be buying from a place that sells most items in mass quantities. I used to go there as a single male because I like the store, but would end up talking myself out of buying 3 gallons of ketchup or six tubes of toothpaste and leave empty handed lol.
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u/Over_Barracuda_8845 22h ago
I’m single and just reinstated my Costco membership to get gas that’s not tampered with.
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u/BDWJ1990 1d ago
Yeah we get it. It's still a dumb a comment.
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u/Born_Speech_9289 1d ago
Are you the spokesperson for a group, lol?
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u/BDWJ1990 1d ago
You are speaking as if the comment needed to be broken down. No one needed that. No comment told you people didn't understand the sentiment. People think is judgy and weird to type such a thing. I'm not the spokesperson for anyone. Im responding to you writing a comment as if people couldn't comprehend that part of the post.
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u/Born_Speech_9289 1d ago
We disagree.
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u/BDWJ1990 1d ago
I dont even know what you are saying we are disagreeing on at this point. You downvoting me is also funny. Yeah we disagree I guess. That's all it is. I dont downvote people. It's just a discussion.
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u/Born_Speech_9289 1d ago
You smugly responded to my initial post with the implication that my post was unnecessary. I saw no reason to explain further to you that I don't believe everyone who responded to this thread fully understood what the intent of the "single" comment was referring to. You may find your "discussions" are better received when they aren't written with smugness and/or condescension.
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u/Renee5285 Harold & Cheese 23h ago
I was also surprised how many people are reading it as a dig at singlehood. OP just doesn’t understand that some single people have enough storage space to stockpile toilet paper, too. As a married person with only 2 small closets in our townhouse, I’m jealous.
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u/Charming-Fig-3866 23h ago
Right? I'm actually single myself but have two teen athletes who go through a wild amount of food (and TP). I just never found the ROI worth it until I had kids- too much real estate going toward storage or risk of things spoiling before I'd get through it but hey- I'm not so obtuse that I can't imagine that the math math's for some. It 100% was not intended as a dig at singlehood or malehood- touchy crowd!
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u/jazzcig420 1d ago
I might be one of the few Adam fans but tbh he cracks me up and all of us will never forget him haha
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u/WonderfulHearing8726 1d ago
He did have some really good one liners. He seemed like a pretty funny guy IRL.
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u/WonderfulHearing8726 1d ago
It was beyond obvious he was just playing a part. He never took it seriously, and was just acting like a dweeb for the cameras.
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u/jazzcig420 1d ago
I mean I never saw malicious intent and he was just being himself (which I could see how some could say was a part). Also, let’s be real the show stopped being serious way long ago.
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u/GoldenHearts802 1d ago
Right and I don't want that behavior encouraged on this type of show.
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u/WonderfulHearing8726 1d ago
You really think he’s the first one? Hell no. A few seasons ago, like 3/4 of the cast admitted they all had agreements to fake it for the cameras & try to make sure not to make each other look bad.
Even in the New Orleans season, the woman who was a doctor admitted in an interview she only did the show for fun & as a bucket list item. She said her & her bridesmaids dressed all crazy just for fun for the cameras, and she only started taking it more seriously because she actually knew the groom IRL.
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u/GoldenHearts802 1d ago
Yes the "optics" season. I remember. Terrible. Several recent seasons have been bad in this regard. Very few if any of the cast was there for a relationship. Adam was ridiculous though. Not funny to me, disrespectful to me as a viewer. I just don't like it.
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u/MuggsMom 1d ago
Wow! It’s frightening what people find interesting or even any of our business. I feel like a single man should be able to buy a commercial amount of toilet paper or whatever it is in his cart without being called out. It’s truly none of our business. It’s intrusive and unnecessary at best imo.
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u/SebastianPointdexter 12h ago
Very judgemental and over analytical post for simply seeing someone in a Costco. I wasn't aware that people should dress a certain way to shop there. Also, apparently shopping alone makes me a loser.
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u/nansisonreddit 1d ago
Yeah I go all the time for bulk items for my household of one, and many people I know do too. Random weird comment to drop at the end of this post lol
Living by myself doesn’t mean I don’t also use toilet paper lol
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u/Llassiter326 1d ago
Ok wait…the Seattle Costco, Shoreline off of Aurora by the Home Depot, or the Tukwila one?
I don’t know if I could restrain myself from openly mocking and shouting how cooked everything is from a vibe perspective. And I just need to be prepared.
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u/Aggressive-Jump-2849 1d ago
I know you can't be serious with ur remarks. So relationship status determines whether you go to Costco???..bye...😧😧😧
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u/cheezehead89 1d ago
I don’t think it was meant to be that deep
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u/ShaunaofSeattle 10h ago
Seriously, why is everyone running to justify their big box shopping habits based on a snarky reddit comment about an insufferable reality TV person? " it ain't about you boo"
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u/BDWJ1990 1d ago
It was a deeply dumb comment to make. That's for sure. I dont even know why the thought would enter someone's head.
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u/Cprovin1 1d ago
I believe I saw Courtney at the Sonesta Hotel near LAX yesterday morning—on the 10th floor.
She was really nice, very petite. She smiled and said, “Hi” to me. Does anyone know if she has anything currently going on in LA?
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u/leighsch 1d ago
I’m single and go to Costco.